Is dating dead?

[ja****]

Absolutely

[re****]

It's a dead horse i keep kicking anyway...

[Deleted Member]

In short
Yess, dating is dead and Marriage is next

[Ri****]

It's not dead.  

[ka****]

everyone just wants *** for good times noone jus hooks up for FUN

[be****]

  October 12, tempe883243 said:

I feel like it is!!! Being a women men only act like they only want one thing and everything else is to much work ..I would love somebody to say hey let's go to dinner,hell even a walk would be a nice change of pace...I want to get dressed up and have somebody appreciate the effort I put into our time together

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EXACTLY!!

[Pocket_Sand]

Hehe I'm not looking for perfection. I'm looking for good enough.

[Deleted Member]

In the conventional sense, yeah. Just dealing w someone closely isn't but yeah tinder killed dating

[re****]

  October 12, tempe883243 said:

I feel like it is!!! Being a women men only act like they only want one thing and everything else is to much work ..I would love somebody to say hey let's go to dinner,hell even a walk would be a nice change of pace...I want to get dressed up and have somebody appreciate the effort I put into our time together

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I'd be interested in hearing from the men on this one. How many men have been complimented about how they are dressed or received positive feedback for the effort put into a good date. Their hair cut. How much time we put into grooming. Making sure we've looked up the restaurant or venue we're going to, reserved a table, booked a cab or vacuumed and cleaned the car you pick her up with, the flowers. Holding of doors or pulling out of chairs.
Men are expected to plan a date well. To make it memorable. Unique. Special
I myself only had one person comment or compliment that . Ever. Kinda makes putting in the effort and the expense and the hope less attractive. I know you want to go out and feel beautiful, pursued, desirable, and listened to, but did you make sure he felt the same way you wanted to feel? I hear, "men only want one thing". Well of course we do. Our own biology drives that. It's not an excuse. But it is truth. So here's a challenge. Make him forget about that Biology for the night.
I dated a very sexual lady, into the bdsm scene. Very much my type. I was very much hers. Our first date we met. Had a beer and just talked and planned a REAL date. The next time we met, we were more excited about the things we were going to do together than our shared sexual interests. It was relaxed. Fun. Flirty. And we had a great time.
But these days I see the effort dying on both sides. Frustration from both sides. Entitlement on both sides. And us being drawn to sexual relationships were there is the sub/dominant aspect a lot doesn't help. Maybe a normmie in the streets and a dominant only in the sheets is what is needed?
I dunno. Now I'm rambling.

[qu****]

What he said

[Bo****]

Funny thing is this is the only dating app where people can discuss this topic.
I got lucky once on this one.
I went to Nortfolk area (uk) for a week.
She messaged me out of nowhere and started to suggest things in chat.
Well im not an attractive man so a couple of my alarmbells went off straight up.
I told her im not willing to do anything unless we go and have a date before.
So we decided to meet in a local pub
The date went well (no alcohol involved) we where chatting for like 3.5 hours about our lives and in the last 30 minutes she turned the conversation around and we discussed our kinks, orientation and so on turned out we where a good match so I told her to ho home and sleep on it.
she booked a room for the next 3 days...
I went to the local diy stores and other adult shops.
That story was an exeption. And not in london.

The way I see it at least 80% of people will not going to find anything meaningful on dating apps.

Women will be used and men will be ignored.

I found dating apps quite harmfull. Also a waste of time and resources.

Better to go out regularly to do something productive or interesting. I got far more better results that way. With attendance comes familiarity and from familiarity you will get connections.

On a dating app we are just a bounch of photos and lines of texts, literally 2 dimensional beings for each other.

God, how much I envy gay men...

At the end just focus on yourself and/or join a mensgroup.
Gods***d my fellow inmates of solitude.

[Kc****]

I actually met my late husband on Adam4Adam 15 years ago. We chatted for about a month before we actually met. We lived about 6 blks from each and it was a Friday around midnight he was getting ready to pour a glass of pinot noir and get into the hot tub, I said that sounds awesome he said we'll if you want to join me.i said OK and walked to his house. I was there until Monday morning and he had a Jacob's Ladder piercing and was missing 3 rungs by Monday morning. Lol that was Oct We were married that next August 13th, I lost Marc my Squirrel in July of 2023 a month before our 14th wedding anniversary. It has been a very difficult year for me but I made the decision to move back to KCMO after we were gone for 8yrs. This is where we considered home and where we met. It took me a long time to figure out this where we needed to be....at it gets a bit better everyday but it doesn't make me miss him any less. I know he is with me and our dog Shelby making sure that we are not forgetting that we are here alive even though he isn't here physically with us any more. NAMESTE.

