At one time I considered myself a switch, but upon contemplation I don't really think it fits me, Hedonist maybe, Kinkster? Time and experience will decide.
Sometimes I like to be the dominant, other times I like to be controlled.
I enjoy exploring sexual boundaries (consensually of course), this is what makes me want to explore as much as I can with as many different people as possible. Life is short, and it's easy to sit and say 'What if'.
My interest in Fetish and kink dates back many, many years, but apart from one relationship I’ve never had an opportunity to explore what being involved in kink means on a regular basis, although over the past 18 months I've had the opportunity to explore this more. There is more to this than just ropes, chains, and ***.... There is pleasure to be taken and explored, mental as well as physical, sharing experiences. All this is what I wish to explore.
I have an high EQ, so am looking for someone who shares that part of understanding in what being involved within the scene means. And hopefully find a play partner who wants to explore this together.
Kink is not a game for fantasists, it's where I hope to meet someone who shares similar interests and ideals, but who I can have a drink and a chat with first.... This includes messages.
I’m unabashedly single (so no hidden wife, girlfriend or kids), and live alone with my dog. I believe in honesty and respect and will always be courteous when messaging someone (after all manners cost nothing).
I concur with haroldcecilgeorge's comment this a very insightful article, having returned to this site after being in my first 'kink/fetish' relationship, I forgot what a minefield it can be, and trying to stand out from the crowd can be a little daunting. I've determined that it will probably take Read more… some time, and also that I need to be true to myself and not try to be someone I'm not. A lot of what you have written backs up my thinking. So Thank you.
I understand your sentiment very well, my last girlfriend was very submissive and it was my first occasion of being dominant, which I enjoyed. Unfortunately things didn't work out so I'm back to square one. Just this time I have a much clearer idea of who I am what I want. Take a look at Read more… BDSMtest.org, this may help you to determine what interests you and what doesn't. If you want to chat with others there are plenty of other ways as detailed in eymblacksheep's post. Or if you just want to have a respectful talk about things drop me a message, I am not someone who dives into the 'I want to be your dom' Trope. Good luck!