Dates

[tr****]

So what's everyone's go to date meet up? Any fun story's! Please share 🙌🏼

[do****]

I like dinner and then maybe some shopping. I had this one date where she brought me into the dressing room. That was a great memory

[Ke****]

The best initial meet up is to meet at a coffee shop, wine bar or bar & grill for a drink and to chat to vet each other. If it goes well, set up a more formal date or meet for a BDSM scene.

Another option is meeting at a fetlife event, where vetting each other is common practice, and the event provides a "safe" place to meet until you feel you can really trust the other person to meet up "solo" for dates or scenes.

[No****]

Initial meet-up should always be something easy - walking around a park, coffee shop, bottle shop, bar, etc. Fully public, low commitment, safe, and allowing for both people (or more) to vet each other and make sure they all get along. Second meetings, are whatever is mutually decided based on that first meeting.

[ba****]

Well, whatever I choose or where ever I go it never works, because I never get asked back for a second date 🙈. Normally a coffee or a walk outside if the weather is nice

[Ha****]

Take a walk on a public trail or go get a coffee for sure. Both of those things are fun and simple and it's easy to bail if it turns out I've just met an axe ***er.

[sl****]

Most the time I just have them come over and have them cover over. Sometimes I'll pick them up. The best one took 3 hours to her place and 3 hours back. 6 hour round trip. When I got her to my house she didn't want to stop and kept begging for more. She was suppose to spend the night. I woke up and she said her baby daddy will be here soon to pick her up. Kinda weird but what ever. She was a freak in a good way.

[Ca****]

Coffee or a pool hall (if both like to play pool).

[ch****]

Yeah always vibe check first. Also for all the guys reading this, can we please stop sending creepy messages to women? You're ruining the experience for everyone on here. Let's practice consent. Build trust first.

[Ja****]

Typically, set up a casual meet & greet. Somewhere public... talking over tea/coffee shop or over light food.

[DP****]

We met because she wanted to play out a CNC scenario. She showed up to my house I showed her my std test results real quick and 5 minutes later we were pretending that she heard a noise downstairs and came down to check it out. On the way back upstairs is when I followed her in the dark and we acted out the rest.

[ra****]

Tacos!!! Best way to lure me out of the house local taco shop maybe a walk around a park or coffee is a decent alternative option. Somewhere quit enough to talk and get to know each other

[dm****]

The dumpster!!!

[St****]

I'm kind of old-school about it I guess, your typical coffee or dinner, with an option to go see a movie or something afterward if things go good. I think even when you're kinky it's really important to show your respective partners that you do care about getting to talk to them and know them in an environment that feels safe and respectful and conducive to knowing the person.

[ba****]

Anywhere there's alcohol in music

[Th****]

I used to enjoy meeting at munches. But ever since I was thrown under the bus for liking ***, I pick a coffee shop

[Sw****]

I like to be wined & dined. I like going to galleries, concerts etc.

[Ed****]

@themacabrebrat I feel that. I used to try munches as a way to meet people but I found them pretty terrible overall here. Granted it's been a decade so many the community has changed but I'm still pretty hesitant

[Co****]

Top 5
- Under canal bridge.
- Motorway layby.
- Top of windy cliffside.
- Vehical Scrapyard.
- The Sewers.