Authenticity and kink

[Ro****]

I have found my authentic self through my journey in exploring kink. I enjoy ever learning and ever evolving. I'm proud of myself for living as my authentic self Vs the first few decades of my adult life trying to follow the ingrained blueprint society imprints on us. I'd like to hear about your journey. Was there ever a turning point for you?

[so****]

I'm just starting I need to learn

[Ro****]

I'm just a little duck that just got out of the egg

[Su****]

It's enabled me to bring a lot more honesty and openness into my relationships, which feels liberating

[Ob****]

For me the turning point was separating from my husband who I’d been with for 13 yrs and embarking on a journey I previously had no clue that I would… weird how life works out!

[Ga****]

That it is.

[Yo****]

I'm very new but am looking forward to exploring to the fullest

[Ms****]

When I moved to Atlanta I began living authentically me. A few family members live here, but vast majority aren't, that helped. All my friends and chosen family are all across the US and Canada.

[id****]

Tried exploring with my kids mother who I was with for 13 years and it spiced up our fun. But she ended up being invited to play with out me and wasn't as honest with our agreements to just tell each other what we want/were acceptable doing. We separated 4 years ago and I am hoping to get to experience more that I have not gotten a chance to try to find out what I really like and don't want any part of.. open to learning things I have no idea exactly what all there is that I am hoping to experience before I get to old to Really Enjoy this Single life I have now..

[sa****]

I never really thought about it like that.

[ce****]

  Wednesday at 11:35 AM, Obbork said:

For me the turning point was separating from my husband who I’d been with for 13 yrs and embarking on a journey I previously had no clue that I would… weird how life works out!

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Your story sounds very similar to mine but I’m just starting out after a separation from a 12 yr marriage. I’d love any advice you have to offer.

[Sw****]

I hope ppl won't be weird. I grew up with kink. My mom used to own an adult toy boutique. She would have showrooms. I used to sneak a ***k as to why I wasn't allowed downstairs on Sundays. I found out. My mom was giving a class on dominance.

After that, I had a bf in high school. When I was 18. At first I thought I was submissive. But later on I began to do self digging & I realized that I was actually dominant leaning. I was ashamed of expressing my desire for control so I kept it mostly to myself. Until I was in my early 20s, I began to identify with the term "Dominant leaning switch".

[Ro****]

  Saturday at 08:57 PM, central-coast724947 said:

Your story sounds very similar to mine but I’m just starting out after a separation from a 12 yr marriage. I’d love any advice you have to offer.

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My advice to someone newly discovering, it's a journey not a destination. Think of it as looking for the right flower in a giant forest of weeds. At times, it can be frustrating and overwhelming. But sometimes you gotta learn to clear the weeds to find the flower. Live and learn and have patience.

[iw****]

That explains it perfectly to me thanks for the advice

[sl****]

Fully embodying my authentic self is an ongoing endeavor for me as I, for better or worse, i am continually learning and growing, or at least I’d like to hope so.
I am brand-brand new here, still in the hesitation..turning more now to frustration phase..frustration myself a bit for hesitating and kind of being a bit of a neurotic chicken. Not to be confused with an erotic chic..mmmm.
I by nature overanalyze, overthink, (overwrite) things to death when I would benefit more from just doing.
I love that you shared this topic and how it gave you the gift of finding your authentic self.
I briefly experienced a taste of what this lifestyle choice could do for me and had hope to explore this further.
For me it was recently and my first experience of being swaddled in a basic but hindering rope
tie down. The warm feeling of safety and comfort that came over me truly surprised me and the release of past trauma being released from my body was nothing short of a miraculous healing feeling, as if demons were being released from my body.
This also of course stirs up things and I realize it will take a very patient and tolerant partner skilled at being able to walk the fine line of offering discipline and tenderness, as I can be a handful at times…exactly the reason I seek a strong dominant figure to lead..I hope to learn that letting go sometimes is the best thing and sometimes it is necessary to progress forward rather than fall backwards repeating negative patterns.

[br****]

Well you should be very happy that you've at least made the realization that you haven't been living your real life all these years. Personally I was lucky enough to be exposed at a very young age working as a bartender's helper just old enough to drive and as an athletic guy I was being taken home by women 10 15 20 25 years older than me and being taught so many things that exposed to so many things so it was easy for me to find my way early. But what I have found in life lately there's so many women in their early forties to early 50s who are just getting out of long-term vanilla relationships where they were never able to Express any of those suppressed desires wants fantasies for *** of being shamed or treated as trash by their partners who finally get out of those relationships and are totally into exploring all those things they've thought about for so many years but never acted on just makes me happy that they get to that point because truth is probably 85% of the people on the planet never actually do get to that point where they're completely honest with themselves and act on that Honesty so cheers to you and enjoy the adventure