Is dating dead?

[Deleted Member]

Just don't be a loser and stop taking Ls

[ki****]

48 minutes ago, Explorer777 said:

I have ghosted people when I was younger. I think at that time I lacked healthy and necessary communication skills. As I've gotten older I've learned how to communicate effectively with others. I think it can be a process, not everything is just black and white. People are like onions, we have layers.

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[de****]

Definitely not like it used to be

[Co****]

Dating is dead

[se****]

It most definitely is. No one takes relationships seriously anymore.

[ma****]

I've only ever been in long term relationships (shortest was just under a year, longest was almost 4. for context I'm 20.) and it never ended well. sometimes flings and situationships are just better for the people involved. that being said, for people who are actively looking for a serious relationship, I imagine it's frustrating. all mine have started as friendships (which I'm trying to change.)

[Dr****]

I am hopeful that dating is not dead.

[Hi****]

I don't think it's the same game that it was but it's not dead

[Sh****]

I've found that the non vanilla side of dating is often traumatized by an individual in their past, and not comfortable committing to much more than play buddies or dynamics without romance or serious commitment. Even I with now am on the list of people traumatized and nervous about new commitments. Dating as a whole is evolving though, people especially after the pandemic have shorter tolerance for both bullsh*t and mistakes.

[Se****]

Depending on your area, it can feel very dead. In my experience, people don't want to consider a less than perfect match in all aspects but everyone has their own experiences.

[Pr****]

Depends on the involved parties

[co****]

Dead as disco

[Kc****]

Well I don't know, I have spent the last 25 years in 2 long-term relationships. And I become a widower after loosing my husband of 14 years in July 2023. Not that I am ready by any means I hope it's not. 🙃🤪

[Ca****]

10 hours ago, KcMone4fun said:

Well I don't know, I have spent the last 25 years in 2 long-term relationships. And I become a widower after loosing my husband of 14 years in July 2023. Not that I am ready by any means I hope it's not. 🙃🤪

I’m sorry for your loss. I was widowed in July 2021 and have just stuck my toe in the dating pool. It’s murky and shallow. 🙄

[Kc****]

4 hours ago, CarolinaCDA said:

I’m sorry for your loss. I was widowed in July 2021 and have just stuck my toe in the dating pool. It’s murky and shallow. 🙄

Thank you and I am sorry for your loss this 1st yr has been horrible I made the decision to move us back to Kansas city MO.. it started to help me and make me not feel that there no light ever coming back into my life. NAMESTE

[Deleted Member]

The key to dating is meaning the good things we say. The problem is people get jaded and they can only trust a small group of friends. In my example. The dad of my x had a wicked temper. Actually a Mr. universe back in the day. Everything made him mad, So my mother-in-law says to me my ex is just like her father. Me blind in love was like thinking in my head, what? Now I know. A woman with a wicked temper will hide it un till she can blame you for it. So you never want to marry a woman thats blind to the misery her temper causes others. before they met you, they would say this or that or them made them mad. It's habit forming and negativity is contagious. unless you like to be ***d then let your girl wear the pants. Now remember, somebody said fair warning. Yes ladies boys hide their childhood temper too. But it's still sadistic. I want a young woman that don’t sit on the couch look pretty as I do everything out of love and appreciation for our love for each other.

[Deleted Member]

make that I wanna grill that’ll sit on the couch and look pretty until daddy comes home so we can have fun together. As a friend and a lover. A woman not a girl. tequila dating is making a girl feel noticed. See how she fixed her hair, see how gorgeous she is with the necklaces and earrings she picked out for herself. The smell of her hair, her style, her sexy shoes. no dating is not dead. People are just not doing it right

[va****]

I feel there is definitely something wrong with the dating scene.
Folks forgot how to interact 😕
I had two memorable experiences approaching women.
I never even said the word date, but invited them on separate occasions to an outing.
They both started acting weird, when I'd see them later on. We're in a small town, so there's that too.

