These days people are finding new ways to do all kinds of things, from creating new methods to connect with people, to discovering ways to celebrate all the special days in life. But how do you celebrate your kinks safely while the global pandemic still rages?
Online is the safest way to connect with people during the pandemic. You can find BDSM dates with kinksters here on Fetish.com and many other dating sites, but how do you keep the connection going when you can't meet flesh to flesh?
Munches are most kinksters first port of call for socialising and finding out more about potential partners in an informal setting. Many munches and events are happening online (including our very own regular quarantine munch) and via video calls. See what a potential kink partner looks like and how they interact with others while having a fun time with a bunch of folks too. Also, you don't have to pay for drinks, and you can roll into bed once you click out!
During a pandemic, kinky dating isn't so easy when you can't pop out to grab a coffee or enjoy a meal at a restaurant, but there are ways you can date at a distance. We're lucky to have so much technology connecting us. We can chat, text and video call easily without any fancy extras. We can play games together or watch a film, even. You can always meet someone for a walk too, somewhere public, like a park is perfect for a first meet - remembering to check the local restrictions in your area before doing anything, though.
It's worth keeping an eye out for socially distanced events. Organisers such as the London Alternative Market (LAM) have been organising markets in the great outdoors to provide kinksters opportunities to meet and kinky treats in a covid safe way. However, this might be more pleasant in the warmer months and depend on the lockdown rules where you are.
Indoor mixing may be off the cards at the moment, meaning the usual events and club nights we kinksters use to meet, mingle and have fun aren't available to us. However, this doesn't mean that all fetish fun has to stop! In fact, some fetishes have seen an uptick in interest as the global pandemic makes people think out of the box more.
Masking up and putting on latex gloves is suddenly something we're actively encouraged to do! Medical fetish can be something you add to your kink play, to keep you and your partner safe as well as keeping it kinky and sexy.
Be safe out there, folx.
Get your kicks from playing in public where others can watch you? Use the wonders of the internet to have that crowd virtually present as you play alone or with your nesting partner. In the warmer months maybe you could indulge in a little socially distanced dogging? Making sure everyone involved is a safe distance apart.
And what do exhibitionists need? Voyeurs! Get your kicks by watching spanking, bondage and all kinds of fetish fun online or maybe through someone's closed window...as long as everyone involved is consenting of course!
With long-distance BDSM, orders can be given via text, phone calls or even in an old fashioned letter. Punishments might need to be a bit more inventive, but I know the sadists and Dom/mes out there will have fun coming up with things to make their submissive do to punish themselves, and the same goes for treats!
There's no denying that things are hard right now for many people and we're all doing what we can to keep going. What we can do is appreciate the little joys we find along the way.
The key is to enjoy kink safely, online and at a distance unless you're lucky enough to live with your partner in fetish fun. Remember to keep yourself and your fellow kinksters safe - this means maintaining social distancing and adhering to all your local anti-covid rules.
Vaccines are coming, and that will change things for the better in time. There is hope that we'll be swinging and kinking together again sometime soon, and we're all looking forward to that!
Victoria Blisse was an erotic author and sex-positive Reverend. She helped shape fetish.com and FET from the very beginning and we're eternally grateful for her passion and creativity. Sadly, she passed away in January 2024. We hope that whenever her articles are read, she'll be honored.
Did you do anything to mark International Fetish Day? Let us know in the comments if you have any additional tips to help overcome pandemic woes.
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