Accepting a weight gain kink

[Deleted Member]

I have always had a fascination with the idea of myself or women gaining some weight (fat) nothing extreme but a version of feedism, and always felt so much shame around it. I've found it hard to accept and know how to navigate it as I am really into fitness and health and value my body,.and I love being athletic. Plus the desire does come and go depending on mood. It's always been so confusing as there have been times the desire even makes me think about gaining weight intentionally, nothing extreme, but moments later I don't want to anymore if that makes sense. Until the cycle repeats. Has anybody got any advice or felt similar ?

[Lo****]

After analyzing your post, here’s a few shotgun questions that might help you understand this for yourself more
Do you attach a part of your self worth to your fitness?
Does gaining weight scare you?
Do you like the idea for the shape and feel of the body? Or is it more abstractly tied to growth and gain?
Do you feel like you shouldn’t have this kink?

Remember, your feeling are all valid and worthy of your compassion, it’s okay if there’s some *** or shame mixed in to heal

[Lo****]

Also, yes I fucking love weight gain

[la****]

You look fine to us.

[Di****]

1. Self-Worth and Body Perception
The inquiry regarding whether one’s self-worth is intrinsically tied to their fitness invites a profound reflection on the relationship between physicality and identity. For many, the pursuit of fitness extends beyond the tangible outcomes of strength or aesthetics, often serving as a vehicle for discipline, control, and personal validation. When self-worth becomes entangled with the maintenance of a particular physique, deviations—such as weight fluctuations—can trigger feelings of inadequacy or ***. Acknowledging this entanglement is the first step toward untangling self-worth from external conditions, allowing space for a more holistic and compassionate understanding of oneself.
2. Desire, Shape, and Growth
The distinction between appreciating the physical form of the body and deriving fulfillment from the process of growth and mastery is a subtle yet significant one. Some derive satisfaction from the aesthetic ideal, the symmetry and power embodied in a well-maintained physique, while others are driven by the journey—the incremental progress, discipline, and resilience cultivated through the pursuit of improvement. Recognizing which of these drives is dominant can illuminate deeper motivations and desires, helping to clarify whether the attraction lies in the tangible form or the intangible transformation. Both perspectives are valid, yet understanding their nuances provides clarity and cultivates a healthier relationship with one’s body and goals.
3. Navigating Desire and Internal Conflict
The acknowledgment of desires, particularly those that deviate from conventional norms, can often evoke feelings of guilt or shame. However, these emotions, while uncomfortable, are not indicators of wrongdoing but rather signals pointing toward unexplored aspects of the self. To deny or suppress these desires risks fostering internal conflict, whereas approaching them with curiosity and compassion opens the door to integration and self-acceptance. Embracing these complexities without judgment enables authentic growth, allowing individuals to align their actions and values more harmoniously. Ultimately, it is through this compassionate inquiry that one can transcend guilt and cultivate a deeper sense of self-awareness and fulfillment.