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First off, I am neurodivergent , meaning sometimes I dont get a lot of "unspoken" social cues, so I would need to be told... a lot... I also have a few environmental allergies so I usually have a few things on me like medications and my inhaler I am also engaged but we are open/ poly and he knows I look for others to play with. his drive is lower than mine

I am looking for someone that is able to host in my area or at least nearby my area, and preferably at these times:

weekdays:
9 am to 2 pm , (except for doctors appointments)
week nights:
8 pm to 2 am ( overnights are okay as well)

weekends : can be a little tricky, Im usually pretty busy on weekends but every so often I will have a weekend or two off a month, though Im thinking sundays are probably my least busy days.

Play:
above all I crave these things:
Passion/affection, touch , and penetration .

Someone that is respectful, confident, and playful ,

usually wins me over much more than arrogant, stubborn, and bullying ever will.

( though of course I do enjoy dirty talk )

I also crave more experiences in life and want a few other things only this area can give me.

I wish to experience more in these fields/things :

Primal , ropes, "knives"/claws/wheels

wax, penetrative / stretching toys, pumps,

harnesses, leashes , massage ...

theres probably a few here im forgetting but I hope the general gist comes to mind and other things can be added

heres also a few things im NOT into:

Im NOT into:

// *** ( some markings and sex on period is okay for me but nothing huge)

tasting/ ingesting fluids ( im sensitive to tastes and doesnt help my gag reflex) but I do enjoy giving blow jobs before penetration ,

dirty talk that leads into territories of weight

tickling

"permanent " things like hair cuts, piercings, tattoos etc.

Other things I would also enjoy from this arrangement:

someone who is patient and compassionate,

someone who doesnt let me be lazy too much, but will make me take a break when I need it

someone who can help me with some health issues, or beginning things like exercises, stretches, diets, etc.

someone who can listen to me ramble but also know when to cut me off and hold me and tell me things are going to be okay,

someone who will check in on me on a regular basis even if Im unable to come over,

a few other things about me in general:
I enjoy anime, rom coms, musicals, scifi/ fantasy, comedy, some video games and arts and hope to have more vanilla experiences someday too!

I know this is kinda lengthy but Thank you to those that have made it this far, as for the play list, it doesnt have to be all, I know most people only have a few of these interests or experiences, but at the same time I would like to experience them in general in life, even if I have to find another partner for those others specifically.