Hi, I am seeking something real and realistic. A relationship, preferably LTR, with a dominant woman where we can share all kink and vanilla interests. In person, face to face. Old school. I am a bit old fashioned, very monogamous, still believe in chivalry.
I am notlookingforsomeonetodospecificthingsto me. I am looking for someone who shares similar interests. I am not interested in changing myself
or who I am, and I am not interested in someone changing who they are, or compromising, for me. I am, however, open minded and am open to exploring and growing. But I won't compromise my hard limits and boundaries, just as I would never expect or ask you to compromise yours. if I haven't mentioned a specific interest of yours, feel free to ask. I am open and honest, feel free to ask me anything.
I am a sub. Not a slave. I am very comfortable with who I am. While I am happy to learn, adapt, and grow. I will not change who I am or what I am looking for.
As already mentioned, I am seeking realistic. I have interests outside of kink. I have dogs. I have a serious soft spot for rescues. If you share this interest, that would be fantastic. Living as a gimp in a cage until needed, is entirely unrealistic.
I am not desperate. I will not chase you if you are not interested, or we are not compatible. I'm looking for a mutually beneficial relationship where we both want the same things, reasonably. I will not try to something that was never going to work.
I am more than happy to answer questions, clarify, or even just exchange ideas. Feel free to contact me, and if it wasn't meant to be, then it wasn't meant to be. But at least we'll know.

I am a masculine and muscular sub male with a special interest in chastity. I don't have any interest in feminization or being a sissy. Not judging others, just being honest. If that is what you seek, I wouldn't be a good match for you. I seek someone who enjoys the control chastity gives as them much as I enjoy being controlled.
I am emotionally and physically strong. I am not submissive because I am weak, I choose submission because I have been drawn to dominant women since as long as I can remember. I am not a beta anything. I am not a sub because I am weak. I choose submission. I do not choose the submissive role with just anyone. I choose submission when I am with a dominant woman who inspires my submission. One who I am comfortable enough with to offer my submission to. Those who know me, but not this side of me would be shocked that I am submissive. So that leads to the next submissive cliche. I am not worthless, useless or have a weak character. Why anyone would want someone who is worthless is beyond me. I'm not a worthless sub, I seek to be a valued sub. My words may say this, but my actions will prove it.
I pursue a healthy lifestyle, am active, am at the gym at least 3 days a week. No
, no smoke at all, rarely drink. I make an effort to keep healthy, but am not fanatical at all.
I am intelligent, creative, witty, and have a great sense of humor.
I am very functional and very sexual, my interest in chastity is control. I do not use chastity to mask any physical issues. I enjoy pleasing my partner and I enjoy long term arousal. And a woman who truly enjoys that control is incredibly exciting.
And being someone who believes in actions over words, chastity is proof that I am 9nly interested in one woman when you have been given my keys. I always hated the infidelity questions if I worked late, of was at the gym longer that normal. Steel chastity, pa piercing, says devoted to one as strongly and confidently as possible.
I am experienced in short term denial as well as long term denial and am ready for whatever you decide or desire. I do really enjoy a sexually selfish dominant woman. The control is very addictive, especially if she enjoys it as much as I do. I feed off of the energy of the one I'm with. If you feel guilty, I feel guilty. If you are excited, I am excited. I want you to be comfortable with your control and enjoy it. So that you find as much fulfillment as I do.

I have several stainless steel devices and am secured with a pa piercing. You hold complete control when you hold the key. And as this is completely consensual, you are free to enjoy and explore your control. And enjoy it. My pleasure is derived from your pleasure. The more you enjoy things, the more I do.
I am a moderate masochist. I have many years of experience in bdsm, and I love bondage and (moderate, but eager to explore) ***. Again, it's the control. But chastity a way to feel bondage and control day and night. Without being a burden on you. Everyday, all day control. It is fun when I forget about it, but am reminded by the unforgiving steel. All day long, at different times, I am reminded of my keyholder. I love that snap back to reality that the control is very real.
With masochism, like chastity, I feed off the energy of the one I'm with. The more you enjoy it, the more I do, and the more my tolerance goes up.
I want to be well rounded. If you feel light and sensual, if you feel hard and heavy, light tease, intense tease, or are not in the mood. My wish is to be available for whatever you need. I seek to improve your life, not complicate it.

I am in Southern California, I have houses in Palm Springs and Big Bear Lake. I can escape the heat and the cold as needed. While I love splitting my time between the desert and the mountains, and would love even more to find someone to share all this with. I would be open to relocation to the right location. Hit me up if you want to know more.

BDSM Play Partner30 to 55 years ● 500km around USA Palm Springs

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