Blind: I don’t really know what to do…?

March 20

I’m a 34 year old cis male who is legally blind, and I just have no idea how I’m meant to express my kinky side? In the past, I’ve had no problem expressing that part of me but it was encouraged by previous partners. I just don’t know how to do it solo…? My local kink ‘scene’ is… very small and seemingly made up of very experienced couples. I don’t know how to meet like-minded people; there’s a kink club in a nearby city, but because of my dwindling eyesight, I’m really not comfortable just turning up. It looks… very dark :/

Any tips?

March 20

Did you lose your eyesight over time, or were you always legally blind? If the latter, how did your dynamic with previous partners go? Can't you repeat those steps anymore?

March 20

It’s possible, im blind asf with a cane and I do ok

March 20

26 minutes ago, arnhem961 said:

Did you lose your eyesight over time, or were you always legally blind? If the latter, how did your dynamic with previous partners go? Can't you repeat those steps anymore?
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I’ve never had good sight and it’ll just get worse across my life The ‘legally blind’ status happened about two years ago. My previous kinky partners found me! But it’s been some time now and I’m not really sure what to do. My confidence has taken a real knock since my vision has decreased further.

March 20

First you will sign up for a blind vocational training, which you already do ! Then use the training, but your issue is you don’t live alone so you have nowhere to have your little chamber, till you got your own spot

March 20

35 minutes ago, dickenxcyder said:

First you will sign up for a blind vocational training, which you already do ! Then use the training, but your issue is you don’t live alone so you have nowhere to have your little chamber, till you got your own spot
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You’ve made a lot of assumptions of me there, friend ;)

March 20

Sensory impairments aren't an area I have a lot of knowledge of but my thoughts...
Could you reach out to the organisers of any munches/clubs to discuss the emvironment/your needs/the lighting? Could they meet you at a designated spot, do a walk round with you so youre familiar with the layout? Could they buddy you up with someone/others until you at least feel comfortable?
Depending on your area, therew laws about accessibility of public buildings and, whilst I know we've got a long way to go in the UK, it's slowly moving in the right direction.

March 20

I’m blind with some limited vision. I get what you’re saying. You kinda just have to throw yourself in because if you don’t, you’ll not get anywhere waiting for other people wondering about interacting with you. You need to make the moves first. Oh and be prepared to fall flat on your face and have a lot of embarrassing moments but own them and learn to laugh at yourself

March 20

A lot of munches & sloshes will encourage new people to reach out to organizers ahead of time and arrive early to be introduced and sometimes paired up with a someone who volunteers to help new people socialize and it has nothing to do with a disability, it's just to help new to the group people feel more comfortable. Some local community groups even have events specifically for new people.

I'd reach out to organizers directly and explain similarly what you've said here.

March 20

1 hour ago, CopperKnob said:

Sensory impairments aren't an area I have a lot of knowledge of but my thoughts...
Could you reach out to the organisers of any munches/clubs to discuss the emvironment/your needs/the lighting? Could they meet you at a designated spot, do a walk round with you so youre familiar with the layout? Could they buddy you up with someone/others until you at least feel comfortable?
Depending on your area, therew laws about accessibility of public buildings and, whilst I know we've got a long way to go in the UK, it's slowly moving in the right direction.
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I’m not very good at asking for those kind of concessions I guess I can ask

March 20

3 minutes ago, PurpleNjoyer said:

I’m not very good at asking for those kind of concessions I guess I can ask

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Please be unapologetically yourself, and embrace any accommodations that may help you reach your goal. There's no shame in being who you are, and organizers kinda have accommodating people as their top priority.
If you don't ask, you may never get. 😉

March 20

Learn. You are going to have to. I did.

March 20

1 hour ago, ravingdrummer said:

I’m blind with some limited vision. I get what you’re saying. You kinda just have to throw yourself in because if you don’t, you’ll not get anywhere waiting for other people wondering about interacting with you. You need to make the moves first. Oh and be prepared to fall flat on your face and have a lot of embarrassing moments but own them and learn to laugh at yourself
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I’m very used to falling over, but I don’t know how to not be really embarrassed by it. That’s something that I’ve never learned or come to terms with. That’s something then doesn’t make me feel confident to talk about kink… other than anonymously online lol

March 20

12 minutes ago, PurpleNjoyer said:

I’m not very good at asking for those kind of concessions I guess I can ask

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You asked a bunch of internet strangers?
I find it odd that, on a regular basis, people here ask for guidance, and when they receive it, it's instantly dismissed.
What are you planning on doing in future years? You say that you have a deteriorating sight loss. The assumption being that at some point, you'll not be able to see well enough to shop, read labels to prepare meals, be unable to read correspondence, be unable to see when clothing is dirty, be unable to use appliances, orientate yourself when out in the community (as examples) are you not going to ask for support or accept it when its offered?

March 20

Obviously I do not dare to give tips regarding your impacted eyesight. But something that might be interesting and also very inclusive in your case is sense play. Usually it doesn't require sight since we often reduce ourselves and others to that. But being able to just feel touches, different materials and temperature and all without relying on what we see but what we hear, feel, taste, smell and therefore sense is a kinky side you might like to explore since it's not restricted for you or your partner(s) and also an option to be feeling like on a level

March 20

Look what I was trying to say is yes if you feel uncomfortable then start softly at home inviting friends

March 22

Your other senses must be heightened though. Maybe that is your superpower!

Saturday at 10:52 AM

On 3/22/2025 at 3:23 AM, tigress897 said:

Your other senses must be heightened though. Maybe that is your superpower!

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@tigress897 it’s definitely mine 😈

Saturday at 11:45 PM

Thursday at 09:00 PM, CopperKnob said:

You asked a bunch of internet strangers?
I find it odd that, on a regular basis, people here ask for guidance, and when they receive it, it's instantly dismissed.
What are you planning on doing in future years? You say that you have a deteriorating sight loss. The assumption being that at some point, you'll not be able to see well enough to shop, read labels to prepare meals, be unable to read correspondence, be unable to see when clothing is dirty, be unable to use appliances, orientate yourself when out in the community (as examples) are you not going to ask for support or accept it when its offered?

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How is me accepting someone’s advice… me dismissing it? I said id ask and I’ve already sent a message to the admin of my local munch. Also, cheers for explaining my disability back to me; that was… very helpful 😒

Saturday at 11:48 PM

20 hours ago, tigress897 said:

Your other senses must be heightened though. Maybe that is your superpower!
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I’m not so sure if that’s true. Personally, my hearing is really good, but I think of it more as ‘necessity’ over considering it a superpower

Saturday at 11:55 PM

Thursday at 10:04 PM, Hucklepuck said:

Obviously I do not dare to give tips regarding your impacted eyesight. But something that might be interesting and also very inclusive in your case is sense play. Usually it doesn't require sight since we often reduce ourselves and others to that. But being able to just feel touches, different materials and temperature and all without relying on what we see but what we hear, feel, taste, smell and therefore sense is a kinky side you might like to explore since it's not restricted for you or your partner(s) and also an option to be feeling like on a level
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Yeah! I’ve tried this in the past and really enjoyed it. I had a partner that owned a air of noise cancelling headphones - it was a lot of fun, I can recommend this