I’m a confident not cocky, calm, intelligent and down to earth guy, who loves great conversation and the simple pleasures in life, especially when it comes to walking, photography, cooking or a good boxset. I’m also naturally dominant, know what I want and like to be in control, but I am not controlling, nor am I pushy. Think of me as a gentleman, with a Dominant and kinky undercurrent.

I will always support, cherish and treat you as my equal, nor will I ever belittle or shout at you. However, I will use you for my pleasure (within agreed limits) and put you in your place when I feel it is appropriate.

I’m looking for someone who enjoys a mix of Ds and vanilla, who likes to be challenged and who challenges me, where trust and a mental connection are built organically, which would ideally lead to a friendship or LTR. I also live in the real world and appreciate we all have real life responsibilities and commitments.

For me, everything is about respect, trust, and being safe, sane and consensual (SSC). Additionally, it’s about structure, consistency, fulfilling her need to please, submit and having a deep mental connection with her Dom.

In terms of my Dominant side, I’m strict and demanding but also caring and imaginative, with a particular interest in the psychological side of Ds. For me, I love nothing more than building anticipation, seeing her relinquish control (within the agreed limits), mentally letting go and her body following. However, she always knows that she is in a safe place and will be given lots of aftercare, TLC and cuddles.

My interests are varied and ever evolving. I particularly like impact play, including spanking, floggers, canes, paddles, belts, whips, crops. As well as mental BDSM, dressing to please, restraint, collars, belts, rope, gags, hoods, orgasm control, protocol, service positions, giving oral and outdoor play. I also enjoy rough play and CNC on occasion, although nothing at the extreme end of the scale.

Always happy to have a conversation or meet for a coffee without any expectation or pressure.

BDSM Play Partner150km around UK, Winchester 3 years ago

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