Do you get turned on by someone with oodles of body hair, or do you go balmy for a bushy beard? Do curly pubes send you crazy, or does the thought of a big, hairy bush get your reaching for a razor? Or, maybe the idea of shaving someone else's pubes or head gets you horny. If any of these scenarios apply to you, then you could have a kink know as trichophilia.
Trichophilia – the scientific term for a hair fetish – is when someone is erotically aroused from something to do with hair, this might be:
We live in a society that has a lot of assumptions and social expectations connected to hair. There are religious reasons, such as Sikhs leaving their hair to grow out of respect for God's perfect creation, and Muslims wearing headscarves for modesty and as a symbol of their faith.
Crazy for curls? You could have a hair fetish
But, we have many cultural expectations of hair in much of Western society, often based on old gender binaries, such as masculinity associated with lots of body hair and a short haircut, and femininity connected with long hair and zero body hair.
Fetishes might form from these expectations or subversions of them, especially in a world full of many genders and a realization that masculinity and femininity are not that binary either.
Technically if you have a fetish, you can only get off if that thing is present. However, these days, the words 'kink' and 'fetish' are used in a more entwined way, so if you enjoy having sex with someone with long hair, a specific hairstyle or colour, body hair or lack of it – that still counts!
Trichophilia– or body hair fetishes – are popular amongst kinksters, and it's easy to see why with it being something humans actively grow, cut, and style – plus smoothness and hairiness both create sensual feelings.
“Trichophilia – the scientific term for a hair fetish – is when someone is erotically aroused from something to do with hair.”
Furthermore, you can also use hair in so many sexy ways. Hair pulling is a kink many people indulge in, and hair removal through shaving or cutting can be an incredibly erotic and intimate experience, especially when shared with another person.
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Fan of fur? Maybe you have trichophilia
The way to navigate any issues with your hair fetish is good communication with your partner/s. It's always wise to be upfront and honest about your fetishes so everyone involved understands.
“Trichophilia – or body hair fetishes – are popular amongst kinksters, and it's easy to see why with. Smoothness and hairiness both create sensual feelings.”
Also, you can't expect someone to keep their hair forever long, just to satisfy your fetish (unless they are super submissive, perhaps!). People change and have complete autonomy over their bodies. However, open communication will help navigate these issues, and you can make compromises like satisfying your fetish with someone else or the use of false hair etc.
If your fetish is so intense that it is negatively affecting you or your relationships, then you should talk to a medical professional. After all, a fetish should enhance your life – if it's not, then there is no shame in seeking help.
Giving good head: shaving yourself sexy
There are lots of kinksters into trichophilia and different body hair fetishes and plenty of kinksters who love them. If you're looking to share some hot hair experiences, check out the forum and chat with others all about body hair, haircuts and more. •
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