I like being the boss, but I swear to god when I need something from the top cupboard or the light bulb changing at the top of my landing due to being demi in stature...I so need a man in my life.

Thanks for sharing this. You sound like a good Dom.

Hi thanks for sharing with us 💖

Hi thanks for responding. I really like what you said in regards to diversity and fluidity. I think my sole take away from this thread is what someone wrote above about it all being subjective. Thanks for sharing 💖

You are couple goals. That sounds lovely

Thanks for sharing that. It's relatable too. I hope you're attracting nicer and more genuine people. Would you say your ND makes you more trusting of people (the wrong people)? Mine does. It's lead me into some healthy relationships. 💖

Thanks for this comment and sharing your experience with us. 💖

This is interesting and I think you have raised another point I would like to discuss i'm just struggling to articulate it. There's been a lot of studies and research done that indicate how important our early life experiences are (nature versus nurture, trauma etc) and how they go on to shape who Read more… we become as adults so it's interesting how they impact on us as a whole and the behaviours/personality types we go on to develope in adulthood. I'm sensing trauma from your comment and I'm sorry you went through that. Thanks for sharing 💖

I respect your point of view but as a Dominant woman. I most certainly am not submissive when having sex. I take the lead, I respect boundaries and limits, I'm mindful of safe words and fully respect them. I am I'm control. As a sub I couldn't fully relax and enjoy sex a lot of the time. Since Read more… embracing my Dominant side inside of the bedroom too, it's giving me back some power. Playing in that role makes me feel empowered enough to relax and not be ***ful of sex. It keeps my trauma llamas at bay so I can enjoy it and fully let go.

Thank you everyone for your lovely and insightful replies. It's been great hearing other people's experiences.💖

A lot of what you said really resonated with me. And I think the example you gave of platonic vs romantic was very helpful.
It's quite sad that people have cookie cutter ideologies about what it means to be a sub or what it means to be Dom, or switch.
I also liked what you said about psychological Read more… safety. I think a lack there of is basically what spearheaded me into leaping into a Dom role, so I could grab some of that back due to a negative experience as a sub, whilst creating it for other people.

I liked the bit at the end, those things generally influence us as we grow.