[ks****]

not tryna be funny but as an answer to your question- it could be depend on the geographical area that you live in.
I really like my state and even the part hof the state I'm in unfortunately I did find out through the data recently and to my horror@ was one time I did not want to rely on gut instinct the data backed up what I had been feeling for a couple of years

[Pr****]

I agree with geographical area being a large factor. Dating is very dead, in specific areas around the world, or specific areas within your country. But dating culture could be huge in other areas.

[Pl****]

MEETING A NICE NEW PERSON IRL IS DEF NOT DEAD STAY POSITIVE ‼️ THERES WOMEN AND MAN DYING TO BE APPROACHED, LONELY, AND THINKING THE EXACT SAME THINGS WE ARE NOW!

[Mo****]

Feels like it at times, even online dating has changed so much. I remember when there was no swiping option, and it just felt like people were trying to find someone. Other things play a part too, don't get me wrong.

I met a girl on a site once, we just got to know each other and before I knew it, I was skyping her for hours every night. She lived in another country, so didn't work out.. But I totally would have dated her in person if I could have.

[sh****]

I agree with you Platinum, but a lot of women go in on oh men just want sex and don't give a man a chance to show her who he is

[Bo****]

  15 hours ago, showtyme516 said:

I agree with you Platinum, but a lot of women go in on oh men just want sex and don't give a man a chance to show her who he is

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On the other end they don't see the difference between lust and love. The first is instant the latter needs cultivation.

Unfortunately today people been constantly receiving instant gratifications eg: ***, social media, and so on.

So if they don't get rewarded right away they don't bother to continue. Unless the prize is right ( upper mentioned lust).

I used to be lonely but now Im alone.
"I am not altogether on anybody’s side, because nobody is altogether on my side,"
I accepted solitude and since then it became a new fundation for my identity.
Im fine alone because i made peace with myself, now i can work on my weaknesses and enhance my strengths without being distracted.

Anyway I stop here for now. I hope im not talking complete bs and this helps someone who reads it.
Good luck.

[Ki****]

I'm starting to wonder that myself.

[sh****]

I agree with you @Bondage_bandit

[re****]

I wonder if dating anymore it's crazy how people just want hook up and one night stand only

[Pr****]

Is dating worth it anymore if the person is hiding things? Turning off locations? Not putting in the effort?

[Bo****]

  9 hours ago, Princess920 said:

Is dating worth it anymore if the person is hiding things? Turning off locations? Not putting in the effort?

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That's when I usualy cut my losses and move on.

[tw****]

“Dating as we once knew it” is relative to age, but as. 37 year old man dating now versus my ***s and twenties is certainly dead. Nothing is organic any more. People don’t meet in person and develop bonds too much any longer. Dating is done with intent and through phones nearly exclusively. This has women posting pictures with filters and angles that will make it hard to live up to themselves and has men feeling inadequate. It has people picking the prettiest folks they have access to rather than developing attraction to a complete person. It’s another growing *** we have to deal with in the Information Age. They say comparison is the thief of joy and now we can compare ourselves to one another other on a global scale. It’s a shame.

[Sw****]

Because of dating sites, it's always about how prettier you are the more attention you'll get. So it's pretty hard for your profile to get likes or even show up. So you'll be ***d to buy subscriptions that you don't need. Now with the rise of companies using AI software, it's easy to pick the "less attractive" out in order to get them to pay more in order to feel seen.

I hope ppl don't feel too bad. Beauty really is the eye of the beholder. If you don't get swipes, it's mostly because of these apps. I personally prefer apps to be more like this. So that ppl would have a better grasp on who a person is before moving forward in a relationship. Actually find a connection not just focusing on if you find this person attractive or not. Because then you'll find them lacking in some areas that you're valuing & it's not fair to the other person.