Inability to orgasm/ orgasm Shame

[Rope_Tension]

That's a shame, indeed. I've known people with the same difficulties.
What you need, is the reassurance, that it is perfectly fine to goof out while coming. In fact, it's quite common for men to be even more turned on, the crazier you get, when you come, because it implies total loss of control. And that's what most of us are after, in the end.
To me, watching her have a well-behaved orgasm is not as satisfying, really, as if she uncontrollably screams, twitches and makes a total mess.
All you need to do, is make yourself aware of how much that would be a compliment to him.
Gods***d!

[Be****]

Get a good toy— Get yourself off.

[di****]

We used to have a CUNT class in seattle kinky women teaching women to orgasm. Many young women could not orgasm. Many women refuse to fuck young men because the lack skill to make a slut orgasm

[di****]

Have you tried face sitting? ❤️
Getting licked first thing in the morning ❤️❤️. I had a slut who had trouble orgasm so she slept in my bed with my bff for 3 months And watched my slut and i fuck ..

We all agreed was good therapy long story just summary

[fate113]

I will suggest to have a look at the book my Theripist recommended to me. It might not help but I found some of the info helpful. It’s called “come as you are” by Emily Nagoski

[di****]

Before surgery she had a normal sex life was capable of multiple orgasms with me and bff... i did take her to a dungeon to a male who loved c & b * orture under supervision. No *** but was a help to her to take back control

[xx****]

Fauceting

[xx****]

Fauceting

[xx****]

Apparently Get won't let me tell you. Strange

[gr****]

It's the person you are with and how free they make you feel especially in the moment. Something inside you can sense something is off and you have to be confident bringing that to your partner

[Ne****]

  49 minutes ago, gray870606 said:

It's the person you are with and how free they make you feel especially in the moment. Something inside you can sense something is off and you have to be confident bringing that to your partner

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It isn’t all about the partner(s) though… there are myriad reasons why a person doesn’t/cannot/finds it difficult/is scared to…

[Squirt_addict]

I feel for you. As a 40+ sis zmale who has no problems coming now, I remember the first time, the draw back from the edge  for *** it would be ***, or just *** of the unknown, the mess ect. Plus I was Christian at the time... Indoctrination is huge in western societies, Christian shaming tabbos designed to rob ,women especially, of their devine right to access the higher consciousness thru orgams is at its heart... I think. We used to know intrinsically that orgasms were when we made our spells, our wishes, it's when we are full in the subconscious. So the best time to subconsciously manifest. Christians wanted to rob us of that power to create, and put a Man in a funny hat and building, we had to pay for, between us and the devine. And it's worked. Very well. 

 

Maybe try neuro linguistics programming ... Repeating an mantra to your self as often as possible... Like " I am devine and I deserve to receive pleasure " ... 

 

Then just believe U can and will let yourself cum, at the right time. The power of belief is key. Believe in your right to love yourself. 

Easier said than done but baby steps. Meditation and breathing based in tantra is powerful ... Lots of vids out there for beginners. 

Good luck. And love! 

[My****]

Get a waterproof mattress cover, I have three 😈
Then I order you to wet it up and get it messy now!
Hopefully you find a partner that makes you make a mess on purpose. Even if you think it’s ***, I want you to test that mattress cover and flood it.

[lonleyksboy67]

  17 hours ago, Squirt_addict said:

I feel for you. As a 40+ sis zmale who has no problems coming now, I remember the first time, the draw back from the edge  for *** it would be ***, or just *** of the unknown, the mess ect. Plus I was Christian at the time... Indoctrination is huge in western societies, Christian shaming tabbos designed to rob ,women especially, of their devine right to access the higher consciousness thru orgams is at its heart... I think. We used to know intrinsically that orgasms were when we made our spells, our wishes, it's when we are full in the subconscious. So the best time to subconsciously manifest. Christians wanted to rob us of that power to create, and put a Man in a funny hat and building, we had to pay for, between us and the devine. And it's worked. Very well. 

 

Maybe try neuro linguistics programming ... Repeating an mantra to your self as often as possible... Like " I am devine and I deserve to receive pleasure " ... 

 

Then just believe U can and will let yourself cum, at the right time. The power of belief is key. Believe in your right to love yourself. 

Easier said than done but baby steps. Meditation and breathing based in tantra is powerful ... Lots of vids out there for beginners. 

Good luck. And love! 

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I completely understand the whole religion scenario. My family is hardcore southern Baptist. Everything and I mean everything was evil and the only way you could go without being told everything is evil was if you did everything the preacher said and you had to walk, talk, live, dress and basically if you went against his demands you were worthless sinful scum on a elevator going straight to hell. All that bs never flew with me though. Unfortunately I have had to live a double life and It got so bad that I started hating myself and denying who/what I really was. I'm 43 years old now and I still have to be careful what I choose to put out there. I wish I could just truly be me but unfortunately that won't be able to happen as long as my family is around. I always told my daughter that I will always accept her no matter what she does in life. When she was 18 she sat me down and came out to me and said that she was very interested in the whole Furry scene so I damn near started crying because I had just felt the biggest form of pride and respect for her because she just did something I still struggle with when she introduced me to her truth. That was probably in the top 5 greatest moments of my life. It's just really sad that my dad will never able to feel that way I did that night.

[Deleted Member]

  November 28, Beachstar-9367 said:

Get a good toy— Get yourself off.

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Ive had toys for many years and cannot do it solo either xxx

[di****]

Yes many women wear a mans shirt when he is out of town. They love to get under a man or deep throat a toy does not do that. Forget all the chick flick magic stick with biology. Many women have certin days of cycle the need to breed plain ild biology. The go to club for a hookup young men no longer do the club is just full of women or gay men today

[di****]

Ca cunt class- a gathering of women teaching women how to orgasm. Then advise of men who know hiw to play or watching a scene and saying i want what she has... i did a *isting class 20 womwn wanted to play

[subDomcuckBull]

Your issue isn’t the orgasm in itself its the inability to relax and stop your mind from getting distracted,

just take your time and don’t worry about the orgasm forget about it don’t focus on the end goal but enjoy yourself put something sexual on screen or read something that turns you on and just play without any end goal

you are good enough, nothing that your doing is disgusting, y ok u know this though it’s just anxiety playing up be logical and you’ll get there, I think at the moment having a partner who is sexual with someone else is also detrimental and even though it isn’t true it’s added concern on top of concerns you already have

Find yourself again, your beautiful your obviously intelligent and your sexy you’ve just got accept that and believe it

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