Bi Curious and struggled

[WL****]

I went to a swingers club with my female bestie, we both nervous approached the bar and I was immediately greeted by an Italian couple looking for a man to join them for their first threesome,
I said yes immediately they where both incredibly good looking and I was instantly hard . Long story short during the threesome when she was on my face her husband took. Me in his hand and teased me with his tongue, when the time was right he took me deep in his mouth and I was so turned on I shot my load and it was an amazing feeling
I thought I was straight but I can't stop thinking about this and need to explore my bisexual side , I am attracted to men and need advice on the best way to do this I'm 44 and feel awkward and my friends wouldn't understand

[fo****]

You shouldn’t feel awkward however I understand the concerns. If your friends don’t understand maybe consider if they are true friends. At the end of the day, not everyone has to understand what you like, it’s your life. Live it and enjoy it. Sounds like you had an amazing time and should definitely keep having fun!

[Du****]

I agree with what she says exactly!

[Go****]

I felt incredibly awkward when I first realised I was bisexual. It felt like I had a neon sign above my head, declaring it to the world.
The biggest thing I found helped, other than time to get used to the realisation, was making friends who were non judgmental. I don’t bother telling people that aren’t close to me - there’s no need - and if I tell someone and they do judge me, they’re not my friend.

It sounds as though you had a fantastic first experience, but haven’t said whether your bestie knows. If she does, could you perhaps ask for her support and go back there?
Most of all, be safe and have fun!

[ki****]

My advice would be to crack on with it! Thier is a whole swinging community of couples looking, for just that in a man, if that's what you like embrace it! If your mates don't be ashamed, that's their problem. You should just enjoy what you like you will make new friends while doing what you enjoy! We certainly have embraced our enjoyment in threesomes with sexy single females! And it's been amazing! Made some great friends along the way too 😀

[La****]

Finding acceptance is very difficult, you being the one in search of it requires people knowing. I've been rejected by people i thought would be open minded and accepted by those I would not have expected it from. First learn to love that side of you, trust that true friends might feel awkward, maybe even betrayed, but a true friend will always come around to rational thought. Good luck!!!

[Em****]

Enjoy it. Feel it. Be happy to keep yourself true and happy. For you.

[Va****]

Awesome. I'm at the other side. Gay but now I'm the same age as you, and curious about a mmf threesome too

[Os****]

I’m on yet another side. My fwb is queer and we club in LA at a swingers joint where everyone assumes full swap is the move…but she is only into ladies…and me. We need to find a gay and straight (all humans being humans) swing club. Any recommendations for LA?

[SK****]

Would love to join in if your still looking 😈😈

[bl****]

I really enjoyed that story and you're so handsome

[Mi****]

How do you feel about trans females?

[Yo****]

I’ve recently stated to open up to my bi-curiosity but for me, it leans towards men who present more feminine. I’ve not had the opportunity to explore this side of me, and maybe never will even though it’s something I’d really like too. 

Some friends may not be understanding and that’s fine by me, I’d like to be open to all my friends about my desires but I’ve had to pick and choose who I shared this with, not everyone is as open and understanding.

[Chucky6969]

Recently I have found that I am attracted to men as well as women. I would love to explore this idea of me but I am married and I do not want to split with my wife.  She has become more conservative over the years and as she has withdrawn in the bed my desires have become more diverse.  I want to explore my sexual feelings but I also want to respect my marriage. How do I do this?

[La****]

@Chucky6969 When I met my wife I was trying to live my life as 100% male, ignoring my trans side, long story, but in the end denying my trans side caused me severe depression and I could no longer live the lie. Yes, being honest did cost me my marriage, but the feeling of freedom and self-love I've gained far outweighed the *** of loss. Carefully weigh your options, if your marriage is making you happier than you could be being your true self, then stay the course, but don't wait till your bitter about not being able to live your life to make that decision.

[Yo****]

@Chucky6969 I finally opened up to my wife. We’ve had a pretty vanilla relationship for 27 years but I had these other wants that were unfulfilled, and keeping them hidden took its toll on my mental health, and also the marriage itself.

It took a long time to build the courage to say anything but I told her about my desires to explore kink about a year ago, then about my bi-curiousity a few months ago.

We’re not sure how we can work on this together but we are trying.

i think you also need to be open and honest about what you want, respecting your marriage is admirable, but you also need to respect yourself, and have just as much right to be happy. Speak to your wife and see how you can move forward together , if you can’t, you may have a decision to make. 

[Yo****]

Also, if you do have this conversation with her, give her time to digest what you have said. You very well may get a negative reaction at first so be patient and give her time to work through it in her mind. 

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