What is this place?

[Mi****]

  1 hour ago, TMac007 said:

I agree. I sent out the wrong message when I started. I caught on quickly. I have respected women in my entire life. I'm older than dirt so it's been a long time. I have stepped between a man and a woman when needed.
Question? How the hell are we supposed to start up a chat? I have tried short, long, and compliments. We don't have much to go on if the profile is not filled in.
Any ideas from anyone.

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If a profile isn't filled in, I won't message 🤷‍♀️ I feel that's a red flag on itself

[Julianubr]

It’s pretty concerning now I used to work in cybersecurity and I just join yesterday and already caught 2 high detail scammers- wild- not a real person yet I believe all the ***ps that connected with me are or bots or scammers that are also bots lol

[Mi****]

Gosh. I was worried about how this would be received. My heart ♥️♥️♥️

[Julianubr]

If smell like fish it could be really a fish lol

[cu****]

Unfortunately there are a lot of trash men out there. Even on other apps. I was married for a long time and had never used a dating app until 2 years ago. The stories I've heard about how other men act blows my mind. Every woman I have ever gone on a date with I've talked to about it and they all have horror stories. I don't get it either. I think that guys that act like that and say they are kinky aren't actually kinky. They just assholes that get off on being dickheads. They don't get that in any relationship, regardless of the level of kink, respect comes first. Even in a dom/sub dynamic there is respect. They're unable to separate kink and ***. They think that if a woman wants to be dominated that she wants to be treated poorly. They don't realize that domination is a form of taking care of her. My gf and I do some wild stuff to each other in the bedroom but in public we seem as vanilla as can be and treat each other with a lot of respect.

[ro****]

Thank you

[mo****]

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[Ar****]

This

[Bi****]

I love you Char. This was never a dating app for me. I know it technically is. It is marketed as a kinky dating app in the App Store. The vast majority of people in general have a seriously warped perception of what kink is about, much less power exchange. This isn’t Kinky Fuck Slut Tinder. That’s regular Tinder. If you came here for easy women, you’d have much better luck there.

Subs are not promiscuous. They are not impressed with your dick. If you don’t know what a power dynamic is, it’s probably not for you. It’s the deepest of connections, far deeper than most are capable of.

I don’t discourage anyone from learning about the lifestyle. It’s going to take quite a bit of research and hopefully some guidance before you can make a decision about whether this is for you. Being a Dom requires being able to handle the responsibility of a Sub placing their trust in you.

If you came here looking for care free kinky sex, you came to the wrong place. Being a Dom is one of the most mentally and emotionally taxing things I do. The payoff is the deepest connection you can have with another human being, souls colliding, an embrace of energy stronger than any orgasm and a reset that will change your life.

Dommin’ ain’t easy though y’all.

[TM****]

I have an essay. It is completely filled in.

[ic****]

  1 hour ago, BigRedRooster said:

I love you Char. This was never a dating app for me. I know it technically is. It is marketed as a kinky dating app in the App Store. The vast majority of people in general have a seriously warped perception of what kink is about, much less power exchange. This isn’t Kinky Fuck Slut Tinder. That’s regular Tinder. If you came here for easy women, you’d have much better luck there.

Subs are not promiscuous. They are not impressed with your dick. If you don’t know what a power dynamic is, it’s probably not for you. It’s the deepest of connections, far deeper than most are capable of.

I don’t discourage anyone from learning about the lifestyle. It’s going to take quite a bit of research and hopefully some guidance before you can make a decision about whether this is for you. Being a Dom requires being able to handle the responsibility of a Sub placing their trust in you.

If you came here looking for care free kinky sex, you came to the wrong place. Being a Dom is one of the most mentally and emotionally taxing things I do. The payoff is the deepest connection you can have with another human being, souls colliding, an embrace of energy stronger than any orgasm and a reset that will change your life.

Dommin’ ain’t easy though y’all.

