Are all these fantasies related to feederism? Maybe I should do it?

[TheUltimate1819]

I am a 21-year-old male. I have never been fat, but I have always had a great appreciation for food, but I have always repressed it. I have always been envious of fat people eating freely.

For the past year, I have been having certain fantasies that I imagine and give me a lot of pleasure, related to having an obese body, such as the following:

-Having to use two seats because my obese butt takes up a lot of space. This turns me on a lot.

-Having to go buy clothes from stores for obese people because I am very fat.

-Being seen and treated as fat.

These desires turn me on a lot, but A LOT. I guess they have to do with feederism. Is all that things that i fantasize feederism related?
It gives me pleasure to think that I must accept it and get fat and be obese. To think that I am destined to be an obese person.

[DM****]

Is it specifically fat though? Like, what if you started going to the gym and got all buff? There are some bodybuilders who have some of the same problems, but it's because they're big for a different reason.

I'm concerned for you as a person who has been obese for 20+ years and has only in the last few months dropped enough weight to no longer be considered technically "obese". In spite of any sexual gratification that may come from it, I don't think that it's worth the *** and suffering. People who have not lived this way could easily disregard the subtleties, it's not just the back *** and crunchy knees, it has a significant effect on mood.

This may be a bit of a hot take, but part of the way I've been able to lose weight is reframing my junk food cravings as being tantamount to a drug or alcohol addiction. So I would strongly suggest that you consider that reframe, what if you developed a sexual fetish for using hard ***? Would you begin using the drug with reckless abandon and allow it to affect your life as it will? Or would you save that for a fantasy that can be safely explored without putting yourself at risk?

On the other hand, I don't think that you should repress your appreciation for food. It's even ok to eat junk food sometimes... Sometimes!
My suggestion would be to appreciate food without any repression, but don't eat for the purpose of getting fat, eat for the purpose of nourishing yourself and enjoying a good meal and for no other purpose. If you do that I think that you can find a happy middle ground where you can indulge your desires without getting carried away with them (or letting them get carried away with you).

[DM****]

Now Payne is a dirty word too? Sheesh!