It's been a fair bit of time since I've last written an add, though I think it's about time I put out my feelers and see what/who I can find.

A Bit About Me.

My Day To Day Side


I have been active as a dom for more or less all of my adult life, both online and offline and have had many long lasting dynamics over this time as well as many more short term arrangements. Some have been simple scratching of one another's itches, filling a desire for a time before parting whilst others have been much more intimate, with me recently parting with someone on sad but mutual terms. I am a very geeky person, I love to share this nerdiness with those I can, I am an avid gamer, I love to read (and have a more recent infatuation with audiobooks), I like to write, I have a passion for dnd (sadly a forever dm, though given I like to write I do enjoy it quite a bit).
You don't not need to get to know the day to day side of me if you do not wish, I know some simply prefer to focus on the dynamic and that is fine, just be sure to make this intention clear early on.

The Dom I Am


I am an exceedingly patient person, I always have been and try my best to be this way. That being said, I'm not the sort of person to accept poor excuses and if someone shows a lack of effort, I will move on and part ways. I see a dom/sub ect. style of dynamic being made from mutual respect, regardless of if you wish to be treated as an object and dejected to constant I will still hold you're best interests at heart and hold you back from making choices I believe you would regret later. I respect peoples boundaries greatly, though will probe to find the limits of those boundaries quite early on, I like to use the traffic light safe word system, it's simple, easy to remember and clear in it's intent... assuming the other party is at least somewhat familiar with traveling by car. I will never be disappointed by something we are engaging in being stopped due to this so never push yourself beyond your comfort zone.
I like to use a mixture of live sessions and set tasks with set living rules for those who serve me, though I can adjust this to fit a potential applicant, at the end of this is a series of questions, answer them honestly instead of just in a way that pushes your buttons.
I will never share anything sent to me without your consent. Even then, I will verify with you about it. Trust is important to me and you feeling safe is important. You will be revealing the self you hide from the world to me and make yourself
, even if that self likes to be talked to like a piece of dirt under my shoe you should be able to feel safe still whilst you explore your desires.


A Bit About You


I expect you to be honest, more then anything else I have always found this to be the single most important building block to any dynamic. Breaking a rule may result in an unpleasant punishment but it does mean you earn my trust.
You are not expected to be interested in everything I list, just be honest with what interests you and we can work around that.
Your level of experience doesn't matter, you can be brand new and don't nothing more then watch some porn of scenarios and want guidance or you could of been active for the last 20 years, everyone is different and it just changes the starting point simply.
If you are trans or other, please specify when it comes to the questions at what stage you are are, it can effect the potential tasks I can set after all.
Do not worry about your age (as long as you are 20+), many of my best subs have had up to 20 years on me, you would have just as much chance of being taken on as anyone else. I have been told people have been unsure about applying in the past due to this type of age difference, only to find we get along extremely well.
I expect you to know some of your boundaries out of the gate and to be up front about them. It's important to know what is too much, even if that too much is just the simple limits of not doing anything illegal ect.
You should answer the questions at the end of this add to the best of your ability, the more information I have to work with the more smoothly things can begin, as well as it's just handy to have a solid reference point as I get to know you.
You will not be expected to fit all potential criteria listed in this add, there is a good chance you will only hit on 1 or 2 points I mention and that is perfectly fine, every dynamic is different and I am happy to work within my subs boundaries/interests. For instance, you may love to try live sessions but find it hard to follow tasks or rules when your dom is not around, be honest about this at the start or as it becomes apparent so we can work around this.
I will expect frequent communication from you, even if its just a few messages a day to keep in touch, it helps me to more quickly get a grasp on your day to day affairs and how I can best work around them as well as just generally helps cement our dynamic.
You have a life, likely family, a job, a social life, I wont be taking any of this away with this dynamic, it's important that this dynamic adds to your life, that it doesn't interrupt it.
If you want something to become more serious, I would only consider it if you where at least within the uk, this is simply for practicalities sake, if I was to get that close to someone, I'd want to be able to wrap my arms around them.
Be sure to mention cookies somewhere in your response, so I know you've read everything.

