Chastity

[Deleted Member]

Long  thread so bare with me.

A few weeks before Xmas went away with wife for weekend, (both 50) and had some fun and games (light bondage etc) afterwards when everything was a bit floppy, she pulls out a male chastity cage and asks me to wear it.

All good with some help it's on, and it's super tight(metal tube with a *** hole. So wore it all night and woke up very aroused but cock trapped in cage.

Assumed she would unlock it and we would have some fun. Nothing she never even looked at it just got dressed and went home after breakfast.

We are now 3 weeks on, she never mentions it although I'm constantly asking what's going on, in bed she literally ignores me not even facing me, when I I try and touch her my hand is slapped away. There is no communication.

I have tried to remove this device with no success pulling and turning, (I googled the cock cage it was over a 100 pounds) I would get it if it were some sort of sex game but she's just ignoring me?

I have asked for the key it's some sort of bolt lock, and she dosnt even acknowledge there's an issue. We literally have now stopped talking to each other .

Any thoughts Help?

[sc****]

If you are not in a TPE, or this is something that has not been negotiated, ie you didn't give consent or even expressed that this might be a fantasy, I would end it. Go to the hospital and get it removed. This is wrong. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this

[Th****]

Unless she has your consent, you need to call the cops, leave her, and go to the hospital and get it removed.

Hopefully this is just fantasy fap material. Because otherwise, this is wrong on various levels.

[ey****]

So - yeah - this sounds like it's just a fantasy for numerous reasons

A bolt lock would be too heavy and would pull the cage off.  The padlocks used for chastity are typically light, in most cases the lock can be snapped, picked or easily cut off without specialist cutters.

If, and I don't believe you one jot, this is true - then it is a medical risk : especially if it's one fitted with the sound as you imply (so, erm, how are you going to the toilet?!) and you know what, I've entertained this bullcrap long enough.

[wa****]

This is an uncomfortable read. It’s *** on so many levels. I would say to her verbally, and on a message that you want the cage removing.. the message for evidence. I would then be going to the hospital and calling the police as I feel you were coerced into wearing something ,that you were led to believe would lead to something and it hasn’t. That’s cruel. The fact you’ve tried to get it off demonstrates this is absolutely not what you want. Be clear and strong, ask for removal and if not, go to the hospital and you’ll have further documentation for *** and ***. I’m going to take a wild guess that this isn’t the only ***.. please seek the help needed here.

[Ko****]

Hmmm, new entry pop pickers on the list of things that never happened!

Aside from the points others have made, I’ve used metal chastity cages for several years and I’ve not found one yet I couldn’t get out of if I really wanted. The secret is you can’t get back in without the key. So it would be obvious to any keyholder if you took it off.

The only cages impossible to remove without the key or causing harm are ones which incorporate a PA piercing.

If being locked away without your immediate consent is a fantasy, I’d recommend finding someone with whom you can give prior consent to it happening at a time of their choosing in the future.

If by some strange turn of events, your story is true, you’re being ***d. You already know what you need to do. You don’t need anyone here to point it out.

[Se****]

Hey folks so what exactly happened to kindness and helping others??? There are a couple replies on here that are really eye opening, wow.

I get that anyone and everyone could be lying about, well, anything and everything but seriously?!?!? Someone who may well be in an abu$ive relationship is reaching out for advice/help/support and the first thing some of you do is accuse them of lying? Come on, we can do better than this.

As someone who has BEEN in an abu$ive relationship one of the reasons I didn’t reach out to people was, you guessed it, F€AR OF NOT BEING BELIEVED. You (I hope) have no idea how hard it can be to reach out or say the words, so instead of coming along and making negative assumptions please let’s aim for support and kindness.

OP I’m sincerely sorry you’re in this position. I don’t know enough about cages to have answers I’m afraid. But I do know that non consensual acts are not ok in any way shape or form (barring the obvious CNC before anyone pipes up, which is different). Please look up some resources in your area re domestic abu$e and reach out to them.

This situation is not safe or normal and needs to be dealt with. I hope you get the help and support you need and deserve.

X

Edited December 30, 2024 by SerendipitousKeeper

[Deleted Member]

Jeez, I think this was my first and probably my last post on here.

There seems to be a lot of very angry Males(mostly) who have issues in people sharing things.

Thanks to those who reached out in support, things have moved on slightly, the cage will be removed after my business trip, on the 8th. There seems to be a trust issue( the irony is not lost on me) with a colleague I'm going away with. As in the wife does not trust me or her, that I've still to work out.

In saying that I told her I had posted on here for advice, and she was pretty taken aback, I honestly don't think she knew how it was effecting me, or maybe I'm just a fool, or as most people on here think a bare faced liar.

 

[Se****]

  21 minutes ago, Slim1118 said:

Jeez, I think this was my first and probably my last post on here.

There seems to be a lot of very angry Males(mostly) who have issues in people sharing things.

Thanks to those who reached out in support, things have moved on slightly, the cage will be removed after my business trip, on the 8th. There seems to be a trust issue( the irony is not lost on me) with a colleague I'm going away with. As in the wife does not trust me or her, that I've still to work out.

