Should a male sub pay for everything?

[ju****]

Hell nah tell her get her own stuff if you dont wanna pay for it

[te****]

Sounds like she just trying to use you

[ma****]

No you should not pay for everything. The problem with this community anymore is all these fake "dommes" coming in and thinking it is all about *** and you as a sub should pay and give them all your ***. This is invading the community and is not a true D's or M's relationship. You ever run into a "Domme" that requires tribute or pay anything for her time, then she is fake and not a true Domme.

[li****]

Actually the dom is the one that pays not the subs unless it's findom but an actual mistress/domme or master/dom should be the ones paying

[Da****]

Entrance to an event where you will be doing a session, that is absolutely normal, as would be **some** tools of the trade in terms of clothes and toys.. The rest... unless it's your kink too and was negotiated as such, no, that's just parasitism.

[he****]

Dude plenty of girls out there trying to make men simps

[Do****]

Absolutely not!!! That is someone wanting to take advantage of you. If you don't have a dynamic or haven't talked about it, see just wants your ***. That gives us Dommes a bad damn name!

[tw****]

Fact.. games are ok... but someone using Semi maliciously or at least selfishly... Outside of I guess game rules? ... Is not okay. Not even a little bit.

[Al****]

You pay for food your favorite beer house mortgage to live y not pay your domm for going out her way

[Al****]

Too take care of your sexual desires I think it it's not your partner you stay with or y'all serious

[NJ****]

  6 minutes ago, AlStretchem said:

Too take care of your sexual desires I think it it's not your partner you stay with or y'all serious

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Sorry. You are not thinking the correct way on this. This community has nothing to do with ***. That’s the problem nowadays. Everything is about ***. If you want to pay, that’s fine. Go to. ProDomme that works in a dungeon and wants nothing to do with you after your session. But real lifestyles understand that this community reveres the dynamic of this and the connection over anything else.

[NJ****]

  18 minutes ago, AlStretchem said:

Too take care of your sexual desires I think it it's not your partner you stay with or y'all serious

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Based on your line of thinking then since I love my job because it takes care of my passion and desires, then I should technically be paying my company for letting to work there because it’s my enjoyment

[tw****]

*Quote " never pay for sex." Is apt here. There's lines and even Grey areas in life but that's a constant.

[Vi****]

You two should have negotiated all of those details before getting serious. If you're not comfortable with it, then you should absolutely tell her no. It appears she is either abusing her dom position or simply taking advantage of you. If I were you I wouldn't pay for anything else until you have some sort of agreed upon arrangement for the finances. It's not just expected that the sub pays for anything. Work out the details. But if she's canceled the meet up, it sounds like she's not someone you want to be with anyway.

[Ki****]

No, the Domme should pay unless she is a FemDom and you understand going in that you role is financial

[pr****]

This person sounds like a scammer, IMO. I could theoretically see this for dates (even though I personally think you either split it or whoever asked pays) but not things that don't involve you.

[Fem4Her]

  1 hour ago, KinkDaddy78254 said:

No, the Domme should pay unless she is a FemDom and you understand going in that you role is financial

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Nooo a FemDom just means Female Dom, a FinDom is a financial Dom.

[Ar****]

Exactly^ very important difference

[NJ****]

The problem is that people keep either getting caught or actually want it. Until that changes, eveeyone will be susceptible do findomming. Not just men, but many women get hooked as well. It’s really sad to see how this lifestyle got corrupted to this length

[Do****]

I feel bad because other fake doms have spoiled this for us

[Sr****]

No dood, you've been scammed. And probably she isn't even a good domme, I know that in UK, the female domination is really prominent, but from where I am, the Dom most of the times takes the financial burden, and if not each person pays for himself.

[Sr****]

You were a wallet from the very beginning, but take notes, when you submit yourself to someone, that person must show the hold over you, and also the desire to keep and care if this is a TPE, if you only is accepted once a certain thing is done or given, you're not import, that thing or action is.

[PH****]

I do not believe you should be required to pay for things that you're not involved with. Unless you agree with a financially submissive position. If you did agree with this position in your relationship, then either yes, accept it or renegotiate.

[Everhard332]

She's just using you, there are loads of so called mistresses out there looking to make a quick Buck. If you start paying, she will no doubt milk you.
Did you actually meet her in the dungeon? I'm guessing not. Never send *** online. If anything cash face to face only.
A lifestyle mistress would care for you and appreciate your submission, not your ***.

[NL****]

There are such things as "fin subs" or financial subjugate. But most honest women put that out up front and usually find someone. Yours should have been more specific about what she wanted. A true mistress will appreciate and reward her sub for his obedience, not his ***.