Question for Dom's

[jo****]

Ok question for all Dom's.

No matter the role your submissive plays. Whether light submission to extreme submission. A Dom should respect, care for, and protect his sub. Whether a casual or a life long partner. Do you agree that is how you treat the your submissive as a person?


I ask this because I am running across a lot of ladies who's profiles are telling men here that they need to be respected. That immediately telling what they should do is not proper etiquette but rude and insulting. I agree with this and why my question at the top.

Do you all agree with my assessment of how a Dom should treat his submissive as a person?

[Ca****]

My whole existence revolves around respect and consent. Once boundaries and expectations are set I’m happy to act accordingly, however a sub should be comfortable and feel safe in your control.

[Fi****]

It’s always a matter or respect.

[Ho****]

There’s a time and place for everything.
Just because ladies say they’re sub, doesn’t mean you can come out of the gate swinging. There has to be a bond and trust established first, then some boundaries.

[un****]

the issue is because while this is an agreed upon consensus this is an app and what makes it worse is this is a kink app and people have a tendency to treat other people like a sex object because for whatever reason they either don’t seem to comprehend or don’t seem to care that there is an actual person on the other side of the screen and that is why all of those messages about respect exist

[Sc****]

All doms should be considerate of their subs needs.

Aftercare is the most important part, mutual understanding of roles and building that trust is key to the dom/sub dynamic

A platform such as this enables some “doms” to hide behind a keyboard and not fully appreciate who they are engaging with.

These fake “doms” likely get their understanding of the dynamic through porn.

[da****]

Valid

[N1kas]

First, have a lot of guys here pretending to be Doms, but just searching for a fuck, or quickie. The real Doms treat their sub( not slaves)/partner with respect in every aspect of the relationship. Limits, wishes, and fetishes are under discussion and agreement. On the other hand, fake Doms neglected everything but their needs. So, in every pride, have a black sheep, and it's hard enough to separate them from real Doms. Same as fake subs.

[Deleted Member]

Yes. I think the key phrase used is, "submission is a gift". It isn't a privilege. Subs give the gift of submission to their Dom. Which entails it is earned.

So, being respectful is the way to go and treating others well is great. Even once the Dom/sub relationship is established, you are still to respect boundaries, limits and the other person. It's just that respecting a subs wish may look disrespectful on the outside, but it is what they desire in that particular relationship.

[ri****]

You should always, always ALWAYS! Take care of your sub. Yes we are there to have a good time but there safety should be first everything else after.

[co****]

They should treat them well and know how far they can go

[DivineCreature]

I believe a lot of women are posting they deserve to be respected because we get a barrage of sexual and explicit messages DAILY on here about ehat disgusting "doms" want to do to us, even if we are doms ourselves.

I have a floodgate of men sending me all manner of vile messages, I did not ask for them.

There are a LOT of men out here who claim to be doms and daddies who are literally just men who do not respect women or submissive at all.

[co****]

True

[co****]

Divine I've seen on a few profiles that any sexual messages straight away they will block them. I don't see the point in being explicit straight away. U need to get to know them a bit see if you get on

[be****]

Absolutely this 🙌🏻 So well said!

[Du****]

I been domming for around 20 years, I think open communication and complete trust is so important, and on top of that before it begins and when play is done it's super important to show love and respect, I always tell my girls that whatever they aren't into I'll never even ask, it's so important to maintain complete happiness.

[Ki****]

It's an absolute necessity. Unfortunately, it seems many do not adhere to this principle.

[Ev****]

There's a difference in how I want my Dom to treat me vs someone I'm vetting as a potential Dom. Assuming I will be submissive to you simply because I am submissive and you are dominant is an automatic non starter for me. I am submissive because I enjoy it and it feels right, however it only feels right with those who have earned that title. And what that relationship looks like should be negotiated by both the Dom and the sub.

[pa****]

I think a lot of the so called doms, just use it as an excuse to *** a woman, physically and verbally.

As a dom you need to care and respect your sub, know the limits and both enjoy

[Se****]

To be a Dominant means you are known to be trusted with a submissives vulnerability. They are Our responsibility and it shouldn’t be taken as lightly as it is. Safety is PARAMOUNT (see RACK/SSC/CCCC Protocols) and personally if a Dom/me is unaware of them, it’s a massive red flag. Too many predators adorn the Dom/me title so they can enact harm under the guise of “dominance” and it’s not okay! A conversation of boundaries and expectations come first, every single time. The submissive should always feel safe to self advocate and therefore relinquish their control. Submission is indeed a gift, and a D/s dynamic is an honor and a privilege, especially when it’s a true one.

[j_****]

Ethically you should be able to let them talk as equals to discuss concerns, and even encourage it if they’re timid. Don’t get bdsm confused with ***,

[NJ****]

A Dom is only as good as a sub and vice versa. Respect needs to go both ways. A Dom should NOT treat someone like crap just because their role is the one in control. What I like to tell Doms from before is that control is offered by subs, it’s not taken, it’s not earned. Control is provided freely from the sub. That is how I understand it in my head, so it’s just my opinion, not fact. A Dom may have control, but the sub just can easily take it back and leave if she feels threatened

[An****]

I honestly believe there can’t be any submission without mutual respect. Otherwise it’s *** and *** is the worst thing that can happen in this lifestyle (thanks 50 shades)

[Te****]

Hi (Switch here)
This is definitely an issue I have come across on both ends of the spectrum
We should all be treated with respect.
Doms are not robots, and subs are not dolls by default.
It is infinitely frustrating.

Etiquette is so important, and I feel lately it gets tossed aside.

Just my two cents

[MasterKama23]

Absolutely, there is no other way. This community and type of relationship enables very effective communication, sharing of desires to be fulfilling sexually and the dynamics of the relationship, but at the end of the day, its still humans. EVERYONE needs to be treated with respect, love and care. Even if you are someones slave, or pet or anything else. The beauty is in the innocence and care, that could drive soulmate and spiritual connection. Hope it helps.