How to introduce a sub to pet play

[Vi****]

Hey everyone! I wanted to start a discussion about introducing a submissive partner to pet play. It’s such a unique and versatile dynamic, but I know it can feel a little intimidating to bring up or explore for the first time. I thought I’d share some tips and ideas, and I’d love to hear your thoughts, experiences, or advice on this topic too!

What is Pet Play?

For anyone unfamiliar, pet play is a form of roleplay within BDSM where one person takes on the persona of an *** (like a puppy, kitten, or pony), and the other takes on the role of their owner, handler, or trainer. It can be playful and lighthearted or deeply rooted in power exchange dynamics—it really depends on what works for you and your partner.

Have you ever been curious about pet play? Or maybe you’ve already explored it—what drew you to it in the first place?

What works for me:

1. Start with an Open Conversation
The first step is always communication. Explain what interests you about pet play and ask how they feel about exploring it. Be open to their thoughts—whether they’re excited, unsure, or even hesitant. It’s important to approach this as a conversation, not a demand.

How do you usually bring up new ideas or fantasies with your partner? Any tips for making those conversations feel natural?

2. Keep It Simple at First
If they’re open to trying it out, start small! You could try wearing a collar during playtime, experimenting with basic commands like “sit” or “stay,” or just adding some playful pet-like behavior into your dynamic. Starting slow lets both of you ease into the roles without feeling overwhelmed.

For those of you who’ve tried pet play before—what were some of the first things you did to test the waters?

3. Set Boundaries and Use Safewords
As with any BDSM activity, consent is everything. Talk about boundaries ahead of time and agree on safewords or signals that work for both of you. For example, some people use non-verbal cues like toy squeakers or taps during scenes.

How do you handle setting boundaries in your dynamics? Do you have any creative safeword systems that work well for non-verbal play?

4. Explore Different Roles Together
One of the coolest things about pet play is how many different personas there are! Puppy play tends to be energetic and obedient; kitten play can be more independent or bratty; pony play often involves formal training...and there are so many other options too! Exploring together can be a fun way to figure out what feels right for both of you.

Do you feel drawn to certain *** personas? What do you think makes them resonate with people’s personalities?

5. Add Gear and Rituals Over Time
Once you’re both comfortable, adding gear like collars, leashes, tails, or hoods can really enhance the experience. Rituals like collaring ceremonies or daily check-ins can also deepen the dynamic and make it feel more meaningful.

What kinds of rituals or symbols do you think would strengthen connection in a power exchange relationship?

Things to Keep in Mind

- Trust is Key: Like any BDSM activity, trust is the foundation here. Take your time building comfort and don’t rush into anything too intense right away.
- Aftercare Matters: Aftercare is so important after any scene! Whether it’s cuddling, talking about how things went, or just spending time together afterward, make sure both partners feel cared for.
- Keep It Fun: At its heart, pet play should be enjoyable for everyone involved. Whether it’s playful fetch games or structured training sessions, focus on creating positive experiences.

What do you think makes pet play fun and fulfilling? Are there specific activities that stand out as particularly enjoyable?

I’d love to hear from others who’ve introduced pet play into their dynamics—or even those who are just curious about it! How did you bring it up with your partner? What worked well (or didn’t)? And if you’re new to this idea, what questions do you have?

[su****]

I think after explaining to her what it is. Introduce her in an immersion safe place as puppies and critters event. There's many events in this app that have pet play training. Also, you can role play at home as well.

[Th****]

It all starts with a conversation that's open ended. Introduction into the new topic, what it intales and how they would feel and what limits. I had a couple of pets myself (puppy girls) who were wonderful ❤️ and as always making sure they feel safe within the play time

[Co****]

Something I like to do when discussing a new idea or fetish with a partner is to look for stories on certain erotic literature sites and then ask her to read the story and tell me how it makes her feel. If it is something she is interested in we can talk about exploring it. Some things just don’t appeal to some people and I don’t think you are likely to talk someone into enjoying an activity if she just isn’t interested - but sometimes you come across something that both of you find intriguing and exploring is a blast.