Birth contraception

[sa****]

Should birth contraception be assumed or not assumed when first hooking up? Has it become the standard or should we all still be confirming.

[Ha****]

Not assumed

[lu****]

I think not assumed, but communicated anyway so we can talk options

[lu****]

I would absolutely confirm, for me it doesn't matter because I am shooting blanks. But I already pay child support, I would hate to have to pay and then possibly not have a relationship with the child. Just my thoughts.

[Th****]

Nothing should be assumed. You should always ask.

[Deleted Member]

There are a lot of baby traps out there

[qu****]

I would NEVER assume anything. That should always be a part of the conversation.

[Si****]

Gobsmacked at the question -
But it kinda explains so many accidental pregnancies
Side point - there’s no need to include the word birth.
Contraception isn’t transferable to another context

[ge****]

Not only should contraception be confirmed but also the preferred contraception - if it's random hook ups then condoms all the way, and even if it's not an adult conversation about it is in order.

[Deleted Member]

Great question. If you want a child and pay child support for 20 years. Throw caution in the and just roll the dice. Other wise do not trust and demand a condom. Be a responsible grown up.

[Mr****]

Nothing is a standard. Everyone does different things. How can you know that person is using it? Never assume. Always confirm. 100% without a doubt.

[MissViolett]

Just wondering... Have you heard of sexually transmitted diseases? Do you get testet after every contact?

[Deleted Member]

Confirm and suit up. Even if someone is on birth control it's not always 100% accurate. Also being cautious with STDs etc when playing with multiple partners.

[Th****]

  7 minutes ago, Hosch said:

Great question. If you want a child and pay child support for 20 years. Throw caution in the and just roll the dice. Other wise do not trust and demand a condom. Be a responsible grown up.

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What always gets me is the overwhelming amount of men that flat out refuse to use condoms. Then get mad at me because I refuse to have sex with them 🙄

I don't want to risk getting any STDs, let alone pregnancy 

[Ls****]

Never assume.

[wa****]

I would always confirm not every women is consistent with it and I’ve known plenty of people who still got pregnant on birth control. When in doubt ask and suit up

[Deleted Member]

You shouldn't even need to ask this question

[Deleted Member]

Always confirm. Also, especially if it's not a long term partner, there is a risk of STDs to consider. Safe sex is smart sex

[My****]

I’d never assume. As someone said above, even if she has an iud or is on birth control, that won’t prevent a std. Condoms are never a bad idea for either party.

[Deleted Member]

I always assume we will being using a condom unless we discuss other contraceptives and STD screenings ahead of time. Getting tested is cheap and quick. I think discussing testing should be more normalized.

[re****]

Never assume. I'm allergic to all birth control pills, rings, implants, iud's (I can do copper but the *** was too extreme), and can't even use plan B.

[OB****]

It should be discussed alongside every other important issue.
I ask about recent testing, contraception, limits, boundaries, desires and expectations as standard.

[Ro****]

I would never f**k someone I've just met without protection. I don't want babies and I don't want STDs. You are a fool If you assume things in this matter. Always talk.

[Ne****]

Nope always ask about BC

[Ge****]

Aside from my username I feel like it's a conversation that needs to happen before sex. NOBODY wants surprises