Never had sex 🙈

[ba****]

Is there something wrong with me? I'm 38, straight but never had sex, never even been physical with anyone. Are women turned off by a certain type of bloke? If they are then I guess I'm one of them. Anyone else in the same boat?

[La****]

Are you often putting yourself in social situations where you can get to know ladies? It may not necessarily be a situation of being undesirable if you don't have a lot of opportunities to meet women in general.

[Bi****]

If you've made it to 38. I would bet you're shy and not making the appropriate moves when when she's ready. You're a good looking guy for sure women have been interested.

[fo****]

I would say so. 38 is bad

[cl****]

Wish i coukd change that

[ey****]

I mean, there's a lot of stuff which can be a turnoff to women - generally around poor hygiene, attitude, etc. but even then

I feel there's a lot of context missing in the sense... how often do you engage in social situations?  How often, if ever, have you invited people you've met in real life for a drink/coffee/etc.   

[Sa****]

Age doesn't matter... I find it commendable. Most likely you just haven't found your person

[Ry****]

@basingstoke671024 me & u are in the same boat here

[ge****]

As eyem suggests there's possibly more context missing here - but based on what we can see there's nothing wrong with you.
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I'd suggest though if you're using this to garner some kind of sympathy sex (and not saying you are) that it's probably not the best way to go about it - I'd suggest widening your real life circles to include situations where you're going to interact with women and get to know them first and foremost and see what develops from there.
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Am also curious how you expect to find submissive women per your profile if you have no physical experience with them - to know and understand the nuances of domination that are driven by physical connections and actions?

[Je****]

There’s nothing wrong with you! Just be confident in yourself and the things that make you interesting and be open to talking to new people. Go with the flow. Sometimes things work out well, other times the vibes just don’t fit.

Don’t let it weigh you down, just take the learning about what worked well and what could have been better with you, and try again and again. Eventually things with just click into place.

Everyone’s lives and situations are distinct, and comparing your experiences to others can only get you so far. If you’re discouraged, remember there are lots of people out there, and I’m sure you’ll find one who’d love to share your first time! I wish you the best of luck in your journey! 💜

[On****]

Bullshit

[Au****]

Unfortunately your situation is way more common that we want to believe. In fact studies show that male virginity is on the rise especially among young male adults..
Now you’re 38 and surely your age and lack of experience doesn’t help but it’s not said that it has to be an eternal burden that you have to carry.
Yes woman are not turned off by a lot of things possibly even by the fact you are a virgin.
My suggestions:
Abandon online dating, try some group activity of any kind.
Put the “losing virginity” mission on top of your priorities of this is what you really want
Be an absolut shuttergun talk to anyone, male, and especially female, ask anything to start even things you already know, you need to break the ice with yourself asap and also it will rise your chances to have sex.
Cut the bullshit that someone perfect is waiting for you to meet her.
I’d rather not disclose the fact that you are virgin if I were you, especially in the beginning
Be a social ***, improve your body, skin, shape, try to copy someone ( a man, not a woman) , that you may know who’s dating life is a success.
Best of luck brother

[ba****]

@LanceOfAll - I've been online dating for years but had no success when it comes to dates. I'm fine having conversations with women but when it comes to the meet up, the woman does not appear interested in seeing me again

[ba****]

Eyemblacksheep, I used to compete in track and field at a very high level. Even went to the Olympic trials for track sprinting so I met lots of women and I was able to have conversations with them but they only ever saw me as an acquaintance/friend. I also used to youth/young people groups connected to the Church and none of the young women were physically interested in me there either

[ba****]

I think women are generally nervous of me and feel uncomfortable being in my presence and feel on edge around me and can't relax with me. This is half the problem. They are almost a bit freaked out by me when they meet up on a date with me. Difficult to explain but there is something happening

[ba****]

@gemini_man I've had a lot of connections and interactions with women in my life but they have never showed an interest in me. Ive been online dating for years. If you read my other comments on here then it will explain more. I'm more using this app as an experiment to see if any women are actually even interested in meeting me based on my profile photo and then going on from there because i dont think women are physically attracted to me based on my physical appearance.

[ba****]

@OnYourKnees22  , you don't believe me but you have never met me. Then you might believe me!

[Mi****]

  1 hour ago, basingstoke671024 said:

@LanceOfAll - I've been online dating for years but had no success when it comes to dates. I'm fine having conversations with women but when it comes to the meet up, the woman does not appear interested in seeing me again

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Have you tried following up with any of them to ask why they lost interest? Some of us won't tell you, but some of us are willing to share if we're asked. I try not to give much feedback unless asked directly or I think it might help them in the future. But I also think ghosting someone is a bullshit way to treat people, so I'm probably in the minority.

[Mi****]

  1 hour ago, basingstoke671024 said:

gemini_man, I've had a lot of connections and interactions with women in my life but they have never showed an interest in me. Ive been online dating for years. If you read my other comments on here then it will explain more. I'm more using this app as an experiment to see if any women are actually even interested in meeting me based on my profile photo and then going on from there because i dont think women are physically attracted to me based on my physical appearance.

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You said, "they have never showed an interest in me". But you forgot to add, "that I noticed." This is usually the problem with inexperienced men. Especially since you're looking to date submissive women. Most of them won't make the first move or be obvious with their interests.

Try asking them out if YOU'RE interested instead of expecting them to make it obvious they're interested.

[Prettycock99]

Quite possibly he has been laid plenty and this is another way to procure the sympathy f-@k.

[ba****]

@Prettycock99  if I had been laid plenty of times then I would not be on here trying to gain sympathy. Also if you met me in person then you would know why I've never been laid

[Th****]

  1 hour ago, basingstoke671024 said:

Eyemblacksheep, I used to compete in track and field at a very high level. Even went to the Olympic trials for track sprinting so I met lots of women and I was able to have conversations with them but they only ever saw me as an acquaintance/friend. I also used to youth/young people groups connected to the Church and none of the young women were physically interested in me there either

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Going to youth groups to hook up with young women is very creepy and off putting at the minimum (unless you were also a youth at that time).

[Th****]

Sounds like a major issue you have is that you are trying to pick up random women in everyday places. These women are going about their lives and aren't looking for a relationship. 

[Au****]

  14 minutes ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

Going to youth groups to hook up with young women is very creepy and off putting at the minimum (unless you were also a youth at that time).

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Your statement is wrong and commonly misconceived…
If they are over 18 they are adults: it imply that is perfectly normal to hook up or be wanting to hook up with them..
There is absolutely nothing wrong or creepy with it

[Au****]

  12 minutes ago, TheMacabreBrat said:

Sounds like a major issue you have is that you are trying to pick up random women in everyday places. These women are going about their lives and aren't looking for a relationship. 

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You can’t know that..
What would you suggest for him to do then?