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Wow you are so right I’m learning the toll it takes on you more and more

[Birble]

  3 hours ago, Lady_King said:

Unfortunately.. just like any other dating app. People went here just for hookups and most just want to try a ‘freaky’ sex. Full of people who arent actually kinky per se. Just bunch and bunch of horndogs who doesnt know how to treat other human with respects. And they thought they could get away with it and justified it just bcs theyre on a ‘kink’ app. Exhausting.

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Exhausting is absolutely it!!! 😞🙁

[Birble]

Maaaan, why can't we save topics/awesome posts on this site?! I wanna pin this on my profile somewhere so I can wave it at all the ninnies, wannabes and ickies that land in my inbox asking me inappropriate questions and making all manner of assumptions about me before interacting with me in any way whatsoever 🙄😒🥺

Fanku for writing this and articulating what I cannot. 🫂 xxx

[Birble]

  2 hours ago, Lady_Char said:

Gosh. I was worried about how this would be received. My heart ♥️♥️♥️

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I'm glad the response has been positive 🙏🤗 Thank you for posting it, tis 👌

[be****]

100% accurate 👌

[Mu****]

I repeatedly encounter people, mostly women that are very demanding of photos and rude to me. This is after I make a polite approach. Most of my messages never get read. If someone doesn’t do either of the above, they say I’m not their type, then ghost.
Maybe it’s a string of bad luck. But I do lead with kindness, so I guess it’s good to know I shouldn’t try a more graphic approach.

[Acanthrite]

If I’m honest, I’m not even sure what this app is for sometimes. I have reached out to many woman on here, and tried many ways of talking to them (mostly nice and with a lot of respect) and I have only ever been ghosted or immediately blocked.

So I’m literally days away from closing my account because it’s been a complete waste of time IMO

[Bi****]

The more submission, the more trust required. Insane how some people don't understand that.

[B00mer63]

Have recently returned on here after a few years away from this site, and boy has it changed, there are a fair few s types on here that I have spoken to, however there are far more fake accounts, ghosters and generally accounts that just like to post random pics but not engage with anyone.

I have found recently that my account, has been bombarded with blocked accounts, profiles from north America🤷 and these are vanilla women how does that even work🤦.

Luckily I have made contact with a genuine s type on here, so don't give up.

[Da****]

It is a sex app! What idiot thinks theyre coming on to this app to find a husband, unless you're absolutely compatible with in the lifestyle.

[Bo****]

It goes both ways. I've received several messages from female users asking for that kind of treatment without forming any kind of trust, relationship, or vetting.

I just spanked a 19 y/o complete newbie to the scene who wanted someone sub 25, informed her that despite her completely valid preference, asking for someone with the sexual and emotional maturity to not exploit her vulnerability was a tall order and to be careful. She blocked me before I could send the message.

This is obviously an indictment on the no doubt deplorable treatment this young lady probably received through messages but also highlights the naivety and carelessness of others.

Everyone needs to do better, for themselves and others.

[Mu****]

This app honestly makes me feel like ***. The women on here are so mean to me any time I log in.

[ge****]

  6 hours ago, Julianubr said:

A lot of bots and scammers too lol

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  5 hours ago, TMac007 said:

Exhausting is weeding through the woman scammers.

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  5 hours ago, dadbod101 said:

The women scammers is absolutely insane and it's on every single app I've tried

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Yes but this thread isn't about bots or scammers or fakes or any of the things that are easily avoidable if you have an ounce of common sense, and are no more than a minor irritant if you use that common sense to avoid them.

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This thread is about the very real, and vile, threat posed by *some* men to users of this site that they have to put up with daily - the abusive and constant messages that make the assumptions the OP refers to, the threats of *** and worse, the predators, the stalkers, those who *do* think just because someone is on this site they must be easy somehow.

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So please don't try and make this thread about something that it's not - there are many many threads that discuss scammers, bots, fakes etc - if you want to discuss (and possibly be educated) those things go find those threads and don't try and turn a very real and frightening situation into something it's not.

[bu****]

agreed lots of fake accounts and the rest are very rude

[ge****]

  4 minutes ago, bunney said:

agreed lots of fake accounts and the rest are very rude

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But this thread isn't about that!!