Praise

[su****]

What made you realise you enjoyed being praised?

[Ki****]

I discovered that when I realized I was one to please my partner before myself

[ch****]

First time my ex called me s good boy...

[ma****]

When the teacher gave me Gold Star in first grade.

[me****]

I feel like that’s a loaded question kinda, who doesn’t like to be praised?

[XxLeeLeexxX]

When my first Daddy told me I was a “good girl” for the first time 🥰

[Ro****]

When someone actually used the phrase good girl to me for the first time

[ro****]

I mean who doesn't like a little affirmation

[Sw****]

I realized how wet it made me knowing that was making my Dom pleased and Happy its also how I learned I'm Submissive

[co****]

When u dnt get it

[Ha****]

I think it really clicked for me when I noticed how deeply I respond to knowing I’ve pleased someone—like, not just in a general way, but in a way that feels earned. Praise in a kink dynamic feels different because it’s intentional, specific, and tied to something real in the moment. It’s not just a compliment, it’s affirmation—that I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to, that I’m wanted, that I belong right there. That kind of validation just does something to me. It feeds a part of me that craves being seen and appreciated in a really raw way.

[Deleted Member]

I realised back when I was in collage, one of my tutors used to say “good boy” whenever I answered a question right or handed in work. Safe to say I worked hard for her 😅

[Th****]

Praise helps me know i am doing a good job and that my Sir is proud of me.☺️

[Deleted Member]

Graduate school 😅 I realized I kept collecting degrees because I loved the constant approval especially from cerebral male professors and I lived for being in his class and having him publicly praise me even if it was purely educational

[Ke****]

To be honest, we all enjoy being praised. I enjoyed being praised for my math skills as a child. I read an encyclopedia of mathematics from cover to cover before my 8th grade graduation. It was a feedback loop. The more I was praised, the more I'd read new things to be praised for. It was teachers that praised me and it was never sex or kink oriented, yet perhaps it really was my kink, before I even knew the concept of a kink.

Some like praise more than others. Some like praise a lot more than others, and that is when it becomes a kink. It's often better, when we think our partner praises us often, not knowing that is our kink. So if your partner doesn't know, ask a friend to discreetly tell them, so you can "keep" your kink "hidden" from them. Otherwise, find another partner that just praises you often, and give positive feedback that rewards them to praise you often.

[pr****]

I grew up with self esteem issues. The first time I got praised in the bedroom, I felt so special. It was the start of my praise kink for sure.

[Al****]

When I am called a good girl... and all I can do is melt into myself. It brings a huge weight off my shoulders whenever I hear it. It also makes me want to do better so I can be called one more often.

[Ty****]

I've lost or near lost everyone important to me. All I have now are my kids. I have no family or real friends irl. I guess it comes down to acceptance. Someone who cares for me because I'm me, not in spite of it. I need to hear and feel that I'm accepted.

[Ju****]

When it made me feel better then, self affirmation. He knew what to say

[mi****]

I keep reading all these romance books and it just did something for me when he would praise her and I realized that I want that too. I don't get told often enough that I'm doing good and when I do I blow it off. But now I crave to be someone's good girl

[Li****]

I can't really pinpoint the first moment it happened but it always makes me feel tingly inside. Makes me feel happy and elated to be praised.

[GreyHog]

  12 hours ago, HappyFatLady said:

I think it really clicked for me when I noticed how deeply I respond to knowing I’ve pleased someone—like, not just in a general way, but in a way that feels earned. Praise in a kink dynamic feels different because it’s intentional, specific, and tied to something real in the moment. It’s not just a compliment, it’s affirmation—that I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to, that I’m wanted, that I belong right there. That kind of validation just does something to me. It feeds a part of me that craves being seen and appreciated in a really raw way.

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I agree completely, Good girl...

[Be****]

It's all skill, and commitment, and putting yourself out there, that's all exiting and positive feedback as a reward must feel good

[th****]

This might not be the most interesting, but I was praised and that's how I learned I like it

[NO****]

I think from my day2day role as a supervisor and being told how well my team does and how great I do as their leader. It really fueled me to be like…I need this on a daily