Tips for vetting people for threesomes

[Mr****]

Just looking for general tips me and my friend can use to vet people who’d like to be a part of out MMF OR FFM threesomes.
What are some good ways to spot creeps

[No****]

Just be open and honest about what you are wanting and expecting from the person. Know that you will talk to a lot of people who seem keen but then change their mind. Make sure you keep it fun

[qu****]

A conversation about what is expected, proof of clean health, and making sure everyone vibes well & understands what each persons limits are. It's almost like a business deal

[yi****]

There is no real way to know but always ask for Instagrams or any social media profile and see if it's real, also make sure to talk enough with them and go somewhere public first before doing anything and inviting them obviously, there is no way of being 100% sure but you can always take measures to have a higher chance of him or her not being s creep

[Sk****]

I think the best way is to meet them at a neutral space like a bar. Vibe is everything so getting them in a place where both parties can feel comfortable helps weed out weirdos.

[sh****]

Main points are who you both have chemistry with and a good talk about boundaries beforehand. A good trial run is inviting them to a small date of sorts in the beginning. My go to is a game night

[Ro****]

So many likes and no comments. I think youve found a question that a lot of people are also seeking an answer to (myself included). I wish i had an answer to this as it really seems like a crap shoot, at times.

[ne****]

Definitely ask questions, see what they are into.... if they seem in any way possessive, that's a red flag... if they ask more personal questions off the bat they are either fishing for info or they're creeping... ask if they have experience being in a multiple partner environment, and use that to determine if they are right for you. Usually you can spot a creep when they start asking about the partner that isn't available more than answering your questions.

[pe****]

Meet in a public place for dinner or drinks after chatting for a bit. STD tests should be required and must talk about hard limits and what you and your partner expect and what you are willing to give is a good start

[Bl****]

I say ask for LS involvement

[de****]

You can't really plan that stuff
It makes things awkward
Spontaneous works best

[Ta****]

Match the energy you’re looking for in order to attract better matches, and probability will be on your side. Common sense will screen the majority of creeps, but skilled predators are hard to catch. The best way to avoid them becomes attracting a large dating pool full of safe and respectful matches to choose from: 1 predator in 20 is a lot safer than 1 in 3. Safe and respectful thirds look for safe and respectful couples, so go out of your way in your ads and your interactions to show that you care about their safety, comfort, and pleasure as well as your own, and karma will become an added layer of security.

[Co****]

What kind of ‘creep’ are you trying to avoid as you look for someone who IS interested in joining a couple? Clean STD tests are an excellent fist step. After that you need to find someone who matches well with you and your friend.

[Je****]

Same as above mostly. Meet publicly once or twice at least for an hour. Get the vibe of the full dynamic and make sure everyone is comfortable and has a good vibe. Laugher and smiles and open body language matter. Exchange medical info and issues up front. Be honest as it may save your life. Ask questions and make sure there are no dodgy answers.
Make sure everyone understands their role and place in the pack. A threesome is a pack make no mistake of that. The lead needs to be responsible and accountable and the agreed sub is the b***h in the pack. It’s extremely important that is understood and that safety signals are established. The lead needs to pay attention to the b***h because many times the b***h will over estimate their abilities.
Threesomes never live up to the hype !!! Address all emotions that come up as they happen with good communication.
If you are the b***h … communicate and caution on the side of safety. You are wrong if you think you will power through it especially when it comes to your breathing being obstructed or labored which will most likely happen.
If you know you know, if you don’t be prepared to wake up after passing out and p***ing yourself maybe worse.

[ge****]

I presume you are talking about a threesome that is more "swinger" than kink related here? And also presuming your friend is female?
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If I'm right, I'd suggest trying swingers clubs in your area as a good option - but go with an open mind and no expectations - but at least then you get to meet people face to face and can make a more objective decision about whether they are right for you. You also know from the fact they are there that they are genuinely looking for similar things to you and are serious enough to have taken the step of attending.
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If you're looking for on-line hook ups - then I'd suggest a more swing related site and having a couples profile - searching for this as a single man on sites is likely going to have people doubting you.
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If it's more kink related you're looking for a lot of the above will still apply but has the added complexity of kink to add to the mix.

[1l****]

Might also consider MFM or FMF also. Not every guy or girl you add might be bi. Just something to think about. But if you're both bi MMF and MFF might be what you prefer. Getting the letters in the right order makes a difference many aren't even aware of the differences.

[On****]

I always find being forthcoming and direct is a good tact to take. If the other person isn't matching the energy they prolly aren't super committed to actually meeting anyone. I also try to avoid short turn arounds, having at least a week between first messaging someone and meeting them gives enough time for them to show any red flags they might be carrying around.

[Ra****]

I agree with the prev people who've said to meet in a neutral place first to talk. I'd also discuss with your friend ahead of time what your non-negotiables are for the threesome encounter and make sure those are met. For non-negotiables, think about things like safer sex, compatible values, etc. Also keep in mind that some straight or gay people might be interested in this sort of threesome-- would that be cool with you guys, or would you prefer just doing it with someone who's bi/attracted to you both? Also consider if you would want this to be a reoccurring arrangement or a one time thing.
When you do meet with someone in person, discuss expectations and desires and see if you're on the same page. I find it helps, in conversations like this, to make it clear that you're just discussing, and that if you aren't compatible its okay for anyone to call it and leave amicably. In my experience, this sort of clear communication and upfront expectations can lead to some really positive experiences that are good for everyone involved.

[Ju****]

I say roll the dice and hope for the best! Fick it you only live once have fun. You're a creep just like they are. Have a good time be safe.

[fo****]

Yes I have a problem finding people to do this with that is why I've never done this before

[ta****]

I've had a couple great experiences and it's all started off with complete transparency and a lot of questions from all parties. If anything feels off through messages then it's probably not going to work in person.

[Mr****]

I can’t tag you all at once but this have been some excellent advice which both me and my friend have read together. It’s refreshing to have various perspectives. So insightful, Thank you all ❤️

Btw look guys (mostly guys) we use other platforms for our bi threesomes please don’t msg asking to join in here

[Ki****]

For us when it comes to threesomes as the Dom and my spouse being my sub I tend to prefer bi men because while I like all the attention on me with a real man and my sub I do enjoy watching my sub get d**ked down as well but honestly it just depends on my mood. We have also done it where he don't get anything from the guy and all attention on me

[Ro****]

I have been on both the unicorn side and the side as part of a pair. It's just a matter of conversation and feeling safe to ask questions. Figure out the dynamic. If anything feels off or you see potential drama, back away. If your gut says something, 9.8 times out of 10, it will turn to drama. Otherwise, have fun and enjoy yourself. Also, don't get impatient in your search and jump into something you otherwise wouldnt.

[ni****]

My man and I been looking for a third for a night of fun too, it's been challenging but don't give up!