I’m looking for a Dom, not a Daddy. Talk to me to find out who I am before having preconceived notions about who or how they think I should be. I am definitely funny and sweet, classy and dedicated, confident and definitive outside of the lifestyle, free thinking but live a conservative lifestyle outside of a dynamic. I have brat qualities with a side of sadistic.
A little over a year ago I found myself in a dynamic with someone abusive. Having been in this lifestyle for over 20 years I thought I’d recognize *** if it ever happened to me. Looking back, what I have discovered is that it is much easier to see an abusive dynamic when it’s not your own. I was doing great, ready to begin the process of opening back up, when out of the blue he reached out in July and it brought me back to questioning myself and why he had gotten through my radar.
I have learned that I am going to require a Dom/Sadist who is willing to take the time to build that trust and be open to me seeking clarification and guidance whenever I begin to question myself once more. Where once I knew who I was implicitly, I now find myself a work in progress.
Unless you are funny, charming, engaging, and articulate on top of the qualities above, please don’t reach out because I will not engage.
You can only lead them to the water friend. Some are too stubborn to drink from the fountain of knowledge
Why would telling a brat they’re right be wrong? You should acknowledge when someone is right. Being a brat is about so much more than seeking punishment. Brats who aren’t masochists aren’t brats because they want to be punished. They’re brats because they want your attention. If you’ve interacted Read more… with a brat or have been in a dynamic with one you’d notice that the less attention you pay, the more attention seeking the behaviors become. As someone who knows she’s a brat, if given adequate attention my actions are less. It’s only when I’m feeling ignored or unimportant that my instincts kick in. Even then I’m a fun brat. I have never and will never be a brat in a way that’s not made to make my Dom laugh.
I think the test reflects where you are during a specific time in your life. It’s based on your answers and isn’t a complete concept of who you will be in six months. If you’re relying on a test to tell you who you are, it’s going to tell you only what you want to see. We all change and evolve so Read more… our results will also change and evolve.
Speaking from experience, don’t let one bad encounter knock you down. My bad Dom experience did exactly that. To the point I’ve not even considered getting back into a dynamic. It’s been 2 years and he was mentally abusive. While I stepped back to heal I know without a doubt that there’s someone Read more… out there worthy of my trust and devotion. I just haven’t found him yet. Men who are emotionally abusive aren’t men. They’re boys throwing tantrums because they didn’t get what they wanted. Know your worry and know you’re exactly someone’s perfect person.
So loving yourself is being conceited? While she goes much further than I’d ever dream of going, there’s nothing conceited about finding herself desirable. I think if we as people don’t find ourselves desirable, how do we expect others to?
Well this post took a twist.
You need to run in the other direction
I’ve always used a hand signal when gagged. A simply tap and a held out palm in a stop signal did the trick. The purpose of the gag is to minimize vocal ability. I can see where their frustration comes in.
Only if the offer of tacos comes to fruition
Conversation is always the best starting point.
No such thing.
I was in a long distance D/s for months and for the majority of the time it was beautiful. Daily phone chats and more often than not being led through scenes and given direction. We also enjoyed video calls. Despite the daily contact the lack of physical contact took its toll and we ended up ending Read more… the dynamic while there was still love and respect present. He’s still one of my dearest lifestyle friends.
If after a short time you’re already feeling the stress of the lack of physicality, unless you both find a way to overcome that distance, there’s nothing that will replace what sounds like a need. It’s ok to need physical touch and the majority of people need it to some extent. You said meeting up in person is not completely out of the realm of possibility. Maybe it would be worth exploring to see if it’s a viable option beforehand.
Agree to disagree. The question asked for an opinion.
I reply to every post, even if it’s a no thank you or you’re not what I’m looking for but that’s just me. When I first began here eons ago those reaching out were more along your line and it was easier to respond and pick up dialogue. Lately, the posts are rude. It’s highly probable that your posts Read more… aren’t even being read because of the inconsideration of those that have come before you. Don’t lose heart. Your posts will eventually strike a cord with someone and a dialogue will occur.