Why give her a Yoni Massage?

Yoni massage or yonic massage, derived from the word Yoni, a representation of the vulva, which comes from the Shakti word that means sacred place. The Yoni massage is a type of Tantric full-body massage. It primarily focuses on the breasts, thighs, and stomach and then focuses on the labia, perineum, clitoris, G-spot, cervix or C-spot, A-spot, which is behind the G-spot, and other erogenous zones. When done right, this is a healing, the***utic massage.


Women's bodies are so used to being understimulated, overstimulated, disregarded, shamed, and penetrated too quickly.

You get to give her the gift of bringing conscious intimacy to this beautiful part of her body and give her the opportunity to fully relax and receive intimate touch without needing to worry about judgment, performing, giving someone an orgasm, having an orgasm, or faking an orgasm...the gift of pussy massage is allowing her body to feel safe to be held, seen, surrendered, and to feel whatever she feels and to have whatever experience she needs to have.

Regular pussy massage can:

  • Help her get out of a performative mode in sex
  • Help her get out of her head and become relaxed and present with her sensations
  • (necessary for most women to have an orgasm)
  • Help to heal "I'm taking too long" syndrome
  • Open her up to new/unexplored sensations
  • Increase intimacy between partners
  • Help to release expectations of her body
  • Help to release any need for external validation
  • Help to heal a habit of faking orgasms
  • Release shame around the appearance of her vulva
  • Increase *** flow and circulation (important for natural wetness)
  • Increase sensitivity
  • Relax tight pelvic floor muscles, release tension and can help alleviate ***
  • Intensify orgasm
  • Reduce stress

    Sharing the purpose and/or benefits of Yoni pussy massage with your partner can help you both to ground into why you'd like to have this experience together. Kindly remind her that this massage does not require her body to have any response. She is not expected to appear aroused, to be wet, or to have an orgasm. It is for pure relaxation for her body to fully surrender and receive and feel whatever she needs to feel. Invite her to be present with her body and sensations and to communicate if she wants any changes to the pressure, sd, or touch type. Your role is to honor her body's every request without question or judgment. Lovingly inform her that you will ask permission before penetrating her with your finger(s) and that she is free to say no. Penetration is not a necessary part of this message.

    Set your intentions for the massage and the energy you're bringing with you. (ex. Total mental and physical relaxation; a chance to experience new kinds of sensual touch and sensations with no-pressure-to-perform [it is not about her having an orgasm]; creating a space for her to feel safe and surrendered in your loving hands, etc.)

    Not many women have had a Yoni massage. I have a massage table. I have four sensual messages:

    The Yoni massage which is focused on the front and builds up to the pussy massage. It is great for healing and making your pussy feel wanted and appreciated and even healing past sexual trauma. Also great, if you have issues reaching an orgasm, the Yoni can help; if you can't have multiple orgasms, the Yoni can help with that too.

    The Tantric massage starts with the back and a bigger total massage and ends with a shorter version of the Yoni, but I use a vibrator for g-spot orgasms. This has a lot of edging before I give the multiple orgasms, and if you feel comfortable, you can squirt. I have special absorbent flat pads.

    Chinese cupping massage I use vacuum cups on the back, and it leaves two rows of bruises from
    being pulled into the cups. I used to do fire cupping but my ex got the fire cups in our divorce. I now use vacuum cups which are more accurate and consistent. I also have cups for making nipples stand proud and a pussy pump cup that will fatten up your pussy, and swells with more liquid, and this makes your pussy more sensitive for sex toy play.

    The Velvet Wand massage, which is an electric device invented 100+ years ago, this tool and its attachments are fun, but a body mode where my hands become electric or your body becomes electrified. There are many metal tools in the Velvet Wand kit for teasing your tits and pussy with electricity, it sounds ***ful, but the power is fully adjustable and is incredibly erotic.

    These are all sensual and relaxing, but the Yoni can heal some sex trauma issues. I'm experienced with couples classes but not certified; there is no Yoni certification in the USA. I have done all of these many times. The Yoni is my favorite. But you can pick whichever you want.

    Would you like to meet first in a public place or better a BDSM munch with other kinky people. Where in Atlanta do you live? I do not travel. Just a zip code is fine, then I can suggest a local munch or a good place to meet. I will travel to munches and a first meet.

