A question for Doms

[mi****]

All relationships are based on trust. Enemies, you trust their intent to harm. Friends, their intent to do no harm. And the closer to you. The greater the trust. I do make some assumptions based only on your opening. That this was to be or has been a long term, monogamous, etc. Has she been looking for a greater commitment from you? I expect so. Back to my statement on trust. A submissive, when they commit, has ceded their very being to you. That is the core of what they are. That is a trust like no other. Have you truly committed that much too them? No slight intended, but something went wrong, obviously. If any submissive feels at all like their Dom does not have or hold I them as they need, and they have tried (fairly sure they have, but it was either ignored, overlooked or outright dismissed) to let the partner know, but the Dom has not changed, yeah, they NEED to get out. I expect she had unlocked her collar long ago, you just did not notice. Let her be. Learn. And move forward.

[Je****]

They’re all just”rented or borrowed”…seldom”owned”😉

[De****]

If someone cheats on you, break up with them. That’s in any relationship. BDSM doesn’t need to be a factor.
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As far as “subs have too many choices” that’s is a horrid statement. As subs give up their choices to a Dominant they should absolutely have lots of choices as to who that Dominant. I’m monogamous and I get lots of DMs, it doesn’t tempt me to cheat. If someone wants to cheat they will do so whether they have 2 choices or 2 thousand.

[Mr_Dagger]

If you both agreed to monogamy when you entered into a D/s relationship then you had no choice unless a punishment would have sufficed. Did you both discuss this prior to collaring/vows/contract/agreement or whatever you used?

[in****]

She blatantly disrespected you. Her behavior was completely unacceptable and not how a sub should ever handle herself in a committed D/s dynamic. I think you should have severely punished her after the very first time you discovered her behavior. Sometimes only talking isn’t enough, especially with something of this severity that damages the trust in the dynamic. Since you decided to only speak to her about it, made it clear to her that her behavior was unacceptable to you, and she continued to disobey you, she absolutely had to be released.