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Personal details

Gender Woman
Age 49
Status Not single
Body shape Average build
Eye colour Other
Hair length
Orientation Gay
Zodiac sign Taurus
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About me

Interested in:

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Description

I am currently entertaining submissions from well behaved cis-male subs that want to serve in a TPE way, or those seeking a good pick-up play beating. Yes I'm amazing with a strap on, but I have no interest in pegging unless there is a profound connection. Do not bother to approach me if this is all you seek. I am sapiosexual, so you will need to win over my mind if you want my attention.

I am a former sub, former slave, former switch. I Domme from a place of deep understanding and compassion. Consent/Protocol/Rules will be established and en***d for TPE dynamics.

Limits

no , golden,
no ageplay
nothing immoral

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TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander finished the BDSM Test
  • 05.09.2024 13:13:29
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single

100%
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Submissive

TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 14.08.2024 22:07:46
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Working through trauma to be more sex positive

Look for tending the garden on ig. Lots of great survivor resources there.

TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander has updated their profile description
  • 13.08.2024 15:04:50
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
I am currently entertaining submissions from well behaved cis-male subs that want to serve in a TPE way, or those seeking a good pick-up play beating. Yes I'm amazing with a strap on, but I have no interest in pegging unless there is a profound connection. Do not bother to approach me if this is Read more… all you seek. I am sapiosexual, so you will need to win over my mind if you want my attention.

I am a former sub, former slave, former switch. I Domme from a place of deep understanding and compassion. Consent/Protocol/Rules will be established and en***d for TPE dynamics.
TheZenCommander
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  • 29.07.2024 11:08:01
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
  • TheZenCommander
TheZenCommander
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  • 28.07.2024 14:54:44
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
  • TheZenCommander
TheZenCommander
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  • 03.07.2024 16:56:28
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander posted a status update
  • 30.05.2024 14:02:22
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
So tired of investing time into things that don't become real. If you seriously seek in person in WNC, hmu, let's chat. I'm hungry to make a sub squirm.
LikeLittle_nugget_740, QUAN1996666and 2 more…
TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 28.05.2024 14:26:29
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Futo or Baku? Which one creates a better experience for new subs/bunnies?

I think futo is a really easy and approachable first tie for newbies to receive. It's low stakes, and you don't have to worry about possible nerve damage or circulation issues (as long as they don't have varicose veins)

TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 28.05.2024 14:26:05
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Futo or Baku? Which one creates a better experience for new subs/bunnies?

I think futo is a really easy and apache first tie for newbies to receive. It's low stakes, and you don't have to worry about possible nerve damage or circulation issues (as long as they don't have varicose veins)

TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander posted a status update
  • 27.04.2024 22:09:30
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
ISO - exhibitionists & cam sluts
Hmu tonight
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TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander posted a status update
  • 16.04.2024 18:08:00
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Are you a truly brave sub ready to find what you're seeking? Or do you run away and hide when genuine opportunity presents itself? If you are one that tends to hide, what is your ***? Just looking to understand. All responses welcome.
LikeSweet_greek, ThaliaV
TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 16.04.2024 18:00:22
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Femdom dating for submissive men

Seeking connection in a rural area can be down right maddening. Curious to ask the subs in this thread.... how would you respond if you were required to video chat and meet in person before getting into lengthy texting conversations? 🤔

LikeThaliaV, AMLN · Jump to discussion
TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 03.04.2024 14:01:46
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Femdom dating for submissive men

Munches are the best way to meet people, but not every city has these. Coming from Chicago to Asheville came with a lot of struggles in the BDSM community. I used to have munches, and dungeons, and community in Chicago, but in a small mountain town, not quite the same. All we have are apps Read more… like this. Even the fetlife groups in this area have gone silent.

Likeindulgewithcare · Jump to discussion
TheZenCommander
icon-wio TheZenCommander wrote something in the forum
  • 02.04.2024 18:49:21
  • Female (49)
  • Asheville
  • Not single
Loving hairy, is it a fetish?

Yes it's a fetish. I would say, a fetish is just an unconventional turn on. A kink is an unconventional need. And BDSM is an unconventional relationship with a well defined power dynamic.

Likehiddengemz, NotsoNew, breezy94and 7 more… · Jump to discussion

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