Dommes

[Mi****]

Dommes, how do you vet and choose a Bull? What are typical things you look for? What are red flags you watch out for?

I've vetted a few, and it can be very difficult. I don't like pushy, and that makes me lose interest real fast. I've talked to other that think I need to communicate with them constantly, and I don't think I need to be in constant communication.

[no****]

Think about it this way. A bull, for want if a better word has to sift through a hundred dommes to get to an authentic one. You are suppost to be the domme and therefore are meant to take charge, if you can't do that, then your more than likely a scammer. If you see someone you think might work, take charge and show him that you are interested.
Red flags for a slave.
***. At any stage.
A domme who can't answer these 2 questions
1. How is a dommes life better because of a slave
2. What does a domme bring to a slave
This is a total power exchange afterall

[no****]

Just quickly. It's easy to forget what a domme goes through and also what a bull goes through. I myself have had horrid experiences. I would love to know how to write my profile to get more legitimate dommes and less scammers. Oh, and less vanilla woman on this site (red flag they don't know the first thing and then they want to change you because they think that they are all that

[Ca****]

Number one red flag is asking me for ***. Take out a loan or get good at a marketable skill. Just saying you are a mistress and begging for *** online is not a marketable skill imo, it's a grift and borderline ***

[Mi****]

  49 minutes ago, nobody2128 said:

Just quickly. It's easy to forget what a domme goes through and also what a bull goes through. I myself have had horrid experiences. I would love to know how to write my profile to get more legitimate dommes and less scammers. Oh, and less vanilla woman on this site (red flag they don't know the first thing and then they want to change you because they think that they are all that

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That's sad nobody should be trying g to change someone else especially since it's hard for a person to make changes in themselves!

[Mi****]

  3 minutes ago, CasualChris said:

Number one red flag is asking me for ***. Take out a loan or get good at a marketable skill. Just saying you are a mistress and begging for *** online is not a marketable skill imo, it's a grift and borderline ***

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Umm I'm not asking about Findoms. I'm asking about a bull for Dommes/hotwives that have a cuck!

[Ca****]

Also yo. You can't ask what a red flag is and then censor my answer! M_o_ n_e_y is the reddest flag!

[Mi****]

If yall are dealing with findoms that's sad! I can't imagine what yall have to deal with but I've heard there is more findoms than there are Dommes!

[Mi****]

  4 minutes ago, CasualChris said:

Also yo. You can't ask what a red flag is and then censor my answer! M_o_ n_e_y is the reddest flag!

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Lol I'm glad you see me as powerful enough to censor you on a site I have no control over

[no****]

Denial is one of my favourite things, along with sensory perception. They are not findoms. Findoms are rare and identify themselves as such. What we deal with are scammers, no more, no less. Please ask any questions you wish.

[Ca****]

I just mean in general. This isn't even about findoms or dommes, bulls, or subs. Kash being mentioned is my cue to leave personally

[ha****]

If the bull don't charge at the red curtain that is a red flag

[ha****]

Toro toro

[Mi****]

  10 minutes ago, nobody2128 said:

Denial is one of my favourite things, along with sensory perception. They are not findoms. Findoms are rare and identify themselves as such. What we deal with are scammers, no more, no less. Please ask any questions you wish.

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Findoms are not that rare. Well at least they're not that rare here.

[Ca****]

Honestly at this point I would be a sub/slave if my trust wasn't ruined by scammers. How can I even know that mistresses are a real thing and not some grift? It's depressing. What the hell is a findom anyways?

[no****]

It's someone who takes responsibility for your finances and uses them to control and dominate. I'm with you Chris. How many woman on this site actually identify themselves as a findom. A findom knows how to treat a slave and what to do with it. A scammer on the other hand, just conns funds out of you for what ever reason that they think they can. For me, a findom gives me what I can't get in person. A scammer wants everything for nothing.

[0m****]

Ego 🚩

[Ca****]

  31 minutes ago, nobody2128 said:

It's someone who takes responsibility for your finances and uses them to control and dominate. I'm with you Chris. How many woman on this site actually identify themselves as a findom. A findom knows how to treat a slave and what to do with it. A scammer on the other hand, just conns funds out of you for what ever reason that they think they can. For me, a findom gives me what I can't get in person. A scammer wants everything for nothing.

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Lol that just sounds like a synonym for catfish/scammer. "Ooh send me your funds so I can type spicy words and upload an image from Google. Grift. Findoms don't "exist", sad men exist.

[Mi****]

Sadly I asked about vetting a Bull and what other women typically look for and what are red flags to look for. I am glad you two found each other and have taken this post to make it into something else.

[0m****]

  13 minutes ago, MistressAman said:

Sadly I asked about vetting a Bull and what other women typically look for and what are red flags to look for. I am glad you two found each other and have taken this post to make it into something else.

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I did answer. Ego is a 🚩selfishness as well.

[Mi****]

  3 minutes ago, 0mG0ddess said:

I did answer. Ego is a 🚩selfishness as well.

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Not you the two that turned it into a completely different thing. I agree about ego being a red flag.

[ba****]

#1 big cock

[0m****]

  1 hour ago, MistressAman said:

Not you the two that turned it into a completely different thing. I agree about ego being a red flag.

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And maybe it’s ego with them too! All good. Happy Valentine’s Day goddess

[xx****]

Good morning @MistressAman,
I'd say you vet and choose as normal as everyone else. You need to know what you seek, your wishes for a Bull, especially in the Dynamic you want. How he reacts to different Kind of things. As others said, selfishness is a Red Flag, Lack of communication skills, time Management in General, jealousness, etc..
I'd say that Men in General are pushy, not bulls specifically. If you already asked others and got an opinion, think about it, but if it doesnt suit your needs...
I think you need to communicate a lot at the beginning, when you got a good drive and you know about most preferences and wishes, there arent too many chances of mistakes at all and even if something happens, you are able to talk about it, then you dont need to be in constant communication anymore, in my opinion.
In case that you want a Bull for your Sub and for yourself, it will get more intensive and difficult of course. Non native speaker here.

[ey****]

Some kinda does depend on what you ultimately want from the arrangement.  

So if you wanted a one-off, a red flag would be someone pushing/acting like it'll be ongoing -- if you wanted something ongoing then someone who seems non-committal 

Same for any boundaries - if they're pushing for something you don't want.

I'd include being disrespectful to your partner outside of a consensual set up

Some people look for people they already know; so that can be a good starting point.  I know some go out either as a couple, or lady on her own, to things like munches or swing socials/events because whoever they meet there is already showing a willingness to show up.   If someone is just sat online saying they're a bull but has no measurable experience, then they're a higher risk of bottling it (or, turning up and finding they can't perform)