Big difference in male and female subs

[zz****]

Why are male subs treated way different than female subs? Male submission is more about $$ than real true submission. Females are submissive but are never asked for $$???

[Su****]

This is one of the major downsides to being a male sub, if you’ve got no spare disposable income you’ve got no chance as a sub.
My submissive partner has switched for me a couple of times to give me experience but if it wasn’t for her I’d still after years of being in the lifestyle wouldn’t have had a femdom experience

[Ra****]

It’s rare but we are asked for *** or to cover the cost of things too.

[TJ****]

Likely this is a case of supply and demand.

[ge****]

I don't actually think they are treated differently - they may face different problems in finding what they seek (for instance women have to wade through all the "Doms" that have no idea).
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Yes, men are faced with "women" seeking them to part them from their cash, but that's because there are so many men out there desperate enough for attention that it makes them *** to such approaches - as a male submissive myself I can count on one hand the number of times I've actually been asked for ***, and you know why? I have my guard up against it and never let it get that far.
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There are many many Dommes who aren't looking for cash, but they are far outweighed by the number of "thirsty" male subs who either have no idea or view them as kink dispensers there to do what the sub wants and nothing else.
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The key as a male submissive is standing out, showing you know what you seek and why, being respectful and considerate of others, having a good profile on sites like this and generally making themselves appealing, as well as being able to spot the scammers - find all that and there are no guarantees, but the experience will be improved 100%

[An****]

That's an easy question to answer but the truth often catches flak.

[DD0001]

Sometimes the answer lies in the way guys market or handle themselves (not just in D/s but generally). I have found that a lot of males don't want to put in the work and they tend to go down the easiest path to get women (Doms or otherwise), either by offering *** or gravitating towards the FinDommes as they offer easier opportunities. I personally have advised my female friends to go down that path too to take advantage of male desperation. If there is a market for it, why not?

If there are less desperate men around, there won't be a market for it and Dommes will gravitate less towards the FinDomme aspect of D/s.

Why are there less women subs being charged? Because most of the Doms out there just want to get laid and will not charge as that will lessen their opportunity to get laid.

If I was a male sub, I would market myself differently and to a different target audience. It might be more work, but it will be less about the financial side of things.

To be fair, there are also a lot of male 'Doms' who pay for a female sub. Same reasoning. If you don't want to pay, market yourself differently. I have no issues meeting with female subs without financial stimulus and that is because I offer something different, I know my market and specifically avoid the "wrong" market (by wrong, I mean any subs whose interests don't align with mine). I don't shotgun my approach to everyone like a lot of guys do.

Know your fetish, write your profile to reflect your interests and approach only those whose interests match yours. You will have a much better success rate and attract less of those who are only interested in financial gain.

[Mr****]

Because dominant females are much more rare than desperate submissive men who are willing to pay $$?

[co****]

Facts 👍

[CopperKnob]

Is it, though? Or is it more a matter of some male subs taking an approach that brings them to the attention of either scammers or Findoms?

[le****]

Ya this is what I have found. It’s kind of sad. They don’t want a sub unless they are benefiting from it financially. I just want to be owned and punished. I don’t want to give up my credit card lol. 😂

[UK****]

I think the differences are more than just about $£.  That one goes to supply and demand.  There are many more male subs than dommes so it creates the opportunity for some to exploit that situation.

 

Edited Saturday at 10:34 AM by UK_Knight
clarity

[Sexyhexy34]

I don't think it's about being sub... in every category men are treated differently, dating sites charge men more, make them pay more, as a female I've joined kinky sites and been given free gold membership just because I was a real female using the site whereas men were charge 30pm... men are treated like shit in anything sexual online.... look at the onlyfans culture...... I think women need to stop exploiting men, even in everyday life, it seems to stem from this fake version of feminism and getting their own back

[co****]

I've never met nor seen one on line that hasn't been either a gold digger or scammer 😆 though it is quite funny to lead them on and see how long It takes them to ask for *** then fuck with their head till they realise they ain't going to get nothing it's very amusing 🤣 but I've met some offline and it's not like that at all they are a lot more professional and take it alot more seriously and don't just want your ***

[wy****]

24 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

Is it, though? Or is it more a matter of some male subs taking an approach that brings them to the attention of either scammers or Findoms?

When I meet other female doms 7 in 10 thinks their subs should come with financial support. I think that’s a problem

[iw****]

Desperation plays a huge role in this "problem". There are many men that are so starved for female attention that they'll pay for it. Now there are some men that get off from being "pay pigs" but i think some women take advantage of lonely guys with a wallet and low self worth. Theres really 2 sides to the coin. My take is dont engage if it's not for you 🤷🏽‍♂️

[Ar****]

2 hours ago, DD0001 said:

Why are there less women subs being charged? Because most of the Doms out there just want to get laid and will not charge as that will lessen their opportunity to get laid.

I'm not sure this is true, though I think it would make an excellent topic for further exploration. 

