Are threesomes Kinky?

[De****]

This is a question I ask myself regularly when using the app. It is very common to see a couple looking for a third to join them for some sexual fun. As long as everyone is consenting and into it, I think it’s wonderful. However, every time I see it I wonder to myself “when threesomes have become relatively common is it still considered non-vanilla and/or kinky?” There are no right or wrong answers, as much of BDSM, kink, and fetish is subjective? More of an open conversation that as something becomes more mainstream does it become vanilla?

[ca****]

As part of a couple seeking a third it is common for couples to look for a third but it’s not common for a woman to want to join them lol we’ve been having no luck

[Wo****]

Yes lol. Simple.

[TimberTara]

Yes, I had a similar outcome. Couldn’t find anyone to join my Dome & me. it’s very similar to people who ride in their profiles that they have open marriages and they’d like a third so somebody could watch or just spice things up. I don’t know that that ever works out. There’s gotta be jealousy at some point.

[Am****]

Me and Amber have been looking for another lady. Its not an easy scenario, especially when RL and distance often play a factor. Lump in she is new to a kinkier lifestyle so selection and finding someone willing to move at a slow get to know each other pace has been challenging

[Lu****]

Yes the can be Extremely Kinky. Just depends with who? Connection is Crucial

[Deleted Member]

If you’re familiar with the sodom and Gomorrah tale in the Bible then you’ll know that threesomes and orgy’s have been around for thousands of years. Back in those days it was not considered to be kinky or anything close to what we call bdsm now.
In fact it was a common practice globally and widely accepted everywhere. Then when God condemned man for his sexual orientation and prowess he destroyed sodom and Gomorrah and thus it became a sinful act to have sex outside of marriage or holy matrimony. So man’s sexuality was forbidden to be deemed normal and everyone went into the closet and kept those desires behind closed doors.
I don’t know how things progressed from there into the bdsm and world of kink that we know and still love today. But it’s something that has been a part of man probably since the Stone Age.

[Ki****]

I don't think of it that way. A threesome is sex just like a two-some. Are you "making love" just because it's only 2 people?

When you talk about 3somes, 4somes, gangbangs, ou're talking about the actors, not the play

[Lo****]

MMF are fun, MFM and FMF are boring

[Am****]

I hear what you mean about FFM but those could be fun with the right couple of ladies, which is definitely harder to find than the right set of men. Its like expecting a perfect star alignment.
I like watching the action for a bit, complying with requests for assistance, helping with the touching and kissing, being a flesh toy.
Whats the difference between mfm and mmf? Always thought they were the same thing. Is mfm supposed to be balls can’t touch the others? While MMF is more things are gonna touch, probably gonna grab and other stuff, get ready! ?

[De****]

  30 minutes ago, deadb0y said:

I don't think of it that way. A threesome is sex just like a two-some. Are you "making love" just because it's only 2 people?

When you talk about 3somes, 4somes, gangbangs, ou're talking about the actors, not the play

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Ooooh that is a very good point !

[Ch****]

I personally dont view a sex only 3sum as kinky, its sex just the same as 2, 3, 4 people ect.
However its different to the 'norm', lots of couples have sex but not all couples involve others

[De****]

  6 minutes ago, Cheekysub247 said:

I personally dont view a sex only 3sum as kinky, its sex just the same as 2, 3, 4 people ect.
However its different to the 'norm', lots of couples have sex but not all couples involve others

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I feel the same way. I don’t really consider it kinky. It is not the norm, but I do think it’d not uncommon at this point. However, I think an earlier comment was valid, in saying that it’s not about the amount of people. It’s about the play.

[Am****]

I think it blurs the line of kink. Its hard to say 3 people isn’t kinky when most struggle with obtaining sex with one person. Then taking into consideration (without the emotions part) of adding an additional person to the mix. It goes outside the norm, so I would say Kink.
Whether its kink or not to others doesn’t matter. Its the participants who truly decide if the act was kinky or their norm

[De****]

  9 minutes ago, AmberAndNick said:

I think it blurs the line of kink. Its hard to say 3 people isn’t kinky when most struggle with obtaining sex with one person. Then taking into consideration (without the emotions part) of adding an additional person to the mix. It goes outside the norm, so I would say Kink.
Whether its kink or not to others doesn’t matter. Its the participants who truly decide if the act was kinky or their norm

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Does the level of difficulty in “obtaining” it make it kinky? I wouldn’t think the ability to make it happen dictate if it’s kinky. For example Chris Hemsworth could probably get lots of kinds of sexy from lots of people, does that make it unkinky for him ?

[Su****]

Are threesomes kinky ?

.. having a few extra years of life under our belts.. 3’s , 4’s and gang bangs have been pretty common for the last 40 years in our experience. We suspect a lot longer given the age groups we have played with ..

The kink is not in the number .. it’s what you do when you are all together!

[Am****]

  17 minutes ago, DenverKitten said:

Does the level of difficulty in “obtaining” it make it kinky? I wouldn’t think the ability to make it happen dictate if it’s kinky. For example Chris Hemsworth could probably get lots of kinds of sexy from lots of people, does that make it unkinky for him ?

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Sleeping with someone below his station in life? Perhaps.
Kinks defy societal norms. Is there anything wrong with that? No. They are an statistical abnormality that requires choice to go beyond the normal or stick to the normal.

[Lo****]

  1 hour ago, AmberAndNick said:

I hear what you mean about FFM but those could be fun with the right couple of ladies, which is definitely harder to find than the right set of men. Its like expecting a perfect star alignment.
I like watching the action for a bit, complying with requests for assistance, helping with the touching and kissing, being a flesh toy.
Whats the difference between mfm and mmf? Always thought they were the same thing. Is mfm supposed to be balls can’t touch the others? While MMF is more things are gonna touch, probably gonna grab and other stuff, get ready! ?

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MMF guys can play (bi)
MFM guys don’t play (straight)

[Th****]

I do not see them as kinky since people who are not in kink do them. It is people just adding another body to the mix. I think that people try it to add spice or something new.

[Ki****]

Kink for me is when you add fetishes, power dynamics and non-normative sexual practices into the mix. There’s nothing inherently kinky about a threesome, but a threesome can be kinky depending on what you do and the dynamics you have. I’m in a throuole and I can guarantee our threesomes are always kinky because it’s us doing it 😂

[Am****]

  6 minutes ago, LongIslandJay said:

MMF guys can play (bi)
MFM guys don’t play (straight)

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Thanks, seems a bit 1/2 assed with mfm. Everyones already there may well do anything at that point if its fun

[ta****]

I think a threesum is kinky. It’s not a norm. You can dive into a lot of different scenarios

[Lo****]

  1 hour ago, AmberAndNick said:

Thanks, seems a bit 1/2 assed with mfm. Everyones already there may well do anything at that point if its fun

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Exactly!!!

[De****]

  2 hours ago, KinkedAndInked said:

Kink for me is when you add fetishes, power dynamics and non-normative sexual practices into the mix. There’s nothing inherently kinky about a threesome, but a threesome can be kinky depending on what you do and the dynamics you have. I’m in a throuole and I can guarantee our threesomes are always kinky because it’s us doing it 😂

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Another example could be oral sex. It can be kinky, but it isn’t necessarily kinky.

[Am****]

  1 minute ago, DenverKitten said:

Another example could be oral sex. It can be kinky, but it isn’t necessarily kinky.

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What would your definition for kink be?