Yes, like others stated. FWB might be the wrong set up for you. Because you are open to a potential relationship developing. Maybe seeking a casual dating with potential relationship would be a better match. Or an open relationship with nesting partner potential. I found this works well when your Read more… seeking the undecided. You both have the flexibility to date others but are open to potentially settling into one another at some point.
Story Time: Personally I have completely shutdown men who pursue me with the FBuddy or FWB vibe. I am great with an open relationship. I am the primary partner/nesting partner with my SO. With our other relationships I let them know where they are on our list. :) We long term date others together. It works for us!
*On a side note we started as solo partners and openly communicated that at some point we would like to add another. When our relationship was well connected we agreed to the addition.

This is a tough spot to be in!
Have you clearly told him you need more affection from him? Has it been suggested to switch roles & why you need the switch. Even if he struggles with ED he can still satisfy you and he may not know how to do that without penetration. If you love him & this Read more… is your biggest unhappiness in the relationship talk to him. You’ve supported the issue for 4 years. assure him that a more loving exchange on his part will take you guys down a long happy road together.
Also, I love the suggestion of introducing another partner to your relationship. I know many couple in your situation who have this kind of agreement.

A long hot relaxing bath is my go to for self care. Clears your mind relaxes your sole & washed all those germs away!

Ahhh ... this is such a great post!
I too have struggled with some of the same old fashioned vs modern ideals. You might be on to something with the dating bracelets! 😆 I do think it’s ridiculous to be kissed & bam be owned. It does take work on both sides to create a fulfilling long lasting Read more… relationship. Both parties have to show there individual value & what value the bring to the kitchen table. Then they get a ring, right? Not always, there’s days many couples find it hard to commit. It is very hard for people to have open honest communication about what they want or don’t want. This brings me to the topic of collars. ( I may have a couple of cute Kitty collars on my wish list!) I sit on the fence with them. I am not opposed to the idea, they should be earned and yes to some they in fact are a device of security in this wild dating world we live in. I think with most collar situations the couple does sit down and explain more clearly what the wants needs and desires of both parties are & this situation may make the communication process more streamlined & concise. - Something to think about if you find yourself being asked for a collar. Lol