Age Differences in D/s Relationships

[Wyattator]

I see dominants with younger submissives quite often, and it feels like a natural dynamic to me. The reverse doesn't. I feel like the difference in life experience would be a detriment to a dom. Maybe not for a scene, but definitely for a relationship. What's everyone else's thoughts on the matter? I'm willing to be wrong!

[ey****]

Well, my former Mistress is now 32 and I'm 38.  One of her other subs is 40s/50s and another, her longest serving, is in his 70s.

I think that age doesn't necessarily equate to experience.  And that, potentially where it does, an experienced sub can use their knowledge/experience/etc as part of their service to their Dominant.

[pu****]

My last sub was more experienced than I was and much younger.

[vi****]

it's not a rule mate, I'm 25 and the youngest sub I've had since i turned 25 was 27 years old and the oldest 38 years old, being a domm or a sub is a thing in the personality of each person and it's there even in daily life when you deal with anyone from your mail man to your boss at work, age is just a number and it has nothing to do with your experience or your ability to be a domm or a sub

[mi****]

I believe that normally age and maturity does play a part on a M4F Dom/sub relationship. A male of more age has his life in order to impart that sense of control on a partner.
But people are different,it's not totally unheard of a young male with a mature sub fem

[na****]

Hello

[Wo****]

I personally would prefer a dom older than me. But that's just my preference. Each relationship is it's own thing.

[Mi****]

I prefer a more mature woman as a dom personally.

[sm****]

Age is only a number

[Mi****]

Young Doms (30 and under) do not have the training, knowledge, or maturity need to have a 247 D/s relationship. I do find that a younger man can be more fun though... And you don't have to worry about ED or anything like that.

[da****]

Yeah older Dom's are natural to me, I can't get behind someone with less experience controlling me

[lo****]

I have always been attracted to older women and because I have anorgasmia that makes it nearly impossible to orgasm without being made love to in my ass. I have always felt that older women understand the situation and how to turn it from being an awkward situation into a beautiful and loving situation with feelings and closeness. I don't like to be dominated I love to be treated as an equal and made love to with a strapon while exchanging kisses wrapping my arms and legs around my woman and locking eyes in loving embrace. That's what I'm looking for instead of just being fucked by a woman cock and humiliated. I didn't ask for this problem but I've learned to accept it. Only older women understand that. I don't have to be dominated to be a submissive. I have a nice cock and it works great. I just can't cum without a woman doing me like she likes to be done. With love and affection.

[Wo****]

My current Dominant is significantly younger than I am. My best friend (another dominant) is nearly 30 years my junior yet both these men are as dominant (if not more so) than my previous Dominants.

Biological age just denotes how many years we've been around, it doesn't denote maturity, knowledge or experience.

Pirate, who is nearly 20 years younger than me is the most experienced dominant I've known. His knowledge of bdsm and kink far outshines that of older people I know.

I appreciate that some people care about age differences but personally i really do believe age is just a number.

[Ma****]

Everyone's different. Younger doesn't necessarily equate less experience. Maybe I'm biased, since I'd rather dom and I'm fairly young still. I understand your point, though, even if I want to dominate, people seldom take me seriously because of my age and height.

[Tw****]

Me being a younger submissive that doesn't have a mistress, I can kinda relate to this. I see doms that are 30-40 and subs that are 18-20 or even younger.

[Deleted Member]

I have only experienced Doms around my age or older (by about 9ish years) than me until the end of last year. I was with a Dom who was 7 years younger than me. We didn't meet online just in my local rock pub. He looked around 24 but then he told me he was 18. I was at first put off by his age but one thing lead to another and he was one of the most experienced Doms I've been with. He was also great at aftercare and he was very caring. So age and experience/knowledge are two different things. But i could not date or be in a relationship with someone so much younger than me, especially at this point in my life. We were just in very different places but it worked kink wise  

[nt****]

I think it is more about the person and there personality. Someone young who has put in the time to learn the skills and who has the right temperament can definitely be better than an older person who hasn't. As for the sub being older again I see no issues. I consider myself quite dominant but if I had a sub with much more experience and training I see nothing wrong with using their knowledge. It will things more pleasurable for everyone. Dominant, to me, is the attitude not a number. A good dom should always be trying to learn even if it is from a more experienced sud.