Love & Kink

[ch****]

It can be either or both. I find that the bonds I form with men in a dom relationship/position have been far more intense than anything I’ve experienced with men I’ve dated or even been in a marital relationship with. If it is a part of your personality, then if it is excluded from the relationship, it is like trying to view a canyon at midnight using only the light of a candle. You’ll never fully see me for who I am and what I need. Which is why a BDSM relationship ends up being more intense, intimate and a different kind of affection and love.

[Yo****]

I'm pretty new to the scene but I've felt closer to the ones I've explored with but I'm not sure if it was love or not. Love to me is completely separate from s#x though. I've loved women I never slept with.

[Ba****]

I mean if you're going to look at love from a biological, psychological and chemical perspective then the oxytocin that is produced whilst having an amazing connection via sex and kink is going to cause the feelings that we call love. The chemicals released in our bodies when we have that dynamic with someone and they tick our boxes sexually will accelerate feelings of love that would happen more slowly without that. So I think love can definitely be part of a kink dynamic and for me it is actually really important because with love, comes trust and what is BDSM without trust?

[Mr****]

Hormonally speaking, Cupid’s bow is oxytocin. Love is mixed up in the pheromones of early attraction in human beings on the most elemental, rudimentary level. Kink or no kink. It’s a state of madness that most of us crave and we chase the high long after the feeling is gone.

[Ke****]

You don't actually need to have sex with a partner for oxytocin to affect you both. Just hugging can cause an oxytocin release; Why do you suppose hugging feels so good? It's not just the closeness and tacile sensations, but the oxytocin that is released as a result. Sexual arousal releases huge amounts of oxytocin, and it often happens with all your clothes on and NO SEX. Both your bodies may be ready to have sex, but the religious and social programming are so strong that sex is often avoided and other religious and socially accepted activities are substituted for sex.

[pl****]

For me… I am my kink. So it is an everyday journey. Not just behind closed doors. My Dom orders my drinks/food. Everyday when sir comes home I have dinner finish, bath water, fresh clothes. It’s a lifestyle

[pl****]

I am an everyday everything sub and he is most definitely in control of my life, our lives.

[Th****]

Both love and lust are different but also similar- inside and outside of a BDSM relationship.

[we****]

Love

[fo****]

You could work on calling the energies of love to yourself with affirmations and mirror gazing!

Aphrodite for instance is an easy name that holds symbolic relevance (our *** minds be in control, not our poor egos)

[di****]

At a club have had women approach to negoiate a kink or fetish. I can put them into subspace must control and gudie them out of subspace.

Many times their vanilla bf/husband cant do. Such as 25 orgasms