[Deleted Member]

Well said, it’s not you. It’s definitely a small number of them. Like it’s a small number of us men that give us men a bad rap. Some women and men get off on torturing other women and men, and vice versa, Lol, it goes back to their childhood. If mom was divorce with a baby girl. There’s a 97% chance the child will have anxiety and subconscious anger for boys. Like if a child stays with the father of the divorce. High percentage will have a subconscious need to blame women for their temper. The Bible talks of being blind. This is a metaphor for being blind to the reason for our temper. Self reflection is the only way to cure that type of blindness. Up front you don’t want a girl that gets off on ***, for a lifetime partner. Life is too short to waste on that type of woman. ultra liberal means torturing the hell out of all men. Who wants that for you? Not me it sounds like hell.
So keep your head up and listen to what a woman 🧍‍♀️ wants to hear. A real woman not a girl. See how hard they work to stay sexy. Tell them you appreciate and actually mean it. See that necklace that she picked out for herself.
The women that want to blame you for their temper over the mess their temper makes will hide their disorder from you. Control by anger and lack of Nookie. Who wants that? Not me. Anyway try to be better than Jesus and good blessings will come. If you pay kindness forward you will see what I’m saying. Your reason for life is to guide others down a positive fate. The reason for death is to guide others down a negative fate. Respect 🫡 peace ✌️

[Be****]

I think that's sort of accurate. Everyone is looking for a perfect match. In machinery, an absolute 1 inch rod will not go in 1 inch absolute hole. It won't fit without tolerance. I think people forgot to be tolerant , thus, sooner or later, when there is an issue or disagreement that rises, relationships end. Everyone is looking for an upgrade instead of cherishing their partner. Thus, the situation arises, as the author pointed.

[te****]

I feel like it is!!! Being a women men only act like they only want one thing and everything else is to much work ..I would love somebody to say hey let's go to dinner,hell even a walk would be a nice change of pace...I want to get dressed up and have somebody appreciate the effort I put into our time together

[Deleted Member]

Maybe I'm in the minority of this. But i seem to be surrounded by, what I would call "Healthy relationships" It was nice growing up because it taught me what to expect. And how to deal with issues. I've tried dating apps. And they were fine. But I still find just getting out and doing things I enjoy is the best way to meet people.

[ey****]

4 hours ago, DetroitTp said:

Maybe I'm in the minority of this. But i seem to be surrounded by, what I would call "Healthy relationships" It was nice growing up because it taught me what to expect. And how to deal with issues. I've tried dating apps. And they were fine. But I still find just getting out and doing things I enjoy is the best way to meet people.

this is really nice and positive to read

 

[ks****]

It's dating dead oh well it can be based on several factors what location you live in your age your race what is your perceived attractive level and all that plays in with the age race and so forth how well you photograph Etc just remember. Average and below average women are getting a lot of action to the point where a woman who is a 6 or lower thinks she's a 7 but what a lot of them don't understand is that we men are not as hypergamist as women can be at least most of us aren't however I I'll have to agree with the women although she does not need lots of *** and material possessions I do feel she needs to have skills and I don't mean the kitchen she doesn't have to be the prettiest thing However I need to fan attraction although I can't put my finger on it. I'll just know it when it's there. I'm not really sure how successful this particular site can or will be b cuz although you've got the fetishes you still got the basic primal core of the female nature which can be hypergamus and picky as phuck!!

[ks****]

I thought the adult friend find a website would be a game changer but in time I was wrong. Sometimes an individual has to face up to facts the reality if you're over certain age if you are of a certain undesired ethnic group there are so many stereotypes and so many assumptions, Unfortunately you'd probably become more accepted within your own ethnic group I don't subscribe to just adhering to a particular ethnic group however it seems As though I am in the minority with that particular feeling also it does not help if you're a regular smoker. Can anyone out there tell me where can I find a site where it be hook up dating long-term the connection must be made in general in my experience I mean those that I have met they want to base everything on a photograph which is why you have but you need to be able to convey to an individual that look you are on the market And you are in to meeting other folks now if someone can change your mind and that's different there are no Guarantees and just because you meet somebody doesn't mean anything's gonna become of it