Gender play is just what it sounds like, playing about with gender roles. It’s role play where the people involved take on a gender other than their own. So this could be a male dressing up as a female or a non-binary person dressing up as a guy for sexual play time. It can involve elements of dominance and humiliation, sissification and forced femme are 2 common types of gender play. However, these elements don’t have to be present, it’s simply about role playing another gender than your own for sexual pleasure. It’s something you do for a session now and then, just like any other role play but instead of dressing up as a plumber you dress up as the opposite sex.
Cosplay is playing dress up with a purpose. It’s not just a generic costume, it’s a representation of a character from a book or a movie. When you dress up as a character who is a different gender to you, this is known as crossplay! Get it? A Mixture of Crossdressing and cosplay. It is something that is growing in popularity and although it can be a perfectly vanilla pastime it can have a wonderfully kinky twist too, when the crossplay is not just for a convention but for sexual role play too. It’s fun to play around with who gets to be the superhero sometimes!
Not everyone who prefers their partners to be a little older than them is looking for a Hugh Hefner stereotype. Plenty of folk prefer their partner to have a little more experience than them, and there are loads of fetishes (such as Caregiver/little or Owner) that thrive off a bit of an age gap. The important thing is to make certain that, no matter what your sexual dynamic, in everyday life you're on the same level - power differentials are hot in kink terms and potentially abusive in everyday ones! Keep in constant communication, treat your partner as an equal outside of your dynamic and enjoy all the age gap relationships you could want.