Gangbang etiquette

[el****]

Hello all, I've been invited to my first ever gangbang with a bunch of bi guys and a female submissive. What is the etiquette around gangbangs?

[Arasjal]

In Germany WE Bring a potatosalad as a guestgift🤷🏻

[ge****]

Same etiquette as any other kind of sexual coming together - be respectful and considerate of others involved, discuss boundaries etc beforehand, understand any limits

[My****]

Must bring a bottle of liquor preferably tequila

[lo****]

Make sure there's plenty of water for hydrating and also things to clean up with when needed, such as body wipes or rags you can get wet with water and gentle soap.

[ey****]

As a rule 1. If in doubt, check with the hosts.

But,

Even without checking get a STI test *now* for peace of mind - it'd be good practice to also get one a few weeks after.   

Gifts are not usually expected, but check.... ditto for payment 

Check rules and limits as different people have different rules. Typically (but not always) it'd be condoms for penetration, some permit oral or handjobs without condom, some would require it.  Some will permit you to finish on them (check where!) some it'd have to be in the condom

You should familiarise with all boundaries and limits.

Arrive on time.  Shower in advance. Clean everywhere including underneath foreskin. Do not wear strong aftershaves.  If you are unshaven (face...) check before giving oral.

Do not try to push anyone around, either the lady or any other guys.

Leave when you're asked, but it is always polite to ask if there's anything needs help with for clean up.

 

If you cannot get hard, this sometimes happens.  If there are not fluffers booked, this is on you to deal with.  It's not a big deal, do not make it a big deal.

If someone else cannot get hard, then, that's on them, but you can be sympathetic within reason.

I've seen guys talk up how great they are at sex/swinging/gbangs who've then not got hard and that wasn't the issue, people then eyerolled at what a big deal he made and that he tried to blame others; his body - it happens.

[be****]

37 minutes ago, MysteryDee said:

Must bring a bottle of liquor preferably tequila

Hell nah my gangbangs are 100% sobriety required. Always check in with the host!!

[Ga****]

2 hours ago, Arasjal said:

In Germany WE Bring a potatosalad as a guestgift🤷🏻

Hahaha that is actually kind of cute, wholesome if you will 🥹

[Ki****]

If the other male participants are bi, are you? What happens if you get hit on?

[be****]

2 hours ago, Arasjal said:

In Germany WE Bring a potatosalad as a guestgift🤷🏻

Just brought cookies and cheesecake to ours 😂 for after, of course

[ey****]

1 hour ago, Kinky_Auld_Bastehrd said:

If the other male participants are bi, are you? What happens if you get hit on?

then it's not a gangbang, it's an orgy.  

[No****]

Take the lead before things get odd

[da****]

Be careful which ass you penetrate

[No****]

Remember what you are there for, if the if the female submissive is the purpose focus solely on her.

[ey****]

with slight seriousness, as there's a few comments that suggest they've never been to a gangbang

The person at the centre, typically the lady, is the 'guest of honour'

You would typically only be interacting with her, and following her limits, boundaries and wishes.  Your boundaries are valid also, so if she wants to be spitroasted, dp, tp, etc and this is not your bag, you don't have to partake.  It is certainly worth finding any aims she has up front, because while you would be only interacting with her; if it sounds like she wants two cocks in her mouth/ass/wherever at once and you don't want to rub cocks with a stranger than that element might not be for you

Most gangbangs have a spotter which is usually her boyfriend/partner or a close friend - they would not typically be involved in the gb but would be watching to make sure everyone is respecting limits and who could answer questions on consent etc in some cases. 

If you've been invited then it is a group scene, it's not one on one sex - don't hog or push others out. It is her lead (either directly or via the spotter) and certainly do not attempt anything not previously discussed without running by her (if poss) or via the spotter (most likely)

I'm actually not sure what the relevance of the other guys being bi has to do with anything - unless, of course, this is to help with fluffing.  This could be a bonus

[Ki****]

I’ll go with the bonus… 😈

[Re****]

Have fun, don't be a wallflower. If she is there she wants to be used and directed. If they are bi- go for a double insertion if that's what you are into. Just assume they are down and grab a dude and tell him what your plan is. If they are not down they will pass and someone else will volunteer. She will not say no guaranteed

[ChocolateRopeBunny]

I am learning so much from this discussion. Thank you to those that have given insight