    Tags: #Yoni, #Tantric, #Tantric massage, #Sting's Massage, #Yoni #Pussy Massage

BDSM Play Partner21 to 65 years ● 300km around USA Atlanta

Who I am: I’m a trans woman who has strange quirks. I am not sexually attracted to anyone, yet I enjoy sex. Specifically, I enjoy it when people use me to satisfy their own desires, and actively dislike it when people worry about my sexual experience. You could say I enjoy it specifically where I’m someone’s slave whose job it is to satisfy sexual desires. I also find that and excitement are basically the same thing in my mind, so if I act scared I might actually be excited for what you have planned.

What I’m looking for: I’m looking for someone who can be rough one moment, and gentle the next. Specifically, I want someone who
s me out of my comfort zone and treats me like I’m nothing more than a toy, yet afterwards is able to cuddle and enjoy some aftercare. Having a safeword would be good, and if I don’t use it, assume that you can continue or even get rougher if you want. Treat me however you want really.

Kinks and interests: I have a variety of things that turn me on, as well as things I’m eager to try.
TPE: I love it when I have little to no control over a situation, leaving me both scared and incredibly excited.
Bondage: While I have no experience with this, I feel being d to be unable to move or cover myself would expound my feelings of and excitement.
Chastity: My sexual experience is none of your concern, maybe to a point where you actively prevent me from gratifying myself.
Sounding: Treating the equipment I was born with as another hole gives me a strange form of gender euphoria, as well as something that I simply enjoy.
Free Use: Part of me being your toy is that you can use me wherever you want, whenever you want. I may have some boundaries on this, but we’ll discuss that at a later time.
Exhibitionism: The of getting caught in a public area or out in the open generally increases my excitement exponentially.
: This is something I’d like to experiment with. I’m not used to being humiliated, but would like to see how I react to it in a sexual setting.
Pet-Play: Another thing I have little to no experience with. All I know is I enjoy having my hair played with, or really any contact with my head, and want to try out the whole pet/master dynamic.
Deep-Throating: The feeling of choking on a rod is just exquisite.
Just about anything else that isn’t involved with my limits: I’m still new to the BDSM scene, and am wanting to further my understanding of myself!

Limits: These are things that turn me off or straight up gross me out.
Mouth being in another mouth: Whether it be kissing or spitting into my mouth, I have never enjoyed having someone else’s saliva in my mouth, and just find it unsanitary. And yes, this is coming from someone who likes genitals in her mouth.
Anything that belongs in the toilet: I do not find any human waste to be even slightly enjoyable.
Extreme : If I end up bleeding a lot, it’s gone too far. A small amount of is ok, but anymore or any other severe means it has gone way too far.
Poor Hygiene: I want to
on a rod, not your scent.

Extra information: In case you couldn’t tell by my writing mannerisms, I have been diagnosed with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). Hopefully it won’t change how you view me, but I felt an explanation was needed for why I wrote what I wrote in the way I wrote it. Also, I take an assortment of medicine every day to fight off depression, meaning I’m not too keen on *** or alcohol. I’m okay with enjoying it occasionally, just don’t want it to react negatively with my medicine. Finally, I am demiromantic, meaning I develop romantic attraction only after spending a significant amount of time around someone. If we end up seeing each other a lot, there is a chance I might become romantically interested in you.

Final Statement: I'm still new to this, and may be slow with a reply, whether it be to nerves or life stuff. Also, I tend to give responses similar to the effort of messages I receive, just in case you're curious as to why I reply with a short message.

PS: I should mention that I may not always be free, given where I am in life. While what I want sexually is nothing short of complete domination, this does come into conflict with the fact that I like having the freedom to do non-sexual things when I want.

BDSM Play Partner21 to 38 years ● 100km around USA Waxhaw

18 year old trans male (FTM) (pre-op atm however i do want top surgery) from australia looking for someone who is into the idea of having a stay at home adult baby to care for and look after. This would be completely platonic for me as i am aro-ace but i am ok bit nsfw elements and am very open-minded, i would be ok with sexual things happening eventually but only IRL and not over messages. this would however all be irl not rp or erp i am not interested in any of that. i want this to be a lifestyle for me.

i am looking for someone who loves the idea of forcing me back into diapers and s me to "be a baby". this would be done by mittens that lock around the wrists so i cant pick up things properly, a lockable diaper cover so i need to rely on you for everything, boots that have spikes on the bottom so that i cant walk and have to crawl everywhere, instead of having a "normal" bedroom i would have a nursery with everything a baby would have like a crib, changing table, rocking chair etc, have rules that i have to follow that a baby would have, be d to sleep in a crib, watch cartoons, play with baby toys, things like that.

