Trust: The Unshakable Foundation of BDSM, A Dom's perspective.

[No****]

Honestly, that’s exactly it.
I love that you talk about consistency. When there isn’t any, it leaves room for doubt. When there’s doubt, the connection weakens and when it does, the actions follow. Your connection during scenes weakens as well and isn’t fulfilling for either partner.
I know personally I can’t let go and be in the moment and act out what I want to when my partner leaves space for me to wonder what my role is or what their thoughts of me are.