I can do poly if I am just having a FWB relationship. However if I am actually involved in an LTR, I prefer mono. Not sure why it just kind of feels wrong. Though I have done some impact play with others while dating with the approval of my parnter. Its possible I could to poly, I imagine it Read more… depends on my partner at the time and how we both felt about things.

While I enjoy face fucking, Ive not had a sub thus far who enjoyed deep throating, so for me I avoid trying to make them gag, while it has happened, I've not had vomit involved, usually a tap is all that is needed if they want a break/breather.

I've had a similar experience the other way. With women just wanting sex on here.
Honestly for me sex is not that important, dont get me wrong I enjoy it, however for me its not a main reason for a relationship, and one night stands have never appealed to me. I've had multiple fwb/play partners Read more… where sex has not come into it at all and everyone involved was happy with that.
Dont get me wrong, if I'm in an ltr and start having sex, I kind of want it alot, but for just play/fwb I can totally live without it, now if boob play was taken off the table, that would be another matter :p
However back to this site, I do find it seems to be used more as a hook up site, or that is the impression I get.

I have come across as ghosting people. The thing is I'm not glued to my phone, or social media. I can get messages and not respond for a few days, not necessarily meaning to ignore people, but often I'll get a message while I'm busy, have a quick read, mean to reply later when I've actually got Read more… time, to find I've been distracted and genuinely forget to respond.
I've always had kind of a ***ter brain where if I do something, then in the middle, need to do something else I can forget what I was doing originally.
Then even with friends, I can not see some for months, then meet up and it's like no time has passed and all good.
Where as I have spoken to some subs where if your not constantly in contact several times a day, they get the hump. Even my own play partners have eventually come to understand that lack of constant communication does not mean i am not interested, its just I'm not looking at phones or social sites, I'm simply doing other things.
I also find that the older I get, time seems to fly past, so I can go days without responding without realising.
Example I recently chatted to a friend who in my head I thought I had chatted too just a couple of weeks ago to find it had been nearly two months, again though both of us were fine with the situation and the conversation just continued where we left off.

As I get older my views on age also change, while I do and have chatted with some younger subs ie more than 20 years younger, the thought of actual play feels kind of wrong, now granted everyone is different and i have spoken to some young subs who came across as mature, I just feel more Read more… comfortable with a range of generally 20ish years my junior. As for subs older than me, i am sure I would enjoy play. Just not really had the opportunity.

I've had subs tell me they love cuddles, it can make them feel safe, protected, owned, wanted, cared for. Plus I rather like them myself.

Sounds normal to me x

While I do not use this or some other fetish sites primarily as hook up sites. I have to say when using this site in particular, when I have had people respond to messages, unless I knew them from another site, they have been generally quick hook up messages, with people wanting a quickie or Read more… wanting to dive straight in and play, then there are others who even though they say they are looking for friends/chat, then basically ignore me if I am not wanting to hook up.
Do not get me wrong I do message some people with regards to possibly getting to know them, with a view of possibly going further if we get on well (if both looking), at the same time, if we simply end up being friends that is also a win.
Do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with people using sites like this as a hook up site, people are free to do as they wish, however I do feel it can make it harder for those, not necessarily wanting to just have quick hook ups.

Eh? i was never your Dom :p
Seriously though. I am glad you are okay and that he helped you, I am happy to hear you are believing in yourself again, that you understand you have worth and that trustworthy people are out there. You know I already think you are amazing and glad you are starting to Read more… feel and believe it too. Hopefully you will continue to grow and see yourself as others do x