i love the idea of having no control just like a baby and having to be completely reliant on someone else for everything, i want to lose all control over everything including my bladder and bowels the thought of having to rely on you for everything and have to wait for you to be ready like you decide that my diaper isnt wet enough to change or you strap me into an adult baby bouncer that i cant get out of and i just have to bounce there waiting for you ly.

id prefer someone who is possessive and/or protective, strict but doting and would love to spoil me at any given time, will treat me just like a baby no matter what and is ok with the idea of having me as a 24/7 stay at home little. if this sounds interesting or something you would like please send me a friend request on discord to littlebby. i am very open minded so feel free to ask any questions or anything like that, or if you like something that isnt here. My only limits are striclty sexual stuff, i dont want this to be about sex i want to be
d to be a baby, ***, id be ok with spankings if it was a last resort, choking, feminisation, misgendering, mean yelling and hard degrading. If you enjoy something that i havent listed and isnt in my limits tell me about it id probably be willing to give it a go.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 55 years Australia Colac

18 year old trans male (FTM) (pre-op atm however i do want top surgery) from australia looking for someone who is into the idea of having a stay at home adult baby to care for and look after. This would be completely platonic for me as i am aro-ace but i am ok bit nsfw elements and am very open-minded, i would be ok with sexual things happening eventually but only IRL and not over messages. this would however all be irl not rp or erp i am not interested in any of that. i want this to be a lifestyle for me.

i am looking for someone who loves the idea of forcing me back into diapers and s me to "be a baby". this would be done by mittens that lock around the wrists so i cant pick up things properly, a lockable diaper cover so i need to rely on you for everything, boots that have spikes on the bottom so that i cant walk and have to crawl everywhere, instead of having a "normal" bedroom i would have a nursery with everything a baby would have like a crib, changing table, rocking chair etc, have rules that i have to follow that a baby would have, be d to sleep in a crib, watch cartoons, play with baby toys, things like that.

i love the idea of having no control just like a baby and having to be completely reliant on someone else for everything, i want to lose all control over everything including my bladder and bowels the thought of having to rely on you for everything and have to wait for you to be ready like you decide that my diaper isnt wet enough to change or you strap me into an adult baby bouncer that i cant get out of and i just have to bounce there waiting for you ly.

id prefer someone who is possessive and/or protective, strict but doting and would love to spoil me at any given time, will treat me just like a baby no matter what and is ok with the idea of having me as a 24/7 stay at home little. if this sounds interesting or something you would like please send me a friend request on discord to littlebby. i am very open minded so feel free to ask any questions or anything like that, or if you like something that isnt here. My only limits are striclty sexual stuff, i dont want this to be about sex i want to be
d to be a baby, ***, id be ok with spankings if it was a last resort, choking, feminisation, misgendering, mean yelling and hard degrading. If you enjoy something that i havent listed and isnt in my limits tell me about it id probably be willing to give it a go.

BDSM Play Partner18 to 55 years Australia Colac

Hi, I am seeking something real and realistic. A relationship, preferably LTR, with a dominant woman where we can share all kink and vanilla interests. In person, face to face. Old school. I am a bit old fashioned, very monogamous, still believe in chivalry.
I am notlookingforsomeonetodospecificthingsto me. I am looking for someone who shares similar interests. I am not interested in changing myself
or who I am, and I am not interested in someone changing who they are, or compromising, for me. I am, however, open minded and am open to exploring and growing. But I won't compromise my hard limits and boundaries, just as I would never expect or ask you to compromise yours. if I haven't mentioned a specific interest of yours, feel free to ask. I am open and honest, feel free to ask me anything.
I am a sub. Not a slave. I am very comfortable with who I am. While I am happy to learn, adapt, and grow. I will not change who I am or what I am looking for.
As already mentioned, I am seeking realistic. I have interests outside of kink. I have dogs. I have a serious soft spot for rescues. If you share this interest, that would be fantastic. Living as a gimp in a cage until needed, is entirely unrealistic.
I am not desperate. I will not chase you if you are not interested, or we are not compatible. I'm looking for a mutually beneficial relationship where we both want the same things, reasonably. I will not try to something that was never going to work.
I am more than happy to answer questions, clarify, or even just exchange ideas. Feel free to contact me, and if it wasn't meant to be, then it wasn't meant to be. But at least we'll know.

