Are there any rougher ways for my Dom boyfriend?

[As****]

I don't know what to do to have my boyfriend be tougher on me and more physical with me he degrades me which I LOVE and I submit to and he pulls my hair,holds me down,and ***s me is there any rougher ways? I'm also a Submissive Verse Bottom Pup I prefer to be a sub but I can be dominant.

[Deleted Member]

First thing to do, is ask him, tell him, you want it rougher, that you want him to be harder.

Problem is though, not everyone is capable of it, if they don't have it in them it's hard to coax it out of them. Their feelings & emotions for you, even if you are outright saying do more, do harder, do rougher, begging for it even, can prevent them from doing it, usually through *** of hurting you. 1 thing you could try is showing him, on yourself, that you can take it, do things to yourself, punish yourself, show him you can take it, that it's a pleasurable *** you experience, that you need it to be more on that level & this may help reassure him that it's OK to go further to do more, to push you more.

[EN****]

Maybe you already do this but that thing where the Dom takes you from behind and steps on the side of your head, pinning it to the floor seems pretty hot

[Bu****]

  1 hour ago, DDwannabe said:

Maybe you already do this but that thing where the Dom takes you from behind and steps on the side of your head, pinning it to the floor seems pretty hot

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That's typical porn show brother. Do better. See above for a real answer.

[Si****]

Well you can get nipple clamps, some impact toys, some bondage equipment and just communication with him that you want him to be rougher with you! Also learn how to do breadth play safely!

[Na****]

  2 hours ago, SinfullMark said:

Well you can get nipple clamps, some impact toys, some bondage equipment and just communication with him that you want him to be rougher with you! Also learn how to do breadth play safely!

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No such thing as ‘safe breath play’

[ge****]

  1 hour ago, Naobe74 said:

No such thing as ‘safe breath play’

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The hell do you mean there's no such thing as safe breath play??? There absolutely is you simply apply pressure to the sides of the neck making sure pressure to the air way is minimal and squeeze for increments of 30 seconds then allow your partner to catch their breath then repeat its not rocket science it's like one of the first things you learn usually when getting into bdsm and kink

[EN****]

Lol wow didn't know there was an approved list of Kink maneuvers, but since life is short I'm sure going to block anyone who thinks they can correct an answer to an open ended question. Moving on!

[ey****]

Like a lot of stuff - providing feedback is a good first step

That

a) you would like things rougher

b) if there's anything particular you'd like to try

c) if there is something you want to try, that you research together and not take the word of folk making their first post

d) Remember and respect that some people have their own comfort levels up to the point of how rough/nasty/degrading they are willing or capable of doing to someone else and sometimes you have to cut a compromise there

[Mi****]

Spankings are usually a good start

[da****]

Let him tie you up and spank you with a paddle or something of similar

[im****]

Hire a bull

[Wi****]

Just reassure him he’s great, you’re loving it and he can ramp it up and you’re ready unreservedly

Then they’ll be no hurt ego over not being good enough and let’s him know he can really go for it