[Attaboy4u]

Interestingly I have heard that the cost of paying for men is is much more than females IRL. But online it's honestly a shit show of financial interest only, I'd estimate it's over 95%. It doesn't matter if I am clear that I'm not interested on my profile, it's the same results. I don't really use this for anything more than conversation and memes

[Ch****]

3 hours ago, DD0001 said:

Sometimes the answer lies in the way guys market or handle themselves (not just in D/s but generally). I have found that a lot of males don't want to put in the work and they tend to go down the easiest path to get women (Doms or otherwise), either by offering *** or gravitating towards the FinDommes as they offer easier opportunities. I personally have advised my female friends to go down that path too to take advantage of male desperation. If there is a market for it, why not?

If there are less desperate men around, there won't be a market for it and Dommes will gravitate less towards the FinDomme aspect of D/s.

Why are there less women subs being charged? Because most of the Doms out there just want to get laid and will not charge as that will lessen their opportunity to get laid.

If I was a male sub, I would market myself differently and to a different target audience. It might be more work, but it will be less about the financial side of things.

To be fair, there are also a lot of male 'Doms' who pay for a female sub. Same reasoning. If you don't want to pay, market yourself differently. I have no issues meeting with female subs without financial stimulus and that is because I offer something different, I know my market and specifically avoid the "wrong" market (by wrong, I mean any subs whose interests don't align with mine). I don't shotgun my approach to everyone like a lot of guys do.

Know your fetish, write your profile to reflect your interests and approach only those whose interests match yours. You will have a much better success rate and attract less of those who are only interested in financial gain.

Well done you are a great human being.
To use a comparison I should be encouraging all of my male friend to not commit to any of you and consider all of you opportunistic.

Eventually you don’t really understand how man works but still you contribute to exploit them with the very few things you know enough to do it instead of comprehend and empathize with them..

You can afford to select your market and to not ***tergun just because you are a woman otherwise things would drastically change for you..

Man always end up paying indipendently by the points of views and indepently by the field and the occasion and the reason behind is pretty simple: we represent the demand and not the offer, cause our need to sex and to human contact is driven by necessity, our biology designed us this way..

Man have to wake up about it but still there is not much to do beside accepting things how they are.. Be aware

I hope that I won’t be attacked at least by man 😂 as it happens usually when I just try to support our points..

[Ch****]

2 hours ago, Sexyhexy34 said:

I don't think it's about being sub... in every category men are treated differently, dating sites charge men more, make them pay more, as a female I've joined kinky sites and been given free gold membership just because I was a real female using the site whereas men were charge 30pm... men are treated like shit in anything sexual online.... look at the onlyfans culture...... I think women need to stop exploiting men, even in everyday life, it seems to stem from this fake version of feminism and getting their own back

Bravo 👏

[Su****]

It’s a problem unfortunately no one can change, dommes just want ***. There is the odd few that do it for their own enjoyment but they are hard to come by

[CopperKnob]

2 hours ago, wycombe680 said:

When I meet other female doms 7 in 10 thinks their subs should come with financial support. I think that’s a problem

I wonder what that stems from if we look at the bigger picture...🤔

[Rainydaye88]

This is all my opinion but I tend to also have better discussions with female subs over male subs. Men in general can be pretty insufferable (obligatory: Not all men statement [but enough to be a problem]). Even when I've clearly said no that I'm not interested, that's when they start throwing *** so there's also the factor of regardless of being a sub male, they are pushing as if they can buy their way into the situation they want.

[CopperKnob]

3 hours ago, Sexyhexy34 said:

I don't think it's about being sub... in every category men are treated differently, dating sites charge men more, make them pay more, as a female I've joined kinky sites and been given free gold membership just because I was a real female using the site whereas men were charge 30pm... men are treated like shit in anything sexual online.... look at the onlyfans culture...... I think women need to stop exploiting men, even in everyday life, it seems to stem from this fake version of feminism and getting their own back

"In every category, men are treated differently"
By the same token, women are treated differently to men? But yep, let's not exploit the men, hey 🤣
I wonder which, of all the genders, across all the centuries, have had the most power over others.
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But also, let's not kink shame, Findom is a kink for some.

And if it's not a kink, if men are silly enough to part with their cash, so be it. I just wonder what they were wearing or what they'd had to drink at the time...🤷‍♀️

[Rainydaye88]

I think my last message got removed, but the general summary is based on my opinions

I prefer talking to female subs over male subs. While I know it's not an "all men" issue, men don't seem to handle no or just being human very well and if they don't get what they want they think they can throw finances in to leverage their situation from a no to a yes.

This isn't even just a sub issue. It's a man issue. For the better part of a year, I've been thinking of changing all my preferences to not include men because of this behavior, but I still hold out that it can't be all men, right? Then some d-bag shows up in my inbox. In the bitterness, I'm starting to see why fin-doms are *** first with male subs. If it means dealing with less of the worse.