Meeting is on hold until they have a vaccine for Covid-19, although I am willing to msg and chat on the phone until then.

I have 36 years of experience, almost 15 of those (so far) in a 24/7 TPE marriage.

I am not now and never have been a Pro. Those who use pros have the wrong skill set to serve me.

We are now looking for houseboy or maid. I am uninterested in forcing crossdressing, though am fine with and enjoy you crossdressing and feminizing yourself. I am open to once a week to bimonthly. If you fit in well, we could discuss more. There is the possibility of light play- mostly CBT and/or spanking, scratching and flogging. We can discuss other forms of play. What I will NOT do with you is anal penetration strap-on, or bring you to orgasm. I will not watch you bring yourself to orgasm.

I am am realizing I am in the mood for a masochist. If I find one who fits my desires I may be up for dinner (including my sub hub. NOTHING is done behind his back) once Covid-19 is quiet! LOCAL ONLY! NO EXCEPTIONS! Local means within an hour of Long Beach CA. I am uninterested in travelers. Photos will be taken of all play times. You may wear a mask and cover any identifying marks, scars or tattoos.

While I am willing to exchange mails with people and be friends, you won't get me to slide into cyber domination of you. I live with the real thing. What would I get out of online?

Now that I am married, I am sexually monogamous. My husband, Beach's toyboy is my collared sub; providing for all my sexual needs and most of my BDSM needs.

Intelligent, creative and a touch sadistic. I first started showing dominant sexual behavior at 17, when I talked a boyfriend into cross dressing. I only realized that the things I did (bondage, hair pulling, biting, tease and deny, spanking, manipulation, queening, cross dressing and CBT) were part of a "lifestyle." in 2000.

I'm a strong believer in SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual) play, but also respect RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) if the people are truly aware of the risks involved. We used to be active in the So Cal scene and went to munches, dungeons and events. We haven't been to a munch in five years and we are out of touch with the local scene.

Physically, I'm 5'6", a SSBBW (a large woman), with light brown long straight hair and hazel eyes. I was born in late March- typical Aries, and have a maternal streak, as well as being sadistic. I love whispering sweet nothings in my subs ear while I hurt them, or cuddling and soothing them after a long session. The maternal streak also means I feel very protective of my subs, and protective of subs in general.

My favorite forms of play:
-CBT I am all about enjoying a penis in my own, special way!
-/Sadism/masochism - I'm a bit of a sadist and loooove the screams a sub makes when taking consensual for me.
-clothespins -I seem to have a slight fetish on that front..
-flogging/whipping/caning
-spanking/paddling
-tease and deny
-being pampered by my sub - including washing my hair, waiting on me, opening and holding doors, making me tea, cooking, cleaning, laundry and such.
-photographing my sub at "play"

MY hard limits:
-illegal /alcohol by either party in session - I want all of my and my sub's senses functioning normally. I don't want something masking a problem.
-gags - I have allergies, and am made uncomfortable by the thought of restricted breathing
-bathroom functions - just flat out ewww.
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- small amounts like from a play piercing is ok, but in any larger quantity, it belongs INSIDE the body.
-anything that might cause a medical emergency- such as asphyxiaphilia or edge play. I have no desire to try explaining how something ended up there to a doctor or paramedic.
-illegal acts.

My secondary interests are hair worship (stroke my hair correctly, I'm a happy Woman), having errands run & chores done, having custom toys made, chastity, watching cross dressing, sensation play, sensory deprivation and more. I also have a visual media fetish and enjoy photographing BDSM play and California landscapes

Vanilla likes: reading, collecting signed first edition books, Sims3, Spore, ocean stuff, movies, chatting, theater, museums, good conversations, dining out, crochet, friends, aquariums, cats

BDSM Play Partner28 to 75 years ● 25km around USA, Long Beach one year ago

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