In saying that I told her I had posted on here for advice, and she was pretty taken aback, I honestly don't think she knew how it was effecting me, or maybe I'm just a fool, or as most people on here think a bare faced liar.

 

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Sincere apologies if I caused any offence with my comment. (This reply is not a pity me comment, it’s a genuine apology). 

[Th****]

  21 minutes ago, Slim1118 said:

Jeez, I think this was my first and probably my last post on here.

There seems to be a lot of very angry Males(mostly) who have issues in people sharing things.

Thanks to those who reached out in support, things have moved on slightly, the cage will be removed after my business trip, on the 8th. There seems to be a trust issue( the irony is not lost on me) with a colleague I'm going away with. As in the wife does not trust me or her, that I've still to work out.

In saying that I told her I had posted on here for advice, and she was pretty taken aback, I honestly don't think she knew how it was effecting me, or maybe I'm just a fool, or as most people on here think a bare faced liar.

 

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Most adults don't refuse to communicate, unless they are highly toxic. 

Why did you even let her cage you in the first place? You can say no.

What gets me the most is that on your profile, you repeatedly say that you love to dominate women.

 

This whole thing just seems extra crazy. Why didn't you stop her? Where is the consent and communication?

[AS073]

Many of the keys used in commercial chastity cages can be bought as replacement. You can buy the same cage again and the keys should be the same.

[Deleted Member]

  4 minutes ago, AS073 said:

Many of the keys used in commercial chastity cages can be bought as replacement. You can buy the same cage again and the keys should be the same.

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This is an option I'm actively looking at, (think i can get it of Amazon) but honestly I would feel as if I was actually cheating on her. Marriage eh, you can't beat it!!!

[ChastitySub4Use]

I've been in chastty for 20yrs, various types, started with the the plastic stuff but now am in stainless wire cages mostly.

agree with earlier comments, easy to pull out of unless a PA fitted which I used to have. BUT can dremel off the locking tabls on the brass locks in 2 mins or use bolt cutter to snip the padlocks.

Point is, they are not there to prevent you doing things, they are there as a reminder you are owned?

and in my experience the cages with urethral tubes are rubbish as the tubes too small/narrow and cause leaks.

for long term wear it is best just to have the smallest ring you can take/appropriate plus a small glans covering wire cage that can we worn in bath shower and easily washed/dried. The tube designs get sweaty, damp and smelly even after a day so are not suitable for long term wear and are not healthy! 

I'm currently in an amazing device bought for me by my mistress for xmas, inverted cage with spherical union for my glans, and a bolt on dildo for her pleasure BUT it has P tube so can allow P'ing at urinal as normal with almost zero leakage at base unlike so many other cages I have been fitted to. Not designed for long term wear but oddly been in it a week and love it. most comfortble cage ever been in, love being able to P at urinals again and love fact mistress effectively hasd a strap on permantly fitted :-)

 

Edited January 3 by ChastitySub4Use

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set of lock picks ...useful hobby and in thus case very useful to solve the problem 

[Be****]

This post is likely bullshit. But if not, drill the lock. File for divorce claiming sexual and mental ***. Take the house, leave her the cage.

[ey****]

  On 12/30/2024 at 3:08 PM, SerendipitousKeeper said:

I get that anyone and everyone could be lying about, well, anything and everything but seriously?!?!? Someone who may well be in an abu$ive relationship is reaching out for advice/help/support and the first thing some of you do is accuse them of lying? Come on, we can do better than this.

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over the past few years - there's been posts on and off where someone will pose as a guy with a problem - it's always some form of covet ***. (there was one tried a variance of the same post 3 times, "my partner told me she wants to kick me in the head - what do I do?") 

And they come with this kinda problem that they all smell off, but "what if they're telling the truth?" and, sometimes, "what if they are lying BUT someone else is in a similar boat?" and that is what they feed off.   

To a degree, I'm not sure if all of these posts over the years have in fact been the same person.   I'm not even entirely sure what the motivation is for these posts - whether there's some kinda cheap kick, or if it's hope for attention ("Oh no, poor baby!") 

But, as I say. They feel off, but you don't want to be all "I don't believe you" and it humours them and the cycle continues.

And, I'm sorry - but the OPs story, and follow up posts has two much bullshit to humour.   He is a fantasist, he is making up this whole scenario - and - honestly, this gets me angry because this to a degree mocks people who have been in relationships which are abusive.

The kinda tells something is off included - that it was locked with a bolt lock - these are two big and heavy for chastity cages, he mentions a price but the price is about standard - it's not some high end inescapable chastity device - he'd mentioned it had been locked on "a few weeks" which if it was super tight and inescapable would have become a medical issue (let alone how he was going to the toilet?) and even that when talking to his wife she said she'd remove it.... two weeks later... and he's accepted that?! That someone suggested buying an identical one to have access to a key (since the ones with inbuilt locks which are tougher to open tend to use the same key) and he'd said he'd "thought about it" but that would feel like "cheating" which questions on how much of an emergency this was - he tried to get out, but shunned the idea which would get him out?!

But you know what I don't doubt? That in 18-24 months someone will try a variation of this story on the forum, possibly trying to iron out the holes mentioned again presenting as a problem, hoping people have forgot or there's some form of natural churn in users.