I am a masculine and muscular sub male with a special interest in chastity. I don't have any interest in feminization or being a sissy. Not judging others, just being honest. If that is what you seek, I wouldn't be a good match for you. I seek someone who enjoys the control chastity gives as them much as I enjoy being controlled.
I am emotionally and physically strong. I am not submissive because I am weak, I choose submission because I have been drawn to dominant women since as long as I can remember. I am not a beta anything. I am not a sub because I am weak. I choose submission. I do not choose the submissive role with just anyone. I choose submission when I am with a dominant woman who inspires my submission. One who I am comfortable enough with to offer my submission to. Those who know me, but not this side of me would be shocked that I am submissive. So that leads to the next submissive cliche. I am not worthless, useless or have a weak character. Why anyone would want someone who is worthless is beyond me. I'm not a worthless sub, I seek to be a valued sub. My words may say this, but my actions will prove it.
I pursue a healthy lifestyle, am active, am at the gym at least 3 days a week. No
, no smoke at all, rarely drink. I make an effort to keep healthy, but am not fanatical at all.
I am intelligent, creative, witty, and have a great sense of humor.
I am very functional and very sexual, my interest in chastity is control. I do not use chastity to mask any physical issues. I enjoy pleasing my partner and I enjoy long term arousal. And a woman who truly enjoys that control is incredibly exciting.
And being someone who believes in actions over words, chastity is proof that I am 9nly interested in one woman when you have been given my keys. I always hated the infidelity questions if I worked late, of was at the gym longer that normal. Steel chastity, pa piercing, says devoted to one as strongly and confidently as possible.
I am experienced in short term denial as well as long term denial and am ready for whatever you decide or desire. I do really enjoy a sexually selfish dominant woman. The control is very addictive, especially if she enjoys it as much as I do. I feed off of the energy of the one I'm with. If you feel guilty, I feel guilty. If you are excited, I am excited. I want you to be comfortable with your control and enjoy it. So that you find as much fulfillment as I do.

I have several stainless steel devices and am secured with a pa piercing. You hold complete control when you hold the key. And as this is completely consensual, you are free to enjoy and explore your control. And enjoy it. My pleasure is derived from your pleasure. The more you enjoy things, the more I do.
I am a moderate masochist. I have many years of experience in bdsm, and I love bondage and (moderate, but eager to explore) ***. Again, it's the control. But chastity a way to feel bondage and control day and night. Without being a burden on you. Everyday, all day control. It is fun when I forget about it, but am reminded by the unforgiving steel. All day long, at different times, I am reminded of my keyholder. I love that snap back to reality that the control is very real.
With masochism, like chastity, I feed off the energy of the one I'm with. The more you enjoy it, the more I do, and the more my tolerance goes up.
I want to be well rounded. If you feel light and sensual, if you feel hard and heavy, light tease, intense tease, or are not in the mood. My wish is to be available for whatever you need. I seek to improve your life, not complicate it.

I am in Southern California, I have houses in Palm Springs and Big Bear Lake. I can escape the heat and the cold as needed. While I love splitting my time between the desert and the mountains, and would love even more to find someone to share all this with. I would be open to relocation to the right location. Hit me up if you want to know more.

BDSM Play Partner30 to 55 years ● 500km around USA Palm Springs

Curious to both queens and kings thoughts 💭 on the subject

Like how it first came to topic .
Who brought it up ?

Mainstream propaganda projects bbc is superior white guys are just weak ?

For me the idea of watching or allowing my queen explore with others is hot !! Even if the guy is bigger etc 🤷‍♂️ I’m comfortable enough in my own skin not to feel inadequate!!!


For a while now this is something I would like to explore with my long term friends with benefits ( no idea I’m on here btw never mind cuckolding) )

I don’t know how to bring the subject up. Or how she would react 😅


The reason for the question and hopefully great advice and understanding of my inexperience in the subject. ( go easy on me please lol I haven’t intentionally Ment to come across as rude etc but won’t hide from my inexperience on how to approach the subject.


Like I have tried to say during my message above 👆

Main stream influence projecting just bbc as the dominant in the lifestyle white woman black men

Rarely in the reverse dynamic

Find it quite discriminating and harmful to younger white men
Especially Tbe Twitter scenes BNWO

(btw all entitled to there own preference. Just personally seeing slot of white gate and mainstream or social media administration etc not act or keeping things clean . I. E away from racism!

As a curious newbie to exploring such things BNWO has been a massive game changer for me in regards to cuckolding . I’m all for preference. Playing roles to fulfil each other’s goals etc

So I guess amongst the many questions I have asked or trying to ask what is your opinion .


Please no hate . I purely understand I may have came across as ignorant or even confusing.😅😂

First time trying to write it as I see it . Apologies lol

BDSM Play Partner18 to 77 years ● 335km around UK East Lothian

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