How long have you been kinky?

[Gm****]

I just wanted to get a feel for experience levels on this site. Have you been exploring kink your whole adult life? Only a couple years? Or just starting your journey?

[RE****]

Honestly, I think that I’ve always been kinky. I just never had somebody to explore it with and this has been a part of me since I was 18 and I’m just now starting my journey at 28 for example, I’ve always dominated over people but just on a natural kind of level and I want to be a better Dom and just get into more things

[Ch****]

Exploring my whole adult life but the feelings have been there since childhood x

[Vo****]

23 years

[Ar****]

25 years, roughly

[ge****]

Knowingly, as in since I understood what I was and what my kinks were/meant? Getting on for 30 years - in reality though I've always had an open and exploring mind about my sexuality and desires that matched - I just didn't understand them until I was a lot older.

[sc****]

About 20 years

[sa****]

I started crossdressing when I was young. I enjoyed women and men.

[Ki****]

All through life, though did not always have the words for it. It also took time to shake off the influence of others and be content in who you are even when it goes against what society wants you to be or want. Ongoing journey to this day. Exciting journey.

[Ki****]

I had a Facebook group for kinky people who like feet and I was talking to a guy who likes my feet and then all of a sudden he quit talking to me altogether. A friend of mine on the group asked me what was wrong and I told her what was happening and how he quit talking to me and I was depressed about it. She gave me Fetish.com and told me to fill out a profile and to have fun and that’s how I became introduced to kink. I’ve always been a little kinky, but once I found out that BDSM was something real and not just a movie I became obsessed with it and I can’t read enough about it. I’ve only been in this for two years, but I’m very serious to staying in it.

[Mi****]

30+ Years

[Nanashi]

For 3 years now, but I can't seem to find people to help me go to the next level 😥

[ed****]

For as long as I can remember

[Th****]

I have always been kinky. I just never knew that it was a thing and that others were like me. Then I learned about FetLife in 2013

[do****]

The first time I knew that I was just “different” was when I was younger and a freshman in college. I was dating an older submissive college student and she made me feel supported and understood.

[DarkArts1066]

Since I was in my ***s.
Two reasons.
An experience with a very busty young woman on a school trip - (nothing sexual or physical happened… it’s a long story.) plus I had a really good Female friend who had a kind of rubber raincoat…. And I loved the smell of that thing.
I used to masturbate thinking about her naked underneath it.
Adolescence was hell !

[Da****]

Both!
I've been into kink since I first became an adult.
I've been in the ENM scene for only 4 or 5 years now.
I think some of this is an inherent, natural kind of thing, and others are learned or taught. So some people could be dabbling in kink without ever knowing it.

[Worshipme1980]

I have been onto my lifestyle for 27 years.

[Do****]

Probably since I was a ***; I remember reading kinky stories in magazines and adult forums, and watching the occasional video when I could.
When I started dating, I naturally took the lead; I didn't realize at the time that this was going to evolve, but here we are.

[No****]

Since I was very young. I just didn't have the words or knowledge to know how to best express it.

[Be****]

I think maybe I’ve always been kinky but I just wasn’t willing to acknowledge it until recently.

I grew up with a fundamentalist Christian background, so I had a lot of shame around my sexuality and sexual desires for a long time. An ex of mine introduced me to the DD/lg kink, but at the time I felt too much shame to really get into it and enjoy it (even though deep down I did like it) Over the past year though, I started hooking up with someone who was also into DD/lg, and I finally had enough distance from my fundamentalist past that I no longer felt shame. It was the best and most fulfilling sexual experience I’ve ever had, and now I finally feel like I can fully embrace this kink as part of my identity.

[Ma****]

It’s been two years that I dedicated myself to this lifestyle and enjoyed every moment.

[ma****]

30 yrs to keep building on

[Ba****]

I've been exploring kink for a while. It's been about 10 years now! At first, I just researched and learned as much as I could.

[fr****]

I’ve always known exactly what I am, just never really met someone likeminded, or anyone interested in the things I am. Always kept myself hidden except from 2 partners, who in the end wasn’t interested. I explored on my own for many years, self bondage, and so on. There’s a lot of things I’ve discovered about myself on my own. But I went through some pretty rough life changes a few years back that made me finally try seek likeminded people both irl and online. I made a promise to myself that if I made it out alive, I’d finally break out of my little world of self exploration and fantasy and try find a partner that wouldn’t run away when they really got to know me, all of me. So grateful I did!