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[ny****]

I think attraction is important in any relationship/dynamic; however, what people find attractive varies from person to person and no it’s not limited to simply appearance.

[Nononolan]

Always clean and clean clothes on

[Mi****]

  November 27, 2024, BruiseWayne said:

Here's the honest unfiltered truth, people like to downplay how important looks are. Looks actually tell a whole lot about you. Sometimes you can judge a book by it's cover, but despite that looks for most people are just what gets your foot in the door, and then chemistry and compatibility, etc is what invites you in and lets you stay a while. But you will be treated better or worse depending on who you're dealing with based solely off of how you look, whether the person means to do that or not. It's just how people are wired. No one wants to seem like they're superficial when the topic comes up either so they bend over backwards trying to convince anyone who happens to be paying attention ( and possibly themselves ) how little it actually matters, but it matters quite a bit. The good news is it's not the ONLY thing that matters though, and especially for men chasing after women your personality will count for a whole lot more than how you look unless you're in like the top 1% of ridiculously attractive looking people, lol. So to answer your question, yes most chemistry is only somewhat based on how you look and the rest comes down to how charming or funny and interesting and exciting you are. If you share the same moral framework with someone. If your interests and hobbies align, and if you have complimentary personality traits. If they think you're a good person, or someone they can see themselves starting a family with. And etc etc etc. Besides anyone who is only interested in you based off of how you look isn't someone you want to be with in the first place. Hope that helps.

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This was one of the better written, honest explanations I've ever come across

[Deleted Member]

Listen, I have an okay picture but I have more red flags than should be appropriate. Looks get the DM but it takes a special person that I’ll securely attach to. You know what I look for before responding? Respect and communication. If someone messages me without knowing me that they want to cum on my face, delete. If someone messages me and says, “Hey, I read your bio. I’m a dom. What is it about dom/sub that you’re interested in knowing more about.” I’ll probably respond. You sound like a good communicator Wes.