From day one, this will be your new way of life. No hesitation. No
second-guessing. You step in, you surrender, and you serve.
You crave it, don’t you? The intoxicating thrill of submission. The quiet rush
of obedience when you give in completely—mind, body, and wealth—to a man who
knows exactly how to handle you.
You need structure. Rules. Boundaries. Discipline. Control. You crave a firm,
commanding hand that doesn’t just guide but takes. One that rewards your
devotion and punishes your missteps. You long to be used, worshiped, and owned
by a man who will strip away your hesitation, shape your desires, and mold you
into something even more beautiful—something utterly mine.
I am that man.
I lead. I take. I decide. You follow. You obey. You provide. This is not a
game. This is your new life. A full-time, no-limits, all-consuming reality
where your role is crystal clear:
💰 You finance the life I design for you—because your purpose is to serve, and
service comes at a price.
💋 You devote yourself to my pleasure, my rules, my standards. Your needs?
They exist only as I permit.
🥀 You let go of control because you know that true freedom comes from
surrendering to a man who can handle everything.
This is for the right woman—one who understands what true submission means.
You should be feminine, affectionate, soft, and completely open to stepping
into your place at my feet. You don’t just desire this—you need it.
In return? You will have me.
My guidance. My discipline. My attention. My control. I will own you. Shape
you. Worship you. Ruin you. You will be treasured, trained, and claimed in ways
you’ve never experienced before.
This is not a fleeting fantasy. This is your new reality—if you’re brave
enough to take the first step.
You’re about to step into a world of power, surrender, and ultimate devotion—a
world where you, the submissive sugar mama, provide, adore, and obey under the
guidance of a strong, dominant man. This isn’t just a financial arrangement;
it’s a full-time lifestyle of structure, discipline, and purpose.
What is a Submissive Sugar Mama?
A submissive sugar mama is a woman who thrives on giving, pleasing, and
surrendering control, not just emotionally and physically but financially. She
finds deep satisfaction in providing for a powerful, dominant man who takes the
lead in every aspect of the relationship. In return, she receives structure,
ownership, guidance, and the ultimate pleasure of being molded and claimed.
This is not just about —it’s about submission, trust, and knowing your
place.
The Pillars of This Dynamic
🔥 Obedience & Surrender – From day one, you will belong to a man who commands
your time, your body, your devotion, and your resources. He leads, you follow.
He takes, you provide. You are expected to be eager, obedient, and willing to
embrace his decisions without hesitation.
💰 Financial Devotion & Tribute – Being a sugar mama in this dynamic means you
support the life he designs—because you crave ownership, structure, and a
purpose in serving him. You provide without question, knowing that your
submission is rewarded with his control, discipline, and attention.
🖤 Discipline & Training – A true submissive thrives under rules and
structure. Your Dom will train you to be his perfect submissive sugar mama,
ensuring you are always grateful, eager, and in your place. This may include
rituals, expectations, and rein
ment to mold you into your best submissive
self.
🥀 Pleasure Through Control – The deeper you submit, the more pleasure you
experience. Your pleasure comes from knowing you are fulfilling his desires,
obeying his commands, and proving your worth through service. Whether it’s
through acts of generosity, sensual worship, or complete obedience—your joy is
in pleasing him, completely.
Your New Role & Responsibilities
✅ Providing for your Dom – Tribute, gifts, and financial devotion are
expected. This is a core part of your submission.
✅ Total Obedience – He decides. You comply. No questioning, no hesitation—just
eager submission.
✅ Physical & Emotional Availability – Your body, your mind, and your energy
belong to him. You are expected to be devoted, affectionate, and ready to
serve.
✅ Respecting Structure – Rules and discipline are in place for a reason. You
will be trained and corrected as needed.
✅ Gratitude & Worship – You will adore him, cherish him, and prove your
devotion daily.
What You Get in Return
🖤 His Presence & Leadership – A man who knows what to do with you—who
commands respect and devotion with every move.
🔥 The Ultimate Ownership Experience – You will be kept, molded, and trained
into your best submissive self.
💋 Discipline & Structure – A strong, firm hand that keeps you in your place
and ensures you never have to make another decision again.
💰 The Satisfaction of Providing – True fulfillment comes from giving to the
man who owns you.
This Is Not for Everyone
This is a real, full-time kink dynamic—not a casual arrangement. If you are:
❌ Unwilling to let go of control
❌ Resistant to structure and discipline
❌ Hesitant about financial devotion
❌ Unsure of your place as a submissive sugar mama
Then this is not for you.
But…
If you feel a pull deep inside you, a hunger to be owned, trained, and molded…
If the thought of surrendering your power, your wealth, and your body excites
you in ways you can’t explain…
Then it’s time to take your place. Obey, adore, provide.
🔻 Serious inquiries only. Approach with respect, readiness, and a willingness
to submit.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 75 years ● 5km around USA Arlington

I’ve been scouring this site to see people’s views and perceptions of punishments and rewards. And of course, it’s a very subjective matter as there’s limits, preferences, and people’s opinions as well.
So let’s talk about what I consider punishments to be first:
Since I tend to like more extreme things, and have a higher tolerance, I’m going to need something that is more severe- especially since I have bratty tendencies, I’m looking to be corrected. And a punishment can be a NUMBER of things. Ex: infliction, control/restriction of outter communication (eg. family, friends); sensory deprivation, being tied up in a stress position (minutes, hours, days), , water boarding. Quite frankly I could go on. I want that psyche involvement. Make me so scared of you that I don’t want to act out because I know the punishment will be severe. I feel like with a M/s dynamic or most BDSM dynamics, the person who is not in a position of power should feel a sense of toward to person in power as a result of respect being integrated into the person who is not in power within the dynamic.

Now for rewards! Yay!:
Rewards are generally subjective to the sub/slave/pet/etc. personally, I love being rewarded with praise, cuddles and direct attention, taking care of any bruises or cuts you inflicted on me, princess treatment, less time in a stress position, allowing me to see my friends or go do something special, etc.
rewards shouldn’t be over given - as this sets the scene for greed and a sense of being spoiled, then the brattiness will never be corrected. But rewards are necessary because I need to know when I’m doing good, and you approve of those certain actions or you’re pleased with how I am.

But i definitely want to hear other peoples opinions, and what type of rewards/punishments you give or receive.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 80 years ● 500km around Canada Calgary

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