Hard Face Slapping | Doing it Right

Does the idea of hard face slapping as part of your BDSM play, terrify you or turn you on? Sienna Saint-Cyr shares her experiences of hard face slapping to help you understand this often misunderstood and misused part of impact play. 
 

Slapping and safe impact play

Slapping is a part of BDSM that invokes fear in people. When I mention the art of hard face slapping, many shudder, but on the whole, people that haven’t seen it, don’t know how amazing and beneficial it can be when done right.
 

One time, my Dom wanted to use hard face slapping to demonstrate how my eyes change as I’m dropping into subspace. Usually, I'm highly responsive to my Dom, but this was the first time that he dropped me in front of so many people (including my husband), which made me nervous.

The first thing my Dom did after instructing me to sit, was to cradle the side of my face in his hand. I knew what that meant, and it made me squirm. He slapped my cheek with his other hand several times. It stung, but I felt a tingle between my legs. I watched his posture shift above me to one of complete dominance, and I dropped.
 

Getting into hard face slapping

When my Dom and I first spoke, he told me how much he loved slapping women. My chest went cold in response as I had envisioned him hard face slapping and jerking some poor girl’s head to the side by force alone, and I wanted no part of that. He would say how hot it was, how women dropped so fast, but I wasn’t convinced.
 

People had tried hard face slapping me before, but it didn’t work. My jaw always hurt afterwards, or I didn’t drop. The first time my Dom slapped me, I loved it instantly. Although it isn’t just because he’s my Dom, there's much more to this love of slapping as well as the effectiveness of it, both as the slapper and as the one being slapped. My passion for slapping came when I realised this wasn’t a simple ‘slap you in the face’ sort of slap!
 

The art of slapping

My Dom taught me that when hard face slapping, aim is very important, and to hold the other cheek of the submissive to avoid injuring their neck.  He said I should use the base of my fingers firmly when slapping, not the palm of my hand where there’s more force. He also advised slapping the fleshy part of the cheek or cheekbone - not down low around the jaw, or around the ear as this could cause a rupture to the eardrum.  

Each slap is very deliberate, and the slapper must be in complete control. When done right, there should be an attention-grabbing sting. Redness to the cheek is a bonus.
 

Hard face slapping a submissive is a quick way to put them in their place under you. But, for those new to hard face slapping, as a general rule, if your hand hurts when you slap, it might be too hard.

The butt is excellent for slapping also, but here there is an art to slapping. Slapping my butt as I walk by will get a giggle while bending me over a knee gets squirms and redness on more than just my bottom. Pulling someone over the knee also offers support.

What makes hard face slapping so amazing and powerful is the amount of control the person slapping exerts. It’s humiliating to be slapped, but done right, creates a considerable amount of trust in one swift motion, because the control required creates that trust. There's an art of slapping, and it's a skill that needs practice, confidence, and extreme control.

Sienna Saint-Cyr writes erotica and blogs about kink, poly, body image, and most things relating.
 

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