Am I too Vanilla

[No****]

Bg most these men on here are fakes. They are like im an experienced dom and theyre 19 years old, or have done nothing. Everyone is just curious mostly. This whole app to me is fet curious. I have had 1 maybe 2 men the entire yearsss ive been here who were actually dominant men. As in … listen. Care. Dominant. Amazing. And continue to keep in touch. Rare….. rare. Most these guys have no idea how to do that. Dont sweat anything. Im more dominant than 75% of these guys but i want a dominant man. I want a real ass dominant man they just are rare

[di****]

Sub space and squirting is a new skill women enjoy for a woman to negoiate her kinks and fetishes even her husband doesent know or cant do. I ask her to invite her bff next visit

[Ma****]

Ignore anyone with that attitude everyone is on a journey and that is personal to them. To many pretenders on here trying to self gratify with no understanding of the lifestyle. Be strong be true to you x

[Deleted Member]

Of course it's uncommon. This app is literally about kinks and fetishes. It's a dating app for specifically BDSM. If you're not a dom/sub/switch, it would be helpful in getting to talk to people if you at least know about a few fetishes you have. Otherwise you're probably not gonna find anything to connect over

[jf****]

Who cares what everybody else says you do you

[jf****]

  1 minute ago, jfath85 said:

Who cares what everybody else says you do you

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You’ll find people who like to be a little vanilla, but maybe a little more on the Dom side and you can be with that. Or vice versa and you’re cool with that that’s fine. I understand this app is made for and kind of focused on it but you don’t have to be 100% anything.

[Kr****]

If you ever had sex and been turned on by anything specific that made you need to masturbate for relief then guess what that's a kink/fetish and that makes you into kink/bdsm.

[Ca****]

I don’t care for it my self

[Si****]

This is totally fine. Anyone who shames you for this should themselves be ashamed. My best friend is as you describe; loves kink but has zero interest in power exchange dynamics. Everyone’s different and if doesn’t make you any less kinky. Whether your kink, vanilla, whatever, etc. is only up to you. No one else

[AJ****]

People who think this is specifically a BDSM site are mistaken. It is a fetish/kink site. I'm sorry narrow minded people have tried to pigeonhole/shame you. Please try to ignore the jerks and get kinky in your own way.

[De****]

No one should shame you for what you do and don’t like. This place is for all kinds of kinks, not just BDSM. Yes, there is a lot of BDSM here, but you have as much right to be here as anyone. Don’t let haters get you down.

[St****]

One of my kinkiest friends isn’t into BDSM. She has no interest in power exchange at all.
You are supposedly on the correct site but there are a lot of people in the world that believe that kink ends at BDSM. They are uninformed as you can see. I’m sorry they have treated you poorly. I hope you can find a wonderful person/s that can help you play your kink!

[Si****]

Absolutely not, lots of ways to be kinky that don't involve being tied down with someone who wants you tied up

[xx****]

I am certain you are in the right place, Minx. Your truth is your truth. It should not matter to any other. Unfortunately however, there does exist that weird group of folks who believe for whatever reason, that the pepper shaker has only one spot on the table and they are gonna insist on having it there. Fet world has this wonderful thing that allows each of us to stand as an individual, unashamed for our truths. Block their damn fool asses. Then go on about your merry adventures, enjoying the smells of the flowers along the way. Peace

[Ar****]

Gosh the amount of people commenting who don't understand what BDSM is is frightening. I'm not judging, but this is why educational discussion is so important. Where did that go?

[Deleted Member]

  14 hours ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

Why are you on a BDSM site if you aren't into BDSM?

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I guess you also can't read

[xx****]

It does not matter a person's understanding of any kink. What matters is a person's right to live who they believe themselves to be. If my thoughts, words, actions, or appearance offend you, you have every right to block me. I would encourage you to do so, less stress for all concerned. But to belittle a person because they do not enjoy whatever it is you do enjoy is just stupid. If I enjoy every flavor of ice cream except tuna fish, does that make it right for those that do enjoy tuna fish icecream to treat me any different. No, it does not.
Aranhis, I concur. Information is readily available, there are nuances within that most seem to ignore. Peace to all

[xx****]

Contained within each kink that deserve exploration or explanation. Self education should be a part of the lifestyle

[Ca****]

You like what you like, Honey. If you dont like things that's okay too. There is nothing in this world that is for literally everyone. Shame on that person for making you feel that way.

[Mr****]

You don’t have to be into bdsm to be non vanilla. Whoever is shaming you is stupid and should mind their own business. You do what makes you happy and gets you off.

[Ha****]

It is uncommon to not be into D/s relationships here but that does not give anyone the okay to shame you for whatever you’re into or not into.

I find that this app has a lot of people who don’t truly understand kinks and bdsm in general (I mean … just look at these comments). There are naturally going to be pluses and minuses to having so many inexperienced people on a kink app. You will find gems on here who are respectful and knowledgeable and hopefully are into what you’re into.

If you’re open to some advice here’s a suggestion: put more specific wording in your bio about what you are or are not into. I totally understand if you’re not comfortable with that because I personally don’t enjoy allowing strangers to have access to that knowledge … and most people don’t read it anyway haha but it could help filter out some noise.

So sorry if you’re feeling any confusion, are feeling not welcome here, or are feeling less inspired about your kinks because of people on here. I wish you the best of luck 🍀

[Di****]

I dom myself to find doms who can help me with my submissive joy tendencies and I also need to be receiving submissive joy from my dominance. Otherwise I feel like an arse. If you don’t want it, your beau will feel it. Ladies can be very lazy. And guys, need a few practice sessions before you bust the big paddle out or honey and ants etc.

[Sc****]

  17 hours ago, Nonnahs said:

Bg most these men on here are fakes. They are like im an experienced dom and theyre 19 years old, or have done nothing. Everyone is just curious mostly. This whole app to me is fet curious. I have had 1 maybe 2 men the entire yearsss ive been here who were actually dominant men. As in … listen. Care. Dominant. Amazing. And continue to keep in touch. Rare….. rare. Most these guys have no idea how to do that. Dont sweat anything. Im more dominant than 75% of these guys but i want a dominant man. I want a real ass dominant man they just are rare

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This 1000X

[Be****]

There's no such thing as too vanilla or too anything. No one is allowed to criticize your interests or how kinky you are. Everyone has their own preferences and that's absolutely okay.

[IneffableGent]

Don’t worry about others because we’re all different. The site isn’t called BDSM it’s Fet or fetish and BDSM is just a part of that so don’t feel the need to label yourself to please others. Exploring your fetishes is about staying true to yourself and your needs which some will understand and others will not, it is those that are saying you’re too vanilla or trying to criticise you.