Will I be good for this?

[Oni]

So to be honest I'm a Dom but I've had fantasies. My fantasies are feet and armpit sniffing and licking. Another thing is I don't like anal play on myself so pegging is off the menu. I also do love the idea of being tied up and my tongue and other things are used to pleasure my partner.

Do I have a space in Femdom?

[ChastitySub4Use]

My last Dom would NEVER allow anal on him or even anything remotely intimate. I was fine with that as his pleasure was my goal so he used me. My throat was his and yes I hated it, literally hated it but it gave him pleasure so I did it. 

When you are choking and throwing up to please your Dom you are a good slave right?

Edited March 15 by ChastitySub4Use

[Gr****]

  1 hour ago, Oni said:

So to be honest I'm a Dom but I've had fantasies. My fantasies are feet and armpit sniffing and licking. Another thing is I don't like anal play on myself so pegging is off the menu. I also do love the idea of being tied up and my tongue and other things are used to pleasure my partner.

Do I have a space in Femdom?

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So, it sound like you're a switch, possibly a dominant leaning switch with sub (or bottom) rising.

The only way to see if you'd have a place in femdom spaces is to go to femdom events that welcome men and give it a go.

Good luck, however it turns out!

[Ar****]

It's not even necessarily a question of will you be good for it. You can be a Dom who is a bottom. If you are "in charge" - and so long as it's consensual, of course - then you can have your sub engage in whatever you wish from what you mention.

The alternative is that you are considering you have a switch side but only for these aspects. That's okay too!

[Birble]

I had a Dom who loved yoni worship and kinda nursing type stuff. But he was still my Master. I'd engage with whatever he was interested in, and if he was the one needing a cuddle or to feel a certain way I'd oblige. Because I was His. It never made me feel like he wasn't a Dom or that I was topping.

[ey****]

the question "Do I have a space in Femdom?" is very open. An answer is ultimately yes.  But this doesn't mean it won't be without challenges

Last year, I was in a club talking to a friend and we were playing together.  In this play she was taking a somewhat Dominant lead, and, well I do a lot of play in what some would call a submissive role.  But, it is play. I am not currently anyone's sub

Anyhow, we were chatting and I just absently happened to mention some stuff I'd like to do which is a more of a Dominant lead and she was "well, I trust you. I would be happy to do this with you sometime"

And stuff like exploring some fantasies is easier if you have a friend with a level of trust who would enjoy doing these things, with you.

However, if of course you're approaching strangers it's difficult because if they are a Domme, then ultimately you're asking them to do your fantasy with them, while offering little that benefits them.  You're probably not going to be their sub etc and everything that goes with it - because you are, as you say, a Dominant with fantasies.

Side note - not wanting to do stuff, like, pegging is totally valid and doesn't change much; as you should probably know - it's ok to have limits and their values.

There's nothing wrong, also, with wishing to explore fantasies but it's a case of asking a simple question - how does it benefit the other person to help a stranger with their fantasies?

[Th****]

  22 hours ago, Aranhis said:

It's not even necessarily a question of will you be good for it. You can be a Dom who is a bottom. If you are "in charge" - and so long as it's consensual, of course - then you can have your sub engage in whatever you wish from what you mention.

The alternative is that you are considering you have a switch side but only for these aspects. That's okay too!

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This... being a Dominant bottom is totally a thing and an option. I myself am Dominant and bottom leaning vers with large sprinklings of sadomasochism. My masochistic side is all about sensation seeking, not emotional masochism, so I often enjoy having a partner administer various *** inducing sensation things. This doesn't make me any less their Dominant or them my submissive. One of my personal favorite submissive archetypes is having a beast on a leash. 

Egalitarian arrangements and relationships between two Dominants is also an option that it seems many people forget or don't think of. I'm good friends with a married couple who are both D types and who have dynamics with other people individually or who they co-top. 

D/s is about the energy of the overall dynamic or relationship not about who does what to whom. It's all customizable as much as your creativity and imagination allows. 

[Th****]

Do you actually want to be told what to do and not get any kind of pleasure?

Because if you only want certain things done to you, without giving up any kind of control, then I see no reason why you would want to be part of female domination.

There is nothing that I can't stand more than men acting like they are into female domination; but all they want to do is give me a list of things they want me to do to them. It's beyond frustrating 🙄 (This is just a general statement. And not aimed at anyone specific)

[Th****]

  39 minutes ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

Do you actually want to be told what to do and not get any kind of pleasure?

Because if you only want certain things done to you, without giving up any kind of control, then I see no reason why you would want to be part of female domination.

There is nothing that I can't stand more than men acting like they are into female domination; but all they want to do is give me a list of things they want me to do to them. It's beyond frustrating 🙄 (This is just a general statement. And not aimed at anyone specific)

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Trust me, I hear you and am with you on the same points of frustrations, but being a submissive to a Dominant woman also doesn't inherently mean one would never experience any sort of pleasure. 

[Th****]

  26 minutes ago, ThaliaV said:

Trust me, I hear you and am with you on the same points of frustrations, but being a submissive to a Dominant woman also doesn't inherently mean one would never experience any sort of pleasure. 

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True. Which is why long discussions of expectations and boundaries need to happen before doing anything else