Birth contraception

[Sm****]

I don't tend to have multiple partners and always get checked before engaging with a new partner, and likewise request someone I'm newly engaging with verify they are also clean. Agreed, STDs are no joke.

[Co****]

Whether it is standard or not, assuming she is taking care of it is unwise. Wrap it up or, if the relationship is at a point you are going bare, have a conversation.

[CopperKnob]

  7 hours ago, Jtbest25 said:

Never assume because you may end up with child support payments down the line

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Because it's all about *** ? What about the shared responsibility of raising a child? What about STI's
SK gave people the benefit of the doubt, suggesting that this wasn't about male privilege/entitlement but here you are...

[Co****]

  8 hours ago, CookieJarvis said:

Honestly how is this even a question

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THIS

[Co****]

  14 hours ago, SerendipitousKeeper said:

I’m sure it wasn’t your intention but this question screams entitlement and male privilege (I’m aware this sounds snarky, it isn’t my intention at all).

It’s NEVER solely the woman’s responsibility.

No assumptions should ever be made.

You don’t want a child (or an STD) use a condom.

I’m not sure why there’s an assumption or feeling that women should fill their bodies with hormones which have HUGE affects on them in order to prevent procreation when a man can simply wear a condom (and yes, trust me, given my profession I know that accidents happen) that has nowhere close to the same side effects. [Unless the woman specifically wants to take hormonal contraceptives].

I’d hope that anyone who gets to the stage of sexual relations has been upfront and had a full conversation about birth control, possible implications (and STDs).

In short - don’t assume, always ask and take self responsibility. The only 100% certain way to prevent unwanted pregnancies is abstinence (because even vasectomies aren’t guaranteed).

And apologies again if my reply seemed rude, it wasn’t my intention.

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THIS

[Co****]

  6 hours ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

Hopefully you talk about this to everyone beforehand. And you and any body you are going to have sex with is tested for STDs. People don't realize how common STDs

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And THIS

[Di****]

This question is a bit concerning. I use condoms when first hooking up. And then require tests and then confirmation of birth control.

[na****]

Not assumed. First encounter=condom. Even second or third.
If regular maybe no condom then discussion on birth control and STD tests

[bdsmBarbie20]

Please get on prep if you’re not gloving up. 👀
Please also know there is a whole category of irresponsible, romanticizing or malevolent people (not just women) who would mislead you intentionally. Respond accordingly.

[Ca****]

Must confirm

[Th****]

I think it should be a given.

[ne****]

It should always be asked as a courtesy…..

[re****]

No harm in asking, yk?

[Kr****]

I was raised if you aren't ready to talk about it you aren't ready for sex.

[DT****]

Vasectomies are how I address my anxiety.

Also, BC is not exclusively the woman's responsibility.

[lo****]

Ask but still use protection

[Ha****]

If you have to ask the question, you should be asking the question. Nothing is a given and nothing is lost by having the conversation. Like seriously, how hard is it to take responsibility and ask

[Ju****]

I don't like condoms and if they have a issue with that then it's a no go and they can find someone who prefers them just like any kink or fetish it should always be asked before meeting.

[Deleted Member]

I’m not having unprotected sex with anyone ever on the first hookup not just because of pregnancy but because of STI’s!

[FS****]

I think you should be confirming with one another. If you can talk about sex and how to please each other, you should also be able to talk about how to keep each other safe and preferences.

[FreddieJobbs]

Like everyone else said wear a condom and be safe! Not worth the STDs or STIs!!

[Th****]

  On 1/19/2025 at 11:53 AM, DTypeUrbanist said:

Vasectomies are how I address my anxiety.

Also, BC is not exclusively the woman's responsibility.

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Vasectomies don't protect against STDs though 

[DT****]

The discussion was birth control, not STIs. 🙂

[Th****]

  9 hours ago, DTypeUrbanist said:

The discussion was birth control, not STIs. 🙂

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They go hand-in-hand. Some men tend to make up any excuse to not wear condoms 

[xK****]

Not assumed