Ok so here goes…, I am 46 and searching for my soulmate.

I like to wear the trousers and control things generally, I like the kind of D/s slave setup but I do not want to be a mistress that just plays with you and fulfills all your desires, i have desires too,

I want to be surprised sometimes and treated like a goddess a princess. Loyalty and honesty are extremely important to me.

I want a man who knows he’s a man, a man who loves and appreciates women and intimacy and love and kink, a man who appreciates women in lace and in fetish clothing or even in comfy clothes, I am NOT into sissies or Crossdressers and I’m not interested in tying men up and doing them with strap ons, or keeping them in chastity. I want a man who tries to please me and gets joy from doing so.

So what am I interested in? A 24/7 TPE relationship where I actually come first, not a situation where it is a guise to only get your secret kinks.

I am a natural leader and control freak, I love men looking like men and acting like men but under my authority, I am kinky but I also want love, deep conversation and to build something so special. I like to take care of and to be taken care of, I suppose my ideal relationship would be what would look like a normal relationship from the outside but i have D/s control, I love the idea of moulding a man to be everything I desire, choosing his clothes, hairstyle and free time.
I love the idea of creating asthetics and atmosphere to explore dynamics on all levels. I want to be able to experiment with my submissive switch side but whilst knowing I can return to my natural tendency of dominance.

I am looking for someone who is more dominant in life but can be submissive to me in a non pathetic way, honest, loyal, fun and intelligent, emotional, empathic and sentimental, has a sense of humour, someone who is patient and kind and calm but can be a little cheeky or play a little bit hard to get or even be a bit dominant sometimes and not just be weak.Yes I guess I’m looking for a submissive Dominant, where the submission and dominance have to be in the right places. I love to chase, i love tease and build up especially mentally.

I have had experiences with men who are liars or destructive and I do not want that in my life, I need someone who values trust and honesty, who can be strong and there for me when I need it. I can be a bit dramatic and need patience, if I get it then I have a lot to offer. Deep conversation is very important to me I am pretty dark minded but I am also very caring and loving and playful and creative. I love being a woman but I am also quite boyish in my interests.

I love gaming, god of war, resident evil, Elden ring, assassins creed, magic the gathering, playing pool, a few beers, occasionally cocktails. I love poker and metal detecting, binge watching tv series and reality tv, I Love eating out and shopping, wandering around markets, escape rooms, BBQ’s jacuzzis, creating themed parties, I love thinking outside of the box, coming up with grand ideas. I love celebrations, like birthdays or summer parties. I love a good massage and I love entrepreneurship. People who are loyal to me I will treat them well and go above and beyond for.

I currently live with 2 D/s slaves/friends. They are platonic relationships. So whoever my soulmate is must be ok with that poly setup and a rather unusual household.

I also have adult sons who I run a property development company with, my goal is to make millions and to be able to create a cool life filled with fun, I want to buy land, a big house, would love to run fetish clubs,and find someone to grow old with when our bodies are too old. Ideally I’m looking for someone involved in the building trade who could come onboard our company.

I am not religious, I edge more towards pagan beliefs, I am very interested in quantum physics and the idea consciousness creates your reality and and I am a bit of a conspiracy theorist.

I love all different types of music, imagine dragons, the weeknd, 80’s, billie eilish, avici, mood and atmospheric

Tv I like Vikings, Dexter, breaking bad, dragons den, apprentice masterchef, survivor, crime, downtown abbey, Spartacus, Clarksons farm, basically decent reality tv and series are my thing, a good movie if it’s well produced.

My negative qualities, I smoke, talk a lot, I’m very possessive. I can sometimes be a bit narcissistic, If you embark on a relationship with me you enter my world and sign up for supporting my life and goals.

My kink interests are :

Roleplay, (I have a big thing for roleplay) Slavery, TPE, collars, D/s control, choosing clothing, monitoring activity, eye restrictions, financial control, being served,, medical, asylum, age play, pet play, kidnap, era play like Victorian schools or slavery or Roman slavery
Flogging, queening, foot worship, tease, cages, latex, straitjackets, there is a lot more I’d do and some more private things but those are my main interests.

If you like my profile, drop me a message and tell me a bit about yourself.

Age
Location
Current living and work situation, skills, any commitments etc.
And more about you in general.

Short messages like hi will be ignored, as will crude or rude messages….yes I know I want a lot, as least I’m honest, if you don’t like my profile you can ignore it. :)

BDSM/Fetish Family25 to 48 years ● 25km around UK Plymouth

Seeking service oriented subs for real life service in Pickering Ontario. Also looking for other service sub in Mérida Mexico during winter. . No cybersex. No meet and beat. Long term service only. Suitable for those that feel fulfilled giving service without measuring what they will get in return.

If you are under 30, you are too young to be my pet. If you see me at an event, come chat instead.

As I seek non sexual interactions with my sub, I am open to male and female subs. Its the control and service that excites me... NOT what is between your legs.

If I get distracted, please do not take offense and just keep messaging to keep my attention. I never try to ghost. If I am not interested, I will tell you directly. So it's your responsibility to keep in contact. With multiple businesses and in and out of the country, things get hectic lol

I enjoy getting to know you and adapt my service requirements according to your abilities and desires.

In Canada I require my pet to serve in my home, warehouse, computer work, etc. Please read my profile. Available hours are critical. Afternoons only, ex: noon to 5. Suits shift worker, self employed or retired. Typically from noon to five during the week...1 to 2 times a month.

In Mexico, Seeking an English speaking service oriented sub.
Helping me with my Spanish, serving as a translator, shopping, helping me with whatever service I require. In my garden, in my home, foot massages, etc.

I move slowly, I love to train and keep a sub for years. Not into Mommy or AB play.

For my dedicated personal subs, this is not meet and beat. You must feed me to get time with me... simple. My rule since I was young vanilla lol. We go on multiple dates getting to know each other BEFORE any play or service occurs. Be prepared to fill out and slowly discuss a bdsm checklist.
I enjoy CFnm, collar/leash, sensual to medium intensity bdsm play. Optional interests are violet wand, chastity and going to local events... those we can discuss and compromise.
Not looking for sexual service, long distance or sexting.
I am married to a kinkster and I am looking for a casual play partner only.
Are you seeking a long term play partner, submission to a mature realistic Domme, friendship and serving a Mistress... Message me.

So… I am writing this because a lot of people seem to be confused with…let’s call it “The inner workings” of
B.D.S.M. ( not here of course, just in general)...
Bdsm and M/s are separate things, M/s may or may not contain elements of bdsm.
The bdsm community outnumber the True M/s people by a huge amount.
True M/s couples (or groups) are not that common.
They appear common because bdsm people mostly believe that M/s is a part of bdsm.
And bdsm people often, in fact usually blur the distinction between M/s and Dom/sub.
They throw around terms such as slave and Master like candy but those words are like the word love to me and should never just be thrown around.
Mostly, they do not understand (or accept) slave, as property.
In the bdsm world most activities revolve around “scenes”
This is where the term slave gets *d, people always used to use the term submissive which is the correct term, but the word slave seems to be in fashion. Something that people don’t understand the totality of the word slave.
Now in True M/s lives, the slave gives permission and consent to her/his Master when the slave is collared.
Therefor the Master never needs consent again.
However, many in the bdsm world won’t understand or appreciate this.
They also mostly won’t appreciate that the slave is Master’s property and He can do anything He so wishes, so **
and **** are largely mute points.
Because for it to be real, there cannot be any limits.
Sex, massage, dancing, seduction etc.
She always looks and smells divine.
A true slave weaves the essence of love, honor, high ideals, and strong desire to grow spiritually in these areas…as well as all aspects in life. It is well to see how the Master describes this subject. To Honor…To Love…High Ideals…And a strong Desire to grow Spiritually…Are not only how the Master describes this subject…But is the reason why Master…is…Master…
But everyone must take responsibility for their own reality. It is an art, and as such requires not only study and practice but also the inspiration and the love-hate relationship all artists have with their craft.
Through experience of Master’s…They can tell you what the two trademarks are of all True women are:

• The ability to laugh, even at the worst horrors…And…

• The ability to throw jargon out the door and discern the heart of every matter while never taking any matter too seriously.
The simple reason for these abilities is that by actually doing Your own reality and actually experiencing the magickal universe instead of merely reading about it, these abilities are automatically developed.
T/they should be overjoyed with T/their common connection…W/we all recognize the potential that results in the formation of this union…it is merely the beginning of something new…
T/they should be empowered by T/their sexual Magick…and though it transforming into the beginning of who T/they should be…The Beauty of the connection that is so Strong…no Limits…total Trust…above all Loyalty… Did You all read that?? Above All Loyalty… If Master and slave can not be loyal then it is Not a true M/s relationship, it is Dom/sub relationship. A M/s relationship is stronger than Any Marriage anywhere on Earth and should be treated as such! It is a lifetime commitment! That is why there are only a handful of “True” M\s relationships in the world!
Everything in balance.
A True slave should trust in her intuition and nurture her environment of deep devotion, patience, and intense passion…sometimes in silence…
Master and slave together set the standards for which direction they want their life to go.
The slaves’ opinion is always listened to by Master; but in the end the slave knows that His decision is Final.
Every Master strives for “the slave that comes willingly on bended knee” that His slave learns to just pick up on these things over time and doesn’t have to be told or punished anymore.
Its understanding more than just sex, its learning about each other

BDSM/Fetish Family5km around USA Seattle

I visit Mexico during the winter... Canadian winters suck lol. I am able to work remotely. 🎉

Seeking service oriented boys for real life service in Pickering Ontario. Also another service sub in Mérida Mexico during winter. No cybersex. No meet and beat. Long term service only.

If I get distracted, please do not take offense and just keep messaging to keep my attention. I never try to ghost. If I am not interested, I will tell you directly. So it's your responsibility to keep in contact. With multiple businesses and in and out of the country, things get hectic lol

In Canada I require my boy to serve in my home, warehouse, computer work, etc. CFnm. Please read my profile. Available hours are critical. Suits shift worker, self employed or retired. Typically from noon to five during the week...1 to 2 times a month.

In Mexico, Seeking an English speaking service oriented boy.
Helping me with my Spanish, serving as a translator, helping me with whatever service I require. In my garden, in my home, foot massages, etc.

I move slowly, I love to train and keep a boy for years. Not into Mommy or AB play.

For my dedicated personal boys, this is not meet and beat. We spend multiple dates getting to know each other BEFORE any play or service occurs. I will use your personal talents and knowledge to better my life.
I enjoy CFnm, collar/leash, sensual to medium intensity bdsm play. Optional interests are violet wand, male chastity and going to local events... those we can discuss and compromise.
Not looking for sex, long distance or sexting. Cock cages are hot but not necessary. Not interested in cbt or your cock.
I am married to a kinkster and I am looking for a casual play partner only.
Are you seeking a long term play partner, submission to a mature realistic Domme, friendship and serving a Mistress... Message me.

BDSM Play Partner30 to 99 years ● 100km around Canada Pickering

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