Is this normal ?

[sh****]

Hell no.. intimidation should never be a part of a relationship or meeting that's insane. It's about mutual respect and getting and taking

[Mz****]

It's been happening to me since I signed up. I laugh at them and tell them good luck. But I'm sorta cunty when approached the wrong way.

[cs****]

Nah, absolutely not. Regardless of dynamic it's all based (or should be) on a foundation of trust and respect. Jumping right in to be possessive and controlling of someone else with no prior established relationship just screams stay away.

[Bu****]

  3 hours ago, londonbassman said:

As far as I know, it is quite common behaviour, and some experienced subs are expecting such treatment from the very beginning. If you are not appreciated by such a communication style, just let people know about that in your description.

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It's common behavior for Doms to be fucking assholes??? What are you talking about? If you're not a gentleman, you're not a dom. If you do that shit you'd better knock it off. That's phony ass bad misrepresentation of said fetish.

[Bu****]

  3 hours ago, Motyaze said:

It's different people with different approaches and way ! Nevertheless, a lot out there think that being a dom mean you are mean, strong, badass ! Which is totally not the case- as you go out to a bar! Someone will hit on you in a nice way or stupid way- the same !

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It's assholes plan and simple. That is not and will never be known as a Doms approach to any fetish situation. I see that you've closed with that ideal but you're opening leaves cracks for young ones who might read this to think it's ok to use this approach. IT IS NOT.

[Ch****]

Is it normal? Yes
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Is it good behaviour you would want from a good dom? Absolutely not!
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Block people who give you orders before a dynamic has been agreed, ignore them like you’d ignore cat calls in the street.

[Scottishdombull]

You get fucktwats who are in kneel now brigade and think any submissives are theirs to command.
Submission is a gift. It needs to be nourished, developed, cherished

[ch****]

Its a common theme though not right. That's a free block tbh. Don't let them do that to you

[Ra****]

Yeah that's not how it works. Trust is a very important part of the dom sub relationship. Eyeshadow
Real doms understand that. Those are just fake wannabes that have no real idea about how this community actually works

[Cu****]

Unfortunately the behavior is prevelant but idiotic. Ignore and block is my go to move.

[Ma****]

A good Dominant will connect with you first as a person. And then when you both have a given level of trust, as a submissive.

Its important to rember that D/s trust is a two way street. You both have to reach a comfortable level of trust, before doing anything. And both you and your Dom have the power to back out or question.

Nothing, and i mean nothing, is "automatic" without negotiations, and agreement, first. This 100% includes you being anyone's submssive, or anyone attempting to "claim you." That is stupid fuck-boi shit.

You may be a submissive. But you aren't everyone's submissive.

Speaking of questions: it does not indicate a lack of respect or trust to ask questions.
But is an important part of learning about you and your Dom, and how he/she operates, and is a critical part of session/scene negotiations.
"Why this?"
"How will we start, and how will we stop?"
"How long will/should that last?"

[ki****]

No. Those are the ones you block and move on from. A true Dom wouldn't take on a sub so willy-nilly and random without loads of discussions and consensual agreements as to what type of things are a YES and which are a NO.

[se****]

as previous comments have said, it is quite common (especially for this app), but it is not normal or at least shouldn't be as it's not okay... especially if it's making you uncomfortable. this goes both ways with subs messaging doms and vice versa. i understand the nature of this app, but it is still important to communicate and be respectful at first as it's a common courtesy in any situation. if you don't want that, just add it to your bio or something with what you're into so people know it's okay. different people like/want different approaches, and that's fine, but not everyone is the same, and one approach won't be received the same by another. especially being new to the community and learning

[NoPantiesAllowed]

"Normal", yes, unfortunately, but poor, if not downright unacceptable etiquette? Abso-fucking-lutely! They don't take the time to even figure out what you want, who you are or anything, they just think that "they Dom, you sub" they can just go talk to anyone in that fashion. They are not true Doms if they're doing that. They're just horny and wanting to control.

[sp****]

There's fucking Weirdos everywhere you go just find the weird kinky or freak that suits you best . You can find anything you want on the Internet these days and your a beautiful woman so yeah it's normal for almost every man to lose a lil drool off his lower lip lol

[Ma****]

No, that’s not normal at all

[Mulkster1]

Unfortunately, it is somewhat normal on here but it shouldn't be.

[Ev****]

No not normal behavior, unfortunately too damn common, and kinda fucks the apps up for us guys that know how to respectfully conduct a damn conversation.

[lu****]

It’s not normal behaviour I get all sorts of creepy messages. I feel as if as soon as weirdos get on apps like this they feel like it’s appropriate to behave be in this way because it’s not the same as real life or whatever. Doesn’t make it any less ok tbh

[Daddy12B]

Here I am too nervous to even message anyone let alone act like that

[Ki****]

That is a number 1 no no but don't despair someone will come around you have a true connection with..

[th****]

what do u expect ...the app is based on kinky fetish and well ,sex .its not a Christian dating site ,its connecting people who like getting poop in there mouth ,there dicks criticized and getting tied up while people stuff Louisville Sluggers in the arse holes of fellow kinksers who's goal is cum n cum hard .mb if perverts offend u check out harmony

[kinkymasterandrew]

Normal? Yes. Wanted? Polite? No. There are many who do that, but it's not something you need to accept. I've seen several submissive women who specifically say they don't want that. I don't do that, and I'm sure many others don't. So if you like it, that's fine, enjoy the site; if you don't like it, that's fine, reject the ones who do and focus on the ones who don't, and consider putting a warning not to send such messages on your profile. Either way, there are plenty of people who would match your interests.

[Lo****]

NOBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO CLAIM A SUB! These are false doms and sadly the kink world is plagued with them. It is your choice to submit. Anyone who just "claims" you without your consent is a red flag!

[cr****]

I was one of the ones who messaged mandi and I was very nice. I spoke generally about the kinds of people who message nasty and told her to beware. She read my message